I believe that wives should cover up, even when they nurse their babies in their husband's presence.

...husbands should not be staring at the actual delivery. That is just too erotic a part of a wife's anatomy for it to become a mere birth canal.

Obviously, breast-feeding is not the same as carrying on an extramarital affair. But when a mother gives her breasts to her son and takes them away from her husband, the effect on the marriage can feel the same.


What kind of a "man" would make these comments? A Rabbi. The Shalom in the Home guy.

This is not to say that breast-feeding should not be practiced. It is instead to say that it should always remain subordinate to the romantic and passionate needs of a marriage.

So some guy's need to get it on should override his child's need for nourishment?

Is it just me or it this whole article disgusting, ignorant and an insult to women? Maybe its just me.

Can Breast-Feeding Hurt Your Marriage? Rabbi Shmuley Boteach Thinks So in His New Book, 'Kosher Adultery' -- Beliefnet.com

We need a puking smilie.

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Raising my baby RIGHT!!!!!!

All the cool babies are wearing cloth!

I have a puking smilie!

I love his book on America's war on women Great book.....and the Private Adam is in my collection just haven't gotten around to reading it.

I haven't read the book you are commenting on but, he is very conservative when he is speaking about men and the sexual aspect of marriage. He believes that a woman body parts should never be on display for anyone. and not even when you are out with your husband. I know of several men that said watching their wives give birth to their own children ruined it for them. Thank G-D my husband loved every minute of all three deliveries!! And he loved watching me breastfeed! He thought it was very natural. That being said I wasn't flopping my boob out in public every five minutes.

The Rabbi is like anyone else you would take advice from......you take it if you want to and you don't if you don't want to. I think he gives out great advice but, I don't agree with him on everything.

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TLJ Women united in Spirit!

The snippets you quote do sound bad, but when read in THE CONTEXT in which they were written, make some very good sense. Basically, one of his points seems to be that a woman shouldn't be so dedicated to breastfeeding that her husband feels neglected. It ssems that he may be against extended breastfeeding as well....

I think, with all "professional" advice givers you have to take what they say WITHIN THE CONTEXT in which they give the advice.

OP when you took the snippets out of context they can be construed in a multitude of ways---but if you read the entire two page article I think the meaning and point he's trying to get across is ENTIRELY different from what you are trying to portray it as..

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I have never read anything he has written, but have heard him a few times on TV, not much though. I think he has a whole new point of view from the usual advice people out there right now and some of his ideas I can use in my life and some I just ignored, like this one. Just like you said, you don't have to listen and believe everything you hear, but it is good to hear different opinions, to make you think differently than maybe you would have about something before.

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Who is he.I've never heard of him.

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I never was worried about DH seeing my erotic parts during childbirth..lol..it was my innards when I had the C's that I thought he should skip...I was knocked out anyway...I figured he had no problem looking at the *erotic* parts when we got pregnat...lol...I don't get someone watching childbirth and not being able to look at their wives in a sexual way again...If that throws them off their game, they have other issues to begin with...
Real men can handle childbirth...if my DH who gags at everything can do it anyone can..roflmao..besides, they never ask us women if we have the gag factor when we give birth..it is just expected...

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Jean-Marc-Gaspard Itard