I was gone today and his sister came over and he gave her a bunch of stuff
i'm afraid to find out what
I know a case of my vitamin water he says "you get it for free" not lately, and not always

very frustrating
I don't mind giving people stuff mainly if I know the truly appreciate it
but I thought It was rude he did this without me here or asking me
Would this frustrate anyone else?
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I don't stockpile very much, but I don't see a problem with DH giving away some of a stockpile to his sister. We don't have a his money, my money situation when it comes to purchases. IF the sister doesn't like you or is unappreciative then it could be a problem, but to me it is not worth worrying about.

Nope doesn't bother me a bit. I'm happy to have it go to people that need it. I know I'll get more..

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same here... I only got upset one when a nanny I had took some of my Victoria Secret New panties which I had traded to get the coupons.

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Some things yes, it bothers me a lot. I told him to ask first, but, once when I wasn't home, he gave some stuff away, and used the same line "you get it for free".....he is spoiled, thinks I get everything for free.. I love him.

I feel kinda bad now
But he could have called me or something
we told her to come up over a month and a half ago to get some food and I would have gladly got a bunch of stuff together
and she never did
I would think if she really needed it she would have came then
I am just getting frustrated easily today i guess
Thanks for listening
Suzanne

oh well thats a different story..lol If someone bailed on my when first offered then yes I think I'd be annoyed!

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not really. thats why i have it.to help out folks who need it. we both give it away pretty much all the time to a few people we know who can use it and we both take bunches to the food bank at church on sundays.

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not really. thats why i have it.to help out folks who need it. we both give it away pretty much all the time to a few people we know who can use it and we both take bunches to the food bank at church on sundays.

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Yes my dh knows not to mess with my stockpile I made it clear along time ago if its someone I want to help which in my case I am willing to help one of my dh's sisters out & I have alot gave her tons of baby stuff I got free after coupons but their is other people in his family in which I wouldnt but I have made it loud & clear dont mess with my stockpile I work hard for that just like he works hard for his job

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I don't have the room to seperate our regular groceries from "Stockpile" he just gave her whatever he seen I am sure
When we lived somewhere with three bedrooms I had all the extras in one room that i had tons of and wouldn't miss

But now we only have 2
but he thinks its all free
So I am sure he gave her some groceries specially bought without coupons too
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Suzanne
I feel like sh** for being mad but I can't help it maybe I am selfish and thats aweful
Thank you eveyone for telling me how you would feel

Don't feel bad!
I would be mad too! I think I should be the one to give things away! I am the shopper and the cook!
I do give lots of stuff away but I am picky who I give to and what I give.

I don't feel as guilty now
It is alot of work and I don't think alot of people realize it
That frustrates me

Ditto for us; DH is really good about asking about what we should give, though. He doesn't just take stuff without us talking about it first. Plus, he does the delivery work to the recipients with whom we're acquainted. He's the best!

I get upset when DH does this sometimes, he's always taking things into work or to give to some of his Troops who are having a hard time, and I'm competely fine with that part, what I don't like is him not telling me, so then I go to get something, thinking we have plenty only to find out we have none! I stockpile certain item more out of the idea of not wanting to run out, then because I get deals on them.....with a family of 8 we tend go through a lot of things, especially TP, Papertowels, soaps, shampoos, toothpaste etc...... I do not like to run to the store, just to buy a Toothpaste or TP!

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The only time I got mad/upset with hubby was when something was given to someone BUT I had told them about the sale/free items and they are just too lazy to go to the store to get the bargains themselves. They knew if they came to hubby when I was not home, he would fall for the sob story and give it to them. Let's just say that after I told him the other side of the story, it never happend again.

We are a family of three and yes we can afford to help others out, but my family (and our savings) comes first. I don't work hard at getting good deals to just hand them over to others who don't want to do the same.

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My hubby wouldn't give any of my stockpile stuff away. He usually doesn't even go near it, so he has no idea what all I even have.

I think you should have been the one to decide what to give her or at least been there when she was there.

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I am like you, my dh doesn't know where I have hid it! I don't even tell him any more how much I saved, he wasn't there for the thrill of the hunt! Plus my dh just doesn't get bargain shopping.

Seriously it bothers me when he gives it to his Brother. I have tried to teach them how to coupon and always email them of good deals so why can't they get their own? I work hard couponing and shopping to save money just to have him give all my goodies away. Now if it is somebody who truly needs it then I am all for it. I stock my Sister up all the time but she is single working Mom of 5 girls with NO help from State or Daddy.

My dh would never give it away either without asking me first. But if he did I would be mad. What I have stocked on the shelves is for our family, I try to estimate how much of something I will use before it expires, then I stock up on it. If I buy too much for us then I'll give it away then and not add it to my stockpile.

Dh has come home from work and told me about coworkers going through a hard time and I have gladly loaded up things for them. I do give a lot of things away to burnout victims since dh is on the vol. fire department

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You could always start sharing his "extra" things....

Extra hammers... nails... favorite beverages... even socks, I guess! lol

I did tell him I would give away his new computer or clothes he doesn't wear all the time
I'm ok with it now
Mainly because I don't like not getting along with him =)
Thanks everyone for your honesty
Suzanne

When I talked to him today (we went to bed not talking) He promised me he would never do that again
I just wish people would understand how much work it is sometimes and that grocery shopping isn't always the highlight of my day =)
Suzanne

My husband has never done that, but i would be a little peeved too. I would want to be a part of deciding what to give. My husband has no idea of what I buy or why. We do give stuff away pretty often. I love to share my bargains.

Yes, I think I would be mad. DH doesn't give anything away though, he will always ask me if I can get some stuff together, so it's really not an issue. I like to get it together though, so that I know how much we still have left and of what items. I get alot of coupons, but I trade for coupons I can't get or if I need more of something. I make up alot of food bags for DH's clients (mental health), cause here they can only use the food bank every 90 days and when you only make $500 a month and have to pay bills and only get $80 in food stamps it doesn't go far enough. I'm also in charge of our church food drive at Christmas and I like to make sure certain things get put in those food baskets that other people may not donate (like soap, shampoo, lotion, toothpaste, etc) so I need to make sure I have enough to go in every basket.

NOpe doesn't bother me. I buy for a disabled brother, my household and also for my church's monthly food drive. I have my stuff seperated so if my SO grabs something he is not going to bother the other stuff I buy/get. It makes me feel good to help others.

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It would just depend for me on what it was he gave away. I haven't had a stockpile for awhile but when I did hubby would give things away and I did too sometimes. Nobody really understands the time it can take when you coupon.

It would bother me. My DH has no idea what coupons come out when or how easy it is to get certain things free or cheap. Just because we have a lot of one thing doesn't mean I'll ever be able to do that again. Example - I used to work as a sales rep for a medical supply company and I had 2 cases of latex gloves, which I like to wear when I cut up onions or garlic (which is quite often for our meals), paint, use harsh cleaning chemicals, etc. He gave away a case of the gloves! I don't work for that company anymore, so when I run out, I'm out. I'll have to go out and buy more. That really irritated me. His thought was, "You have plenty". He didn't think about the fact that there was a finite amount and they weren't easy to replace. Other parts of the stockpile are the same. He doesn't shop for it, so he doesn't really know.

EXACTLY !!! THANK YOU
Like the case of Vitamin Water I had that he gave her.
i just happened to find the coupons at CVS months ago
who knows if that will ever happen again
And I woun't pay full price for the waters
I try to explain how much effort goes into it i think hes starting to understand but who knows
I told him
People on the boards mostly find the deals and i go to stores all over looking for them, having the clerk scan them, getting the one coupon per purchase thing alot
He thinks I always enjoy it
NOPE I don't
usually but definately not always
after saving so much , I can never shop regular retail again
Thanks Suzanne