don;t hold back!!!!

little argument this morning with dh(he works evening sghift ,we have 3 kids at home!!!)

it was around 11 am,he comes to teh LR where I was taking care of our youngest child,doing some art stuff and tell me to just follow him.i oblige and he plops himself on our bed and wants me to(no no not that..... ) watch TV ,it was a show on nostradamus(since nostradamus is French ,he thought i knew everything on him,i don;t believe in his predictions.... ).something i could care less.I watched it for a few mn ,and left.way too boring for me.he was upset that I din;t watch it with him,he told me i needed to give him respect on that subject . he was so upset ,he locked the bedroom door for several hours .and got ready for work and left without a word to me.giving me the cold shoulder!!!!he had to come back home ,cause he forgot something(i ususally get everything ,i mean everything for hime ready!!!)

usually he clals me 20 times from work ,today not once!!!

did i do anything wrong ? do you watch something on Tv that you don;t care about because you SO likes to?

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I'm sorry, I have to say this, Men can be so stupid and childish.

IMO...(I hate having to say that lol) You didn't really do anything wrong, he wanted attention. That is probably what it boiled down to. THEN to make matters worse, he acted silly, he probably knows that, now that he's taken a stand, he can't back down. Pride, you know! Maybe you should have stayed and watched the program, but it probably is something else, don't you think?

....I wasn't necessarily calling your husband stupid......please don't be offended....

Don't you just hate those arguments that you're not quite sure what they are about??? lol

I totally agree with momrajum's take on it - he realized he was being childish/irrational, but is too proud to back down.

Rather than admit how ridiculous he was acting, he seems to be trying to make it seem deeper - probably implying that "you don't understand," since it really is impossible to understand.

I agree - I think it's a guy thing. This is probably going to have to be an "offer the olive branch" sort of ending than a specific apology for a specific behavior. I just hope HE'S the one offering the olive branch...

Stay strong - Let us know what happens!!!

I refuse to watch any TV show that I don't like.
I don't watch very much TV so I am on your side.

Would he watch a show that YOU picked if he didn't care for it??

I wish my bf would invite me to watch TV with him in bed.I could tolerate any TV show for the attention.Except FOOTBALL! Now THAT would give me a migraine!

I don't agree with his behavior but it's obvious he likes spending time with you, values your opinion and maybe wanted to share in watching this show. He was hurt that you took no interest and responded accordingly.

Not excusing it but maybe if you saw it from his side and looked past that anger you'll understand why he reacted the way he did. Maybe give it time and when he's ready to talk be prepared to listen with that in mind.

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The very first thing that popped into my head reading your post was just what momrajum said. He's wanting attention and missing spending time with you.

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Get it from the horse's mouth--ask him why he got so upset. Let him talk it out. Good luck!

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OK- first- offer the branch- "Hon, Sorry I hurt your feelings when I didn't watch the show but I was distracted with the kids and it just isn't MY thing. How would you feel if I asked you to watch a cooking show or a style make-over show? Would you watch the entrie show?". Then --walk away and let him mull it over. If he doesn't get him he is a typical male ---dumb as a rock . Don't get into a discussion over it. How old is he?

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TOO FUNNY, I just watched a STUPID show on pyramids that DH WANTED to watch, I'm sitting on the couch, THINKING, he is REALLY interested in this stupid show, well what ever, he is interested, let him watch it. I was THINKING I didn't say it out loud I sat and watched it with him because he HAS MANY TIMES sat through shows he has NOT wanted to watch but did, because I wanted to.
So, no comment from me, just what I did for DH because what he has done for me

I've been married 33 years. Honey, he wants to spend TIME with you. He didn't want the kids around but wanted YOU around. Who cares what the show was about . Yes, he was childish about it after you got up but you probably hurt his feelings.

I would definitely talk to him about it. Obviously he feels he needs more time with you. Maybe talk about compromise and watching a movie together.

Just this afternoon (DH was home off work today) and he wanted me to sit down and watch a movie with him in the middle of the day. (I don't watch movies in the middle of the day -- I DO things in the middle of the day like wash clothes, clean the floors, get on MyCoupons, just busy work). BUT because we don't get to spend middle of the days together much, I said OK! So we watched the movie together. Did it bother me? At first I actually felt guilty about sitting down but then enjoyed it!! Then he took me to dinner afterwards, too!!

So what I'm saying is -- remember what's important in marriage. Long after your kids are gone off to college and married, it will be just you and DH.

you were right ,he just wanted to spend time with me!!!
not only HE offered the olive branch ,but he brought teh whole darn tree with him!!!!I bit my tongue...and let him do the talking!!
but we spend a lot of time together,just before the incident ,we had spent about 1hr just the 2 of us lauging and jokind iun bed before teh kids woke up!!!

I don';t really watch TV during the day (when he is home),but when we do watch tv,he usually falls asleep.
poor guy ,he came home a 11.40pm and we made up and 11.50 pm he had a phone call to go back to work.he came back home a 6am!
I just came back to see him(40 mn ride each way!) he forgot his cell phone at home!!!and all is fine in my neighborhood!!!

thanks for trying ot explain to me how their brain works....

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we only have 14 years of marriage under our belt!!!
mom2 twins,I understand you point of view.We spend a lot of time together,just the 2 of us(going to the movies,restaurants,walking ....),but that's the funny thing .we put each other first ,before the kids!!

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Just another thought........to please him back and show some interest, you could go to your local library. Our library has a few books on Nostradamus, and a couple of movies on him. It wouldn't cost you any money and he'd be happy that you took an interest.

You could get movies and books for the kids and yourself too!

Can you tell I work at a library?????

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Figure out how their brains work hahaha ! I have 24 years under my belt but knew him for 29, I am JUST getting to figure it out ! he loves me to death and will do anything for me, that is why when the "stpuid" tv shows come on, I watch them and sit next to him and keeps saying, 'he just took me to the shore, he just took me to the shore" it works!

Glad it worked out for you. I have also found that men like it when you just share the couch with them, watching a game or something they are interested in. Sometimes you don't have to even be watching, just there reading a book or something.

Men, such confusing little creatures talking in code.

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