Have you been in a friends wedding? How much did or do you think is a good amount to spend.. considering attire, parties and gifts?
thanks!

Well, one of my good friends is getting married at the end of this month and, although it's not done yet, I'm guessing this is the way it's going to play out.....

dress - $200
alterations (and I shopped around) - $30
shoes (again, she gave us a choice and I shopped around) - $40
hotel for the night - $120
gift for wedding - $75
gift for lingerie shower/bridal luncheon - $75-$100
hair and makeup for the wedding - $65


Thankfully , we couldn't come up with a weekend that all the girls could make it to NYC for the bachelorette party, so I was able to skip that $500-$750 (at least!!! DH works for AA, which is the only way mine would have been that cheap!!!) Also, the night of the next bachelorette party is DS' birthday, so I'm missing that party. So, all told, I'm spending around $600-$630.

I was in SIL's wedding 2.5 weeks ago
$100 for dress (and that was lucky....it was on sale bought end of year last season)
shoes: $100 (EEEK...that's the bad part)
Hair: $45 (specific up-do wanted by SIL)
gifts: $30 for shower $150 for gift (if it were a friend it would have been $50 for wedding gift)
parties: no cost to me except shower gift as I didn't go to bachlette party

DH had to wear a tux as did DS so that was another $400. Lucikly, MIL made DD's dress and my mom bought her shoes

For a normal wedding I am not a part of, I usually already have something to wear and spend $50 or so on a wedding gift

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My brother got remarried in July in Wisconsin. I found $49 one way to Chicago so it was $200 to fly. We spent $180 for a rental car. We stayed with my parents and son so no cost for hotel. It was a biker wedding (Harley-Davidson) so we could wear jeans. Ate at various family's houses=no cost. Gave my brother $50 for a present (they had a pig roast and did not want presents) Spent about $400 on other activities and food for the 5 days we were there. Saw family=priceless.

I think it personally depends on how close you are with the person whose wedding you are in. If it is one of your best friends, then something a little more nice should be given but if it is just a casual friend who needed an extra bridemaid who you talk to every now and then, then maybe something a little less costly. I think it is a personal choice and should be based on what you feel should be spent. Have fun, as that should be the most important part of being in a wedding.

I've never been in some one else's wedding but when I got married last june my two sisters were my bridesmaids and they didn't pay for anything ( besides a gift - and my younger sister gave us our gift in december lol). I paid for their dresses...they again it was a small wedding and we found the dresses on sale.

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Wow, the last wedding I was in was my cousin's back in 2001. Here is the breakdown:

Dress: $260
Shoes: $40
Hair: $45
Shower Gift: $75
Wedding Gift: $300

I lived too far away to go to the bachelorette party. This makes me glad I am not in a wedding anytime soon!!

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last wedding I was in was 1991. lol
wore jeans and a shirt( outa the closet)
tennis shoes ( same closet)
total cost: 0
they eloped and we went with them to the jp.

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O.k.
Soooo, what do you do if you were asked to be in a wedding and after saying yes, bought the attire, but Now finding out that I might not be able to afford a lot more, on top of giving nice presents for shower and wedding.

whose wedding is it? I would simply explain to the bride (or groom) that you money is tight right now and you don't have a lot extra to spend on gifts and that you hope she/he understands.

Personally, I would never ask someone to be in my wedding if I knew they couldn't afford to be in it...it can be costly. In fact, my SIL paid for her friends dress and shoes so she could be in the wedding. After all, your friend and/or family member should understand and might be able to give you alternatives

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