Hi all,

Is there any grandparents on here raising their grandkids? I have had one of my grandsons since birth...Love him to death..He is now 10 years old.... I am finding out more and more everyday that there are quite a few grandparents raising kids... My daughter was to young when she had him and couldnt handle it...... (my choice to take him) So.... What do you think? Good or bad? He is definatley spoiled.......


Zeek

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I'm raising the granddaughter of some friends of mine. Same thing I guess. I've had her since Jan. and I"ve loved every minute of it, except having to deal with mom. Faith is 13 months old and has made my empty nest not so empty!! lol I think it is a very commong thing nowdays, although not a very healthy trend.

I believe there are at least a couple my coupners in the same boat, as this subject has surfaced from time to time. I'll be interested in hearing from everyone!

Melissa

Adopted my Grandson when he was a little over 3 years old. Brought him from OKC to Michigan. He's now 20. Love him to death...but being the "parent" rather than the "grandparent" did not allow me the luxury of spoil him, coddle, him, etc. Had to maintain dtrict routines..he is Severe ADHD, but loving, smart, and very special.

Eady? Of course not...but I have never regretted it. It's been a long journey, rocky roads, etc...but it's well worth the sacrifices if done in love instead of duty.

I know a 94 year old raising her great great grand child who is 6. The child doesn't listen and runs wild. I could not imagine being in her position but she really did not have a choice. nobody around to help her. It is not a good situation.

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I, too, am raisig my granddaughter. I've had her since she was a couple weeks shy of 3 years old. She's now 7 1/2. She's VERY ADHD. I have her on medication but she's still bouncing off the wals. I hope the doctor can find some other meds. that will bring her down.
She is my son's daughter. Her mother has absolutely NO mothering skills. She does spend the weekends with them most of the time. I still can't believe how irresponsible they both are.
My biggest concern is what will happen to her if my health fails. I'm diabetic so who knows what that will lead to. Right now it's running too high. THe dr. doubled my dosage but so far that hasn't helped at all.

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Barb


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I can't help but think there are better answers to this problem. Like why don't the great grandparents find loving homes for these kids?? Older ppl are just not in the physical position to raise children, it's really not fair to anyone.

I'm 41 and can surely tell the difference. Faith is an easy kid so far, but it's still harder than when I was in my 20's!

Personally I think this is becoming a serious issue, parents are just not responsible. It's so sad and frightening. What will become of most of these kids??? I think we let these parents off the hood too easily, we are using old standards that just don't fit many of these cases anymore. I know in our case mom is just using us, telling us she's trying to get things together, stringing everyone along. And it's all bull, she lies and lies and lies, so we are all just supposed to wait till what???? Till she decides to quit partying?? TIll she finds some guy who's willing to support them??? And in the meantime, Faith doesn't even know who she is ( she hasn't seen her since June and she turned 1 in Aug) but when she finally pulls it together, however long that takes her, she gets to say, "ok, I'm ready now"???? And do you know, that if that happens, and she proves she's ready, she WILL get her girls back?? No matter how long it's been!!!!

I think we need different rules.........................

I have my 21 month old granddaughter Selena. My daughter moved in with her last year and before we knew it my daughter stopped coming home! Last January my dh and I got guardianship and right now we are in the process of adopting her. My daughter and the father have both signed their rights over voluntariy. My daughter comes around a few times a week to visit her.

A few weeks ago my oldest son, his wife and his 22 month old daughter moved in with us to get back on their feet. Up until then my son was jealous of the fact that Selena was with us fulltime.. Now that he is here he understands that it is more sad then lucky for her. He has sort of become a father figure to her now.

I agree, it is scary how many of us are out there raising our grandkids. In my daughter's case I am praying that she doesn't become pregnant again. She refuses to use birth control.