It's 24 days until my wedding, and I'm losing it.

Is it too late to run away?

Somebody save me.

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I'm the kind of woman when my feet hit the floor in each morning, the devil says "Oh crap, she's up."

Ahhhhh the good old days Just take a deep breath, maybe a nice bubble bath and things will be ok

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"Never loan your car to someone you have given birth too"

Or take a deep breath, pick up the phone, book 2 tickets to Vegas and be done with it all!

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TLJ ~ Women United in Spirit

Congrats to you and your hubby-to-be!!

If you can, try to get to a point where you have done what you can and what will be will be. Honestly, once the activities start, all the little things seem to be less important and nobody other than yourself will know what didn't get done or didn't get done right.....then it's time to just enjoy the day.

cj/

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I was walking home one night and a guy hammering on a roof called me a paranoid little weirdo. In morse code. -Emo Phillips

Yep, I agree with BeachRatz

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Brenda

GO #24 JEFF GORDON

Did I mention that we are also moving to VA and I just quit my job that I love? My mother keeps inviting people to the wedding (without invites - just telling them to come, it's no big deal). I look like a Macy's Day float in my dress. The groom is in VA and I've been doing the move and wedding on my own - he doesn't fly in until just before. I got 3 waffle irons at my shower....and I don't even eat waffles.

Calgon, take me away!

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I'm the kind of woman when my feet hit the floor in each morning, the devil says "Oh crap, she's up."

Ugh, I feel for you.

You need to tell your Mom that she is not allowed to invite anyone. The only people invited needed to have an invitation sent by YOU. Personally, I cannot imagine anyone attending a wedding with a verbal invite. If they do show up, how tacky! Are you feeding these people that you didn't invite? Why do parents think it's their day? I don't get that.

If the trend continues, you might elope...get it over with and then just keep your reception to party. At least then the stress of "getting married" will be over with

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Proud to say I haven't shopped at a Wal-Mart since Sept 2003

Everything you described is why I called off my wedding, Dh saw what was happening came and "kidnapped" me and we got married by a minister in his front yard......

Good Luck, and I hope things calm down enough that you'll be able to enjoy the big day.....

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"You can never really pay back. You can only pay forward."

Wayne Woodrow “Woody” Hayes

O-H-I-O

A good friend told me to sit down and have one really good cry to relieve the stress before the wedding. I did that about a week before the big day and it honestly made me feel better. I also had a massage about six hours before the ceremony. The therapist asked me what I had planned for the day and when I told her I was getting married that afternoon, she worked on me for another 30 minutes at no charge. Highly recommend it! BTW, congratulations to you and hubby to be & good luck on the move!

Ha, sounds like my wedding!!! If we had it to do over again, we would have eloped, seriously!!

Wow, 3 waffle irons??? This might sound bad, but, XMAS is coming....maybe a little regifting is in order??? Or exchange them. It will be fine, really. Be sure to journal it and photo it and video it......ALL. Some day you will look back and laugh, such fond memories When's the big day???

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Doing the right thing isn't always the same as doing the easy thing.

Relax. Or try to. I just had my one year annivesary and I know how stressed you are! BUT, if I had it all to do over, I would do it much simpler. Just don't go overboard. Unless you feel like you really have to do the placecards, don't. (We just went to a wedding this weekend that had assigned seating that the bride stressed over and no one really wanted to sit where they were!) Tell your mom no more invites - it's just too much for the caterers (and you financially, I'm sure). Plus, I'm sure you look beautiful in your dress. Best wishes for a great day!

Kim

I third this suggestion or at least consider a Justice of the Peace instead.

Seriously take it one day at a time and soon it will be over and you will be here in VA starting a new life with DH. Not sure where you are moving to in VA, but I bet you will find a job you'll love just as much as your last one.

3 Waffle Irons regift or exchange them.

One day at a time, cry if needed, scream if needed and buy lots of calgon to take you away

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Grammie to Trinity Lorayne Jean Keens Born June 9, 2011 Loving my awesome guitar picking 100% Country Boy boyfriend Kenny !
RIP Daddy~ 01/24/1930-06/01/2007 I miss you !
Dont Think you Can .. know you can ~ Jeff Hardy

You will survive!!! We all did!! You'll find that all the stressing about what you think are big things right now really aren't worth stressing about at all. Just calm down and try to find ways to cut stress out. You don't need to tell people where to sit (let them figure that out all on their own), don't make a big deal out of favors (most people don't even pay attention to them), don't worry if every bow is tied perfect or that the wrong flower is there. As a matter of fact, most of the things that brides stress over are things that your guests won't even pay attention to.

As far as mom goes, tell her no more inviting guests. Three waffle irons? Keep one and take the rest back. One of these days you may want a waffle (the real ones are much better than the frozen ones from the grocery store!) Also enlist the help of your bridesmaids. That's what they're for!!

You're moving to Virginia? What part? That's where I'm from. You'll love Virginia. We have beaches, mountains and a little bit in between. You'll find a job you love in no time!

Just remember to enjoy your wedding day. It goes by much too fast!! So slow down and enjoy the ride~!!

Actually, I disagree. My mom verbally invited a bunch of people to come to my wedding after dinner (so we wouldn't have to pay for them) and it just made my wedding alot more fun. I always wanted a huge wedding, but it just would have been way to expensive to formally invite as much as I really wanted. The "walk-ins", as we still call them 11 years later, really added some flavor to the party. (They were mainly the young, single crowd)

P.S. My sister who is getting married this year is totally against this "walk-in" idea, so to each his own.

I don't think that would be allowed in some places either, so be careful about trying it.

My MOm and I got ito huge fights over seating and who was invited and she said that she got to invite since she was paying. Her and my MIL wouldn't let me pick the dresses and they both looked horrible, 2 people in my wedding party had flat tires, there was a hurricane and we were having a garden wedding, and the list goes on.

Everyone has things that go wrong and that we wished we did differently. Like someone said, you'll get through it, we all did. And I LOVE the massage idea!

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"A true friend is someone who thinks that you are a good egg even though he knows that you are slightly cracked." ~ Bernard Meltzer

Yes, you're right, most places wouldn't allow it, but our hotel did allow it (or they just turned the other cheek).

Well, I think that if Mom is paying, she should at least have a some input on the invitation list, with the bride having the final say.

We were supposed to have a garden wedding too, unfortunately it rained and we had to go inside. But it didn't put a damper on MY day.

I'm having a hard time saying no to my mother, because we dropped the bomb on them that we are selling our newly purchased house and moving to Richmond, VA. My parents and sister are sad, but excited for us. I'm paying for the wedding, not my parents...and all of my mother's additions are managable, but I'm getting close to 200 people....and that's no where near what I wanted. I wanted something very simple, but it looks like this has spiraled out of control. My location will allow it, and I'm not having a sit down dinner anymore...we are doing carving stations, a sushi bar, and tons of hot appetizer kinda food....so, for the same price I will have more food and people can wander and eat as the please. The pasty chef and the cake guy are cool with this....they are now adding up to 30 pastries and the cake guy is going to do a 4 teir cupcake thingie to compensate. I've added an extra hour on the DJ and ordered more booze.

As for the waffle makers, 2 of them are going back....maybe all 3. I haven't decided yet. Macy's said it wouldn't be an issue....and I think I can find something there to spend my money on.

Ah...the drama.

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