Not really a shock, he had been in a nursing home, and had had several small strokes over the last few months so his health was steadily declining, but it still feels like a slap in the face to me. In some ways we lost him years ago to Alzheimer's. As some of you may remember my Dad's dad past away a few months ago, and we struggled with the decision whether or not we should go home, but now with DH not here there is no decision to be made, no way with DS1 still wrestling with medications, the kids and school, not to mention just footing the bill for DH to have everything he needed to deploy that we could even afford to go home.....but this time the decision is tearing me apart. We used to live across the street from my grandparents. This is the guy that would help when I got stuck on homework, the one who taught me how to play catch, he taught me how to drive, We would watch Atlanta Braves baseball games together....Whenever I was there he would give up his favorite recliner cause I thought it was cool, because it was so big it would swallow me up.....How can I not go, and how can I really explain that I can't........

sorry just needed to get that out......

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Sorry for your loss... Your family will understand if you can't go and your Granpa would have to

I am so sorry for your loss.

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I'm so very sorry for your loss.

He would understand why you didn't go.

mabear, I am so sorry for your loss.

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How sad, at this time of year especially. I am sorry. Maybe you can think of a way to honor your Grandpa without having to travel? Volunteer at a nonprofit for a day, make a special ornament for you Christmas tree or prepare a special dish for Thanksgiving.

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Sorry to hear of your loss. My prayers are with you and your family

I'm so sorry. Could you maybe make a special meal for you and the kids on the funeral day and talk to them about how special he was?

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So sorry for your loss. Try to let the guilt go- it will serve you no purpose and you have enough to deal with right now.

I am so sorry for your loss.

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I am so sorry.

Oh dear, mabear74....I am so sorry for the loss of your grandpa. May you find peace that he is in a better place and gets to watch over you and your family every day now.

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sorry for your loss. I just got back from my aunts funeral.. it's sad this time of the season.

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Funerals exist to comfort the living, not the dead. If you'd feel better seeing family, it would help you to go, but it's not going to help your grandpa. If you can't make it, send your regrets, tell some local friends, and get together for tea, and talking about people you miss.

When my grandfather died, we had a funeral, mostly for the benefit of friends and neighbours, and it was really tough. When my grandmother died, we skipped that, skipped travelling for someone we wouldn't get to see, and arranged for everyone to go out and get dinner and drinks on the same night, in whatever city they were in. I don't regret choosing that over a ceremony.

I'm so, so sorry, mabear. My prayers are with you and your family.
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I am so sorry for your loss. You and your family are in my thoughts and prayers.

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So sorry, you're in my thoughts.

I'm very sorry for your loss.

I wanted to add this in case you may not know.
A few months back I read that when you have a death you can fly airlines cheaper, You may beable to check into this. I'm so sorry I dont remember or know which airlines.

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I am also very sorry for your loss.

Do what is best for your family, and know that you made the right decision. There are so many ways to honor your grandfather's memory.

I'm so sorry, I know it hurts.
The others are right, your grandpa will understand and I'm sure he wouldn't want you to make a trip that you couldn't afford. There were many good suggestions made so just pick one and honor him in that way.

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So sorry to hear about your Grandpa-sounds like a pretty neat guy. Just do the best you can, and know that he knows how much you loved him! Don't worry about a ceremony...

So sorry for your lost I will keep your family in my prayer..I lose my grandmother and Brother in the same week about 3 month ago,very sad time I do understand

Mabear, So sorry to hear about your Grandpa's death! Sounds like you have some wonderful memories of him. As others have said, I am sure it will be understood why you can't go.

Mabear I am sorry to hear about your Grandpa's death. I am sure people will understand why you cannot go if they dont its gonna be on their conscience not yours. We caught a lot of flack when my Dad died in June we had no service whatsoever for him, he wanted cremated and no service, when mom goes the same thing. People sadly come out in times of sorrow and can be mean when you dont do what they feel is "proper". Plant a tree in his memory, make a scrapbook with memories or a shadowbox with some cool stuff of his that you may have never mind what others think. Many thougts to you and your family from me and mine during this sad time.

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I'm sorry for the loss of your grandfather. Would it be possible for your family to include you via web-cam? Maybe set up at the wake. That way you could be there for your family and they you.

Rebecca

Im sorry for your loss

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Thanks everyone.....Been helping my Mom make the funeral arrangements from here, so that has helped me feel a little better....It's been hard on her, she has been his guardian for the last 5 years, and he hasn't been dead a full 24 hours, and the other siblings are already fighting over his money...Makes me very sad. Not to mention Grandma is still alive, so I don't see why anybody should be fighting it all goes to her......I guess this has just hit me even harder since DH isn't here, so I can't just turn to him for that great big hug he usually gives me when I'm sad.....

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((((HUGS))) know it's not the same as from hubby.
So sorry for your loss. I'm sure your Grandpa would understand that you can't make it. Same thing happened to me when my Grandma died. There were a few others who couldn't make it either. One of my aunts recorded the speeches made and printed them out for all of us. It was nice to read the wonderful things people had to say about her. I made a scrapbook as a remembrance of her.
Judy

Sorry to hear of your loss. I miss my Grandfather very bad. Wish he didn't die suddenly and wish I had more time with him. Hugs!!!!!!!!!

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I am very sorry for your loss.Dom't feel bad about not going.It won't change anything.You have been helping your mom with the arrangements over the phone.I hope that helps to make you both feel better.

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Just wanted to let you know you and your family are in our thoughts and prayers too.

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I am happy that you have such good memories of him.

Hugs and Prayers,

Shirley

My sincerest sympathies. I hope that you and your family are able to find peace despite this conflict of heart. I know when my grandpa died it was terrible not being there for the funeral but our family was in a similar position no way could we buy last minute tickets to georgia. However we did make it a few months after to say our good byes and I planted some daisies at the cemetary. It was an emotionally healing journey. Perhaps you may feel comforted if you can begin plans for a visit in the future.

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