FOr those of you who have taken this stance, wish me luck.... any words of advice?

No real words of advice except to say good luck stick with it no matter what and this too shall pass !

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I'm in the midst of it wtih my oldest "kid". She's 26 and continues to make bad decisions. Just stick to whatever you say........we have to no matter how guilty we feel.

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I'm right there with ya. I have a 16 year old that wouldn't bring his grades up last year so I refuses to sign for him to get his permit. Now he has a new car sitting in the drive way (b-day present) that he can't drive. He knows what to do to get to drive it, it's completely up to him. I'm not budging.

Dh put the top down an occassionally go for a cruise. he he

Stay strong! They'll get it soon hopefully.
Laura

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I took a huge step today and shut off a cell phone that my mom is paying for. He hung up on her yesterday, called her a B*tch, threw a set of keys at his other grandmother. Then when I called to try to talk to him he called me a F*cking B*tch. and hung up on me.

Well the phone went off....

Sorry you're having to go through this. I trust you're doing more than shutting off the cell phone?

I like dr phil's idea of taking everything out of their room and making them earn it back. good luck!

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He lives with his paternal grandparents. He didnt like the rules in my house so he went to dads. Didnt like the rules at dads so he went to grandparents. SPent 30 days in DH, where he fooled everyone into thinking he changed. The PO and the judge BOTH said he did so well they were going to waive his house arrest that was supposed to happen once he got out.
He is right back to where he started. Not listening, breaking curfew, not following rules, nothing... Calling people names, running the streets. The other night I dropped him off at grandparents and he walked in one door and right out the other.. It is just amazing how damn stupid I was when he was in the detention home. I fell for all the games!

How old is that sweetheart?

Good luck!!!

17 on the 6th of september

OK - you fell for it, any "good" Mom falls for some lies every now and then (esp. when they first start that crap). But now you are more "worldly" and probably wouldn't believe him if he told you that the sky is blue. Good. He really needs to take responsibility for his actions and words. If he has to go back to DH, maybe that's what it takes. I am so sorry you have to go through this!!! You are a strong woman, taking the cell away shows that.
BTW, can you tell that I work with challenged HS kids all day long?

wow sounds familar not with my kids but a relatives child last year she was also 16-17 yrs old when her dad shut off her cell phone because she had done the same thing she had her mom get her another she lived with mom so she played them against each other like all kids do I suppose. The little angel just got a wake up call though & has turned around 180degrees!!!

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Do whatever it takes to straighten his little butt around!
Be tough.
Be strong.
Cry when you have to, scream when you have to, but don't give in!!!

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I feel for you as I know from personal experience how hard this is for you. My child pulled the move back and forth thing because I had rules and even went so far as to tell horrible lies about me. It is so hard when your kid is an amazing storyteller/liar that people believe the stories and expect you to prove that they are lies. I will say a prayer for you.

I'm sorry that you're having to go through this. I really am.

He's 17, (close enough). You need to emancipate him. The grandparents need to cut him off, and let him figure out that the world is a big bad thing and he's not nearly as smart as he thinks he is. It's going to get much worse before it gets any better.

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ITA- He probably thinks he knows it all, and doesn't need any of you. I feel bad that you & your family are having to go through this right now!