too afraid to? For whatever reasons? I have had something weighing very heavy on me for a very long time and I feel horrible. I am afraid what will happen if I post though.

Happy, I feel sorry to hear that.

I guess at this point, I've had to think twice a few times about posting, but I think I'd still put out some "watered-down" version of it if it was weighing down on me.

If you don't post, I hope it works itself out. If you do decide to post, just carefully word it, and put it out there.

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Many times.

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If you decide against posting I hope whatever it is works its self out for you. *hugs*

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Oh, sorry to hear that something is weighing heavy on you.

If you choose to post, perhaps set some boundary conditions for the responses. Let people know that you need supportive comments only - if that's the case - or if want personal experience input only, or whatever. Hopefully, people will respect your request.

cj/

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Quite a few times, I have typed out a long post/response only to close out the window.

Sorry that you have something weighing down on you, hopefully if you share people will understand and try to help instead of judge. Good luck!

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Yes. Many times. I hope everything turns out ok.

Lisa

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I do that a lot of times. It can be quite healing to do that.

As CJ suggested, maybe lay out some boundaries in regards to the responses.

If it gets too uncomfortable for you, you can always 'delete' it. Personally I see nothing wrong with that (and hope that I don't regret posting that!).

Go with your gut feeling. I also hope that everything turns out okay.

OP, I'm sorry that something's going on that's bothering you. I don't post very often because I'm afraid of what others will say.

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Is there a poster on the board that you feel you could trust with a PM to ask advice as to whether she thinks it would be "safe" to post your situation?

Yes many times and i refrain from posting certain things just because it can get nasty. If you really need the support and want opinions of people and would make you feel better then i would just be careful how you word it and just ignore the nasty comments. Everyone has a right to their opinion, but i feel that people could leave an opinion without being nasty.

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Yep...many times over. In the past, I actually started a thread and posted something I felt very strongly about and had horrid, hateful things said to me. It wasn't even a religion or politics! So, now I am VERY leary of starting a thread that might, in any way, set me up for that again.

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I totally agree. I can't tell you how many times I've replied to a topic, then just deleted it. It's not worth the negative responses. I, too, would just set some boundaries and hope that people will comply. Good luck with whatever is bothering you. I hope it turns out okay.

Good Luck with whatever is bothering you. I hope everything is ok I am willing to listen if you need someone to talk to ((((((((((((((HUGS)))))))))))))))))

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Now I can strangle it

I agree with one of the above posters of having an on-line friend post it for you...or ask one of the Mod's if they could post it for you.

I hope that whatever is troubling gets better soon.

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yes but due to the way i am treated and the names i have been called, i dare not.

OK, while I do not think for ONE stinking minute you are truly wanting sympathy or advice--I'm going to give you some advice:

You have shown up on this board, making assumptions about posters. You have used names like sluts, whores and various other derogatory terms. You have implied that since some of us don't believe the same as you we will be going to hell....If you would temper your opinion with a little couth and subtlety you might gain some respect and maybe, just maybe find that we are nice people who have lots to offer in the way of advice and support.
It's definitely ok to be opinionated--I'm very opinionated! But, you have to be able to accept that others may not have the same opinion as you! You have to be willing to accept their right to hold whatever opinion they have. You should be able to agree to disagree. Sometimes that's the only thing you can do. Different opinions is not a bad thing--it just means that two people don't agree on an issue. Maybe, if you tried a little kindness and understanding you might find the board a little more receptive to you.

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The boards are pretty fair, you may catch someone on a 'off' day I have done that on other boards and finally came to my ADULT BRAIN! everyeone is DIFFERENT we all feel DIFFERENT about things, I do things that you would think HOW CAN SHE?! not bad! just a spontainous person with DH, we have 6 vehicles, yes 2 are street rods and sit there and one need to get sold but the other 3, we need, yep, I'm crazy, you may think that, but I don't so see we all think DIFFERENT and that does NOT make us a bad person, I am the LAST person on this earth to judge anyone! I would never judge someone.
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Yes I am sure there are a couple of posters that I "know" that I could talk to but I kind of need a straight forward and not going to hold anything back in their opinion (first thought that comes to mind is marylink lol) I also need to know that it isn't going to spread on both ends of the globe and get misconstrued in anyway. It isn't anything to do with anyone except for me and something that I need to bring closure to. Oh geez I am probably not even making any sense!

I know I could talk to Sammy and I am pretty sure she is going to be supportive and reassure me not to worry about anything and say it will be fine or she might surprise me and let me know differently

How about having a mod post it for you? Is that allowed? (Probably want to wait a while though or we'll all figure it out.. )

cj/

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OK keep in mind that this is just me, but when someone needs to tell me something that they seem reluctant to talk about, this is what I say,"Don't clean it up, just say it." I know going in, I may not want to hear what is said. It's my way of getting it straight the first time. But that said I am more comfortable knowing what people really think than what is politically correct. Again this is just me.

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Thanks everyone, Yes a few members bring it on themselves. And I am glad that we have members that are willing to back up others. I feel if this member wants to post whats on her chest. she should wait a few days, let the slinging die down. I hope that it does......We all have different opinions, and different ways we live our lives, who are we to judge? I think the only person who has that right is high above.

I was told in order to mod this board I have to let things roll off my back, well I do, its hard for me because I am very opinionated. If I fly off the handle, then pleae forgive me. We are all human. Thanks

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Hey Kiddo .. I opened up my PM box for you .. or atleast I think I did, the control panel had me scratching my head for a few. We can either chat PM or e-mail which ever you prefer. I'm not sure that I'll be back on the computer tonight, I just took a break to help kids with their homework and I need to help Dave with the roof tonight .. ick I will check back in tomorrow morning though after kids are school bound.

You know you can tell me anything .. Talk to you soon .. Heather

Yeppers, what she said!

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Happy2behere, I'm glad that you can talk to Sammy. Some things are meant to be shared with one or few and other things are meant to be shared with many. Asking another person like Sammy can give you wisdom in this case. Thank you for your courage to make the post and to look for help.

To answer the question OP, yes I've been hesitant to post a thread sometimes...I guess because some subjects will spark some drama and I'm just not up for it most of the time...It takes too much energy!...I can only wonder sometimes what perverts are out there reading some of this stuff...when people are talking about their teenagers developing bodies (my daughter would just kill me!) or do you/do you not have pubic hair...remember that thread?...At the time I thought it was a hoot...certainly different...LOL I just think that we live in such a crazy world...Some people post such personal information such as details of their marriage, their pregnancy due date, their kids names, etc...I think it would be pretty easy for someone to find them if they wanted to...Scary stuff! ~Lisa

CaddyLisa,

I know what you mean, the craziness is part of the reason why I am kind of afraid to post.

It's better to err on the side of your personal safety then to take a risk that you are not uncomfortable with and then ultimately regret.

Go with your gut... I think that if you feel comfortable talking with Sammy, she has put herself out there for you.

Best of luck with this.

Actually I have typed responses to about 5 different threads and immediately closed the window..... as my mother said, "if you dont have anything nice to say, don't say anythingat all". It makes me feel better to just type it , get it off my chest, delete it and go on. Good Luck

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I do that a lot too... In the past, I have always regretted it when I actually hit 'submit' so I really have diligently tried to learn to click the X instead!

I do similar with emails... sometimes I'll write scathing emails and then send them to the Trash and rewrite with a better attitude!

Many years ago, I went through some counseling and this was one of the counselor's suggestions to me. I use it to this day and it really can lift the personal emotional burden without adding to the strife.

I still mess up... we all do -- we are human.