Hi
If you read my other post regarding the shooting that took place in Crandon Wi. this past weekend, my 14 year old sister was unfortunately one of the victims. My husband, two children, and myself will be driving up for her funeral Sunday night for the funeral on Monday. Weather wise, it's quite chilly up there, (we live in Rockford IL).

Problem...well...money for one. I'm 32, stay at home mom so I have absolutely nothing to wear. I plan on going to Walmart (thanks to a credit card from them) but if I can't find anything there what do I do? I already went to Salvation Army/Goodwill and they have nothing. WHAT do I wear? I haven't been to a funeral in over 5 years.

Thank you so much
Kim

I have unfortunately been to many funerals over the years.....Do not worry about trying to dress in all black, or any black for the matter. Most people tend to stick with darker colors. Even a nice shirt with a dark pair of jeans would be fine if that is all you have. While you might be worried about what to wear the most important thing is that you are there.

I am so sorry for your loss.

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I, on the other hand, have been to many funerals over the past several years. I couldn't tell you what anyone had worn. Keep it muted. Obviously no bright sunny colors, but pants, skirts, jeans, whatever, will do. Just be there. That's what's important.

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I agree,don't worry about what you wear,just be there.
I went to a service a few weeks ago.The family was not dressed in black,but were dressed in clothes that they had been wearing in recent pictures taken with thier dad.It was really nice,as they had a beautiful picture gallery also.
I am truly sorry for your loss.Your family is in my prayers.

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I wear dark dress or dark pants with dark shirt...no need to pay a lot or be fancy

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I never go out to buy anything, nice pants or whatever you have on hand is fine!

When my Father in-law past away and we were tight on funds (I am SAHM), I borrowed an outfit from a friend.

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I did the Walmart thing for clothes. My close friend of the family member died out of the blue. I was very pg and didn't have any dress clothes. I bought some plus sized black outfit with a jacket (since it was sleeveless and it was winter). I looked fine.

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Sorry for your loss. It really isn't like years ago with the all black. Just wear what you have in the Darker side of the Color spectrum. I have even seen immediate family members wear dark slacks with a lighter even white blouse. Your presence is the the best respectful and loving thing at this terrible time for you and your family. Best of Luck

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Being that its your sister's funeral, I think nice slacks in a darker shade are appropriate. If it were anyone else's funeral maybe dark jeans, but not for your sister.

Mom would have hated anyone to wear black at her funeral <and of course that's what her parents did along with some other things mom would have hated> men side of dad's family wore nice jeans and a nice muted color shirt.

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dark colors, no one is going to remember what you wore anyway.

Sorry to disagree, but the important thing is that you are there.

If you don't have dark dress pants, then wear jeans or anything nice that you have.
I am sure that your sister wouldn't care what you wear.

Sending hugs!
Shirley

Kim,

Because this was such a tragedy and your sister was a teenager, there will be a LOT of teenagers and young adults there and they will most likely be wearing blue jeans. If you have to wear blue jeans and a nice top, you will fit in just fine. You will not stand out. The turnout for this funeral will be enormous and really your blue jeans will be just fine. Black jeans would also work if you have them.

I have lost 7 relatives in the last 9 years. I have been to way too many funerals. One was my brother and over 600 people came to his funeral. He was 47 and many people had blue jeans on. My nephew (his son) age 19, had died a year before to the day. Once again the turnout was huge, and there were lots of blue jeans --even more at this funeral because he was only 19 and lots of young adults came and that is what they tended to wear.

Kim, I am so very sorry that this has happened to you and your family. I live in Kenosha, Wisconsin and the Crandon tragedy is very much in the news here. The newspaper said that your sister lived here in Kenosha until they moved to Crandon.

Please let us know if you found some clothes that you are happy with. I am about 2 hours from your town. Perhaps there is some way that I can help. Please email me if you need to. I know your pain. You can reach me at: Donnaquilt@yahoo.com

A very big hug to you,

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What kinds words and offer, donnaquilt. The world needs more caring souls like you. Kudos!

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Thank you very much for your thoughts on this. After spending over 2 hours in Walmart my children have their apparel and I found a pair of nice black slacks to wear BUT no shirt. Walmart doesn't have alot to offer in my age group. I'm in between sizes right now and was surprised to even find pants. Goodness, it was an expensive trip. I spent just over 100 on a dress for daughter (but she will or can wear again), shirt/tie for son, pants for me, nylons/tights. I don't remember the last time I wore or bougth nylons, goodness those things are costly!
I'm hoping that I can find a decent top quickly.

Thank you again for the ideas. As for mostly teenagers, only an hour will be allowed for friends, the rest is closed just for the family.

Donnaquilt and to those who pm'd me, I emailed you back

Thanks again everyone.

I wanted to add my prayers for your family and wishes for safe travels.

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