A friend of mine is having a baby shower & has sent out over 150 invitations. Don't you think that is too much? Tacky?

150!!!! OMG....To me, max would be around 20 or 25 friends. If it's a friends AND family shower (and you have a lot of family), you may bump that up 10 more if you have the space. Heck, we only invited 100 people to our WEDDING!

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I would not want to attend that shower! You'll be there all night watching her open the gifts!!

That is a lot of people.........Maybe some of the invitation for sent to people whom she knew could not attend, but wanted to let them know they were welcome.....?? I done this at times, sent invitations to happenings to family in Ohio, knowing that couldnt' come, to helpt them stay up to date on what is happening here.....(we actually started doing this at MIL request)

Not a baby shower I would want to go to........seems like it would go on forever.

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She said her mom & mil had over 120 name & the others was her's. She said there was a lot of people that neither her or her dh even know. I think it is every aunt, cousin & friend of every one they know.

Two of my dh cousins had huge showers at very nice hotels. They each probably had at least 150 people. These showers were nicer then the reception of my wedding, and had more people. LOL I don't remember if they opened gifts there but at their huge baby showers they usually have 3 or 4 people that help unwrap the gift and then just hand them the box and card.

God I hope they don't open all those gifts!!! Thats nuts but my cousin just had one and they opened all those gifts. Made me suicidal LOL!

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Well she said her mom has 12 aunts & uncles plus all those cousins & would hate to leave anyone out! Plus, she invited a bunch of HS friends, College friends, & she said she left out a bunch of people. I don't think even half of these people will show, at least I hope not. They are also not RSVP'ing & have no idea how much food to make. Her work place is having her a sererate shower for work & so is his.

I work for a catering company and just did a bridal shower with 150 people. It was the smoothest, fastest shower I have ever worked. The bridesmaids opened every gift and just handed it the guest of honor. She acknowledged who it was from and what it was and moved on to the next one. Very efficient!
They even played some games and had a big buffet lunch. The whole thing was over in 3 hours. Personally, I think it is overkill and just an excuse to get more gifts.

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I agree with sexymurf, 20 or 25 names maybe 10 to 15 more max. 150 is going to get completely out of hand. Maybe they can do several showers...one for the close friends, one for the college friends, one for the immediate family and so on. Also, the cost for 150 plus people would be outrageous!

We will have just under 200 at our wedding in Nov, but about 30 were invited to my shower.

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OMG-that is way too many people....i was at a shower that had about 50 guests and the gifts alone took 3 hours to open...i wanted to kill myself by the time that was over!!!

I think it really depends on the size of the family. If one or both of the families are large and the family custom is to invite everyone, then 150 doesn't sound outrageous to me. My guess is that it is unlikely that most people will show up, but it is maybe a family custom to invite them all, maybe to keep them informed. Growing up, my dad's family was large and all lived out of state. We would send them invitiations to major events (graduations, showers, weddings, etc.) knowing they would probably not come (although we would love for them to come). Sometimes one or two would make the drive and it was great to have them there. Most of the time they just sent a card (no gift) thanking us for the invitation and wishing us well.

People don't like to be left out, so in my opinion, it's better to invite everyone (especially in a family situation) and let those who don't care to attend, decline the invitation. However, you have to draw the line between including everyone and 'fishing for gifts'.

Sarah........mom to Jason & Devin

I don't even know 150 people, let alone women! (OK, maybe I do) How do you feel about having to feed all those people?

Rebecca

I know someone who had a baby shower like that & I felt it was incredibly tacky this was a so called relative & his wife their was so much more that I wont post that made this whole sha bang even more tacky!!!

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I guess I am wondering why her mother didn't throw one shower and her soon to be mother in law throw another one. A friend of mine a few years ago got married and had three showers, one for family, one for friends and one from work. I went to two of them since I worked with her and was a close friend and in the wedding. To me having two or three smaller showers would make more sense, then one huge one.

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Good luck to them and I hope it's a fabulous success, but you couldn't pay me to go to a shower with that many people. Several smaller showers would be much more reasonable for the guests' sake.

The Mil is too cheap & doesn't want to spend all the money herself!

She works alot & can't get the time off much!

I think a shower, bridal or baby, should be a little more intimate. Good friends celebrating with the mother to be/bride and presenting her with gifts. No body has that many good friends, that is a greedy gift grab, IMO.

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Wow that's a lot of invites.

I like Polve's suggestion.

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lol I didnt even have 150 people at my wedding...

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And I like to see the recipient open what I have taken the time to pick out, pay for, wrap, and take with me. I want to know they got it. My brother and wife let their son open his gifts at his 10th birthday party when HE was ready. We were at the salad bar, came back to see him tearing into gifts, and realized ours had already been opened. Did I drive 1 1/2 hours for that type of disrespect? No. This was a small birthday party with 10 people in attendance so it's not like they couldn't have known we weren't right there. I also enjoy seeing what other gifts the person gets.

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Who is hosting the shower???

These things are not all that uncommon, sadly. People invite every Tom, Dick and Harry that they have an address for. I, personally, find it tacky. All family members should be sent an invitation, I can go for that, since it also serves as an announcement to let them know that "betty Jo" is having a baby. But, to invite people you don't really keep in contact with??? NOPE. And, honestly, even if some of them do show, out of perhaps "obligation" since they were invited, it has been my experience that they seem to get shoved off in the corner since they are not really in the expectant mom's "inner circle". Kind of reminds me of those Pampered Chef, Home Interiors, Party Lite, Tupperware, Longhabherger....on and on and on....invites.

I've rambled on.....but, really wanted to find out who is hosting the shower??? Also, is this their first baby???

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Yea it is her 1st baby & her mom & mil is hosting!

I had about 100 at my baby shower. It was a breakfast/brunch at a hotel - we did it that way so that it wouldn't tie up people's whole day. One guest said when she saw the gifts - oh no - I'll be here all day! But we did it really fast - acknowledging each gift - but then I took extra care with the thank you notes. I was 37 and no one thought I would ever get married (age 33) let alone have a baby. My family and my in-laws both gave it.

I did not want a wedding shower at all - I had everything I needed/wanted but my SIL's insisted and they don't take no for an answer. There was about 40 people at that.

imo yes it IS tacky to invite a bunch of people that the guest of honor does not even know :-)

I think an announcement is the way to go, for relatives you don't know but don't want to leave out...

aha.....so, more than likely the first grandbaby, too??? That would make sense. Still tacky, but, that makes sense....the Grandmas are proud and want everyone to acknowledge the new little one.

Be glad you're not paying. I hope you're going so you can let us know how it goes

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Personally, I like two people in the shower... Oh, that wasn't what you meant....SORRY!!

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I have been to a couple really big showers. Now a days I think it is not uncommon. People are waiting longer to have a baby. So there is more time to make more friends. High school friends, college friends, work friends, dh work friends, neighbors, church friends, then there is family. Alot of times the mom and mil may want to invite friends they are very close with that might not know the mom to be. I can see where it can easily get to this amount of people. I dont think it is tacky at all. They are just including everyone in their joy.

That is almost as ridiculous as a 1yr old's birthday party I went to that had probably 50-75 people and then the mom got mad when the baby didn't want to sit there and open his presents Can you say greedy??? Well I thought the mom was.

I went to a friend's bridal shower,and a few years later,her baby shower. Both had 150+ guests.
IMO it was not tacky at all.It was held in a very nice restaraunt's function room.They had a brunch buffet,and everything was nice.

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that's 130 more than my wedding includeing me and dh way way too many for a shower

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