The girls and I ran to the Dollar Tree for a quick trip to get me out of the house, and to get some new coloring books.....while there I ran into another mom that I know from the elementary school.....She for some reason told me that I needed to stop spoiling my girls, I just kind of stood there, a little shocked....then she tells me that buy always dressing them "neatly" and doing their hair, and always having nice bows in their hair that I'm ruining them, with outrageous expectations later on in life....huh?

Is there something wrong me always dressing my girls nice? I make their hair bows because I enjoy it, and yes they do pretty much have a bow to match every outfit, and I make sure they always match from head to toe, but is this spoiling them? I never thought of it that way......

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OMG...The nerve of that "mom"...sounds like a catty comment to me and I would have laughed at her!

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shame on you, I cannot believe your extravagance!!!! First of all, you dress them neatly, second, you actually BRUSH their hair, and THEN you have the audacity to take them to the DOLLAR STORE for brand new coloring books and crayons???????????????????/

sheesh, make the rest of us look bad why don't ya?

I'm just kidding-maybe she was just a bit jealous. Make her a hair bow and tell her where to stick it (but make sure it matches the color of her bunghole first-lol....)

Whoa! Mind Your Own Business! I can't believe someone feels that free to just spout off like that! Did you invite her opinion? I mean I just can't imagine! And no, I don't think you're spoiling them - everything in life is about balance. Too much emphasis on appearances and such, or on the other hand, a total disregard, is not a good thing.

Well sounds like someone is a little jealous.

People need to mind thier own business and worry about thier own kids.

LOL! ok, I admit it, I only buy Crayola.....

though I did let them pick up some crayons today that had Mickey Mouse and the Disney Princess on them.....

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I can't believe she said that to you, either.

I have to admit, I used to fix my girls hair every morning with a bow that matched their outfit. But, they are now 11 and 13 and wouldn't touch a bow with a 10 foot pole! In fact, I donated all the hair stuff a while back. I say enjoy it while you can because eventually they start doing their own hair and then they become teenagers (which isn't so bad...yet...)!

Lisa

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I don't think you are spoiling your kids at all.

I only wish I didn't have to fight with my 5 year old to comb her hair.

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Oh brother. If anything they will present themselves much the same way when they are older and be much prettier than her kids.

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Sounds like she is green with envy.

Yeah, you mean you not only don't have to chase your half-naked kid around the dining room table 3x but they stand still for bows too? And they match after that?

Nothing wrong with you but HER well that is another story. You are first of all teaching them to be conscious of their looks and neatness and second you are the Mom one of the joys of having a child is dressing that child whether like a little doll or like a messy hobo.
When your children grow up they will make their own choices most likely going through phases sometimes maybe messy and not caring about their appearance and other times they will not leave the house without looking what they consider "perfect". Some of this may have to do with PMS LOL but this woman is an idiot if I may say so myself.

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Who OWNS this problem?


Certainly not you! Ignore this woman who MUST be nuts AND envious!

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oh my,what spoiled kids you have.....
hum,my dd who is 5 has plenty of bows ,and of course have to match her outfit.yep I go overboard with that too(even her undies and socks matches!!!!),and to boot,she has very long hair,and I give her a different hairdo everyday.....
when she was a baby ,I would also match her pacifoer with the outfit...
on the other hand ,I have a 13 year old dd...enuf said....

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Spoiled by No Means.. It shows that you take the time out for your children. Now if you let your child go to the store all dirty & hair not comb I would consider that spoiled

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please please please go buy her an ipod and a pony and knock on that moms front door and ask her what she means??

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wow, I don't consider that spoiled at all!

I think it's awesome that you actually take the time to invest in your kids and instill in them that they should look nice in public!

Too often I have seen kids in stores with dirty clothes or no clothes at all, babies with smelly, saggy diapers, and the parents are dressed to the nines.

Kudos to you!!

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That lady was out of line telling you that your kids are spoiled. She has no idea what happens at your house.

That said, I was just talking about this topic with a friend. Some moms at school treat their kids like an accessory. (The better their kids look, the better they look, KWIM?)

I'm not saying that you were doing that, of course, since I have never met you.

Rebecca

My thoughts exactly!

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She sounds like she could fit right in with my signature. Some people have no nerves. I would never say that to anyone. Besides that, what is it any of her business how you dress your children. She does not pay your bills, so why does she think she can put her two cents in. She needs to mind her own business and feel sorry for the children who have to go to school dirty becaues their parents don't care enough to clean them up or can not afford to wash their clothes that often.

My DD, 9, told me the other day "Mom, you know, my underwear doesn't have to match my oufit" I said, of course it does.

Her kid is probably the one spreading lice around school LOL Spoiled? Not even close. Since when is a neat appearance and matching clothes spoiled? Is her idol pigpen from Peanuts? geesh

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"Too often I have seen kids in stores with dirty clothes or no clothes at all, babies with smelly, saggy diapers, and the parents are dressed to the nines."

That drives me absolutely crazy... I have 2 daughters 8 & 5 and I always make sure their hair accessories match their clothes and they are clean. I was one of those little girls with bows in everyday and I hated it, but I like them in my kids hair! The Nerve of that mother to say something to you I agree with another poster and would definately give her a bow for her child!!!

All too often, I find that other moms are the most competitive people on earth.... not to say that all moms are, but in the places I have experienced, certain ones are. I do not mean to offend anyone with that statement, so no flaming, please.

I have yet to find a mommy group where there isn't a few women who keep track of what type of car you drive, what you/your dh does for a living, and how big your house is. It must stem from insecurities because I have never concerned myself with "keeping up with the Joneses" like some people do. It baffles me why some get so preoccupied with the lives of others. Not that I don't have insecurities, cause I do, but I just don't use the "grass is always greener" way of thinking.

That being said, I do live in L.A. which can be a materialistic environment - and maybe that's it.

So... NO, you weren't spoiling your kids... you were being a "parent". God forbid we actually tend to our children... like the other thread talked about being ridiculed for actually cooking a breakfast. If we can't pay attention and actually "care" for our kids without being criticized, what is the world coming to?

My youngest 2 dd's are 2 years apart and I have always dressed them alike... same style clothes, different colors. They always wear clean, non-holed clothing and they always have their hair brushed. I don't do the barrette thing because they just take 'em out when I walk away (LOL!)... but trust me I've tried! I do it from the love in my heart, not to perk up my/my kids' image. Keep doing what you're doing because your kids are all that matters, no what the "other mommies" say. GO MOMMY GO!

WOW!! Is that lady for real?
She sounds too lazy to take as good care of her kids as you do yours. Probably is jealous.

My DD always had her 2 girls all done up with the matching hair bows and the lace on their socks. Everything always matched.
I can tell you that they are now 14 and 17 and are well behaved and well adjusted girls that are on the honor roll. They have continued to dress in good taste.
So keep up the good work and dress them like you have been.

That is nice that you do that for your children. I am sure that they look beautiful!

What an idiot!
I would have laughed out loud at her remark!

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