I just have to vent!! I am so upset and sad right now! I just found out that my "best friend" is not a friend at all. As some of you know one of our friends died from colon cancer (her husband). When he was sick we spent many many days and nights helping her take care of him at home. I was the one that started up all night with him, for 4 months, so she could sleep at night and take care of him during the day. Before he got sick all of us were always together on weekends playing cards or pool, our children grew up together. After he died my dh and I made sure she was not alone and tried to help as much as we could. He died almost 5 years ago. She has since got remarried has a nice husband and we haven't been as close the last year but still talk on the phone almost every other day and I still thought we were great friends. Last week I found out that she has lied to me about so many many things and talked about me and my family like we were dogs. I am so hurt and sad right now, words cannot explain what I am feeling right nowI am to the point were I just don't want a friend, I just don't understand why she would do this. Thanks for letting me vent.

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Oh Brenda, I'm so sorry! No one deserves to have friendships turned around on them like that.....You sound like a terrific friend, it's a shame she can't see that.

((((HUGS)))))

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I know that must really hurt Brenda. My husband and I have had 'friends' who we discovered were not really friends. I'm sorry this has happened to you.

Brenda I am so sorry. You sound like a teriffic friend and anyone would be lucky have a friend like you.

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How did you find out about her talking bad about your family? Could that person had just been jealous of your friendship and tried to mess it up by saying things that weren't true? Is the source a really reliable source? I know every friend I have ever had stabbed me in the back so I don't doubt it one bit. That really sux,

Boy I have been burnt so many times by so called friends and sometimes unfortunatly family

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So sorry this happened to you. Some people just have a hard time being loyal to their friends, love to be in the midst of gossip.

Have you given her a call and asked her about what you are hearing? You may find there's been somebody stirring the pot. If not, then at least she'll be on the hot seat for her lousy behavior.

Don't let it get to you. You did good things with good intentions, and that's what matters.

So sorry this has happened to you. Sometimes I wonder whatever happened to 'real' friends. I agree with the other poster who said to make a call to your friend and tell her you've heard some things that have really hurt your feelings and you just want to talk to her to see what's actually going on. That way the air is cleared and you won't have this hanging over you.

(((HUGS)))

dollydeal, I've heard from too many different people, so it can't be from one jealous person.

momshops, I think you may have something there about "love to be in the midst of gossip". Since her husband died it's like she likes "drama" in here life! Something was always going wrong in her or her son's life that she would always need help with from us.

Good Lord a light bulb just went off in my head!!!

Since she remarried everything has calmed down and she has no drama in her life so she is causing it herself. Do you think that could be it??

I will be making that call tonight when I get home.

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Awww sorry that has happen to you.

I am sometimes shocked what people say behind other peoples back....who they claim to be friends with. Same thing with marriages, I am sure we all know a couple were one of the spouses talk bad about the other behind their backs. I just don't get it......I always thought when you get married you have each other back...not talk behind it. Same thing with friends, you build friendships and bonds to share your life with, not for them to judge your life.

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I too have been burnt by people I've trusted over the years. I am sorry Brenda, that you were treated this way. How awful. Can you call her in a few weeks and talk it over ?

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I am so sorry this has happened to you. There are some misguided people in this world who can not be happy unless someone else is miserable. I have one at work who is like this. I have tried to be nice to keep out of her aim of fire, but after 4 years it is my time to be her target. Just remember you are a kind and wonderful person and have done nothing to deserve her harsh words and gossip. Hopefully people know you well enough to realize she is honest in her words.

You sound like a wonderful friend, she is lucky to have you in her life.

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That could very well be it. She's not the center of attention, so she makes stuff up so people are interested in her.


You're a great friend and just take comfort in knowing you did the right thing when it mattered the most. What comes around goes around.

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Sorry this has happened to you.I know all too well how some 'friends' treat you.
If they don't need you at the time,they don't care if they drag you needlessly through the muc behind your back.

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Hold your head up high and be proud of the kind of friend your were to her! Anyone who matters in your life knows what kind of person you are, that's all that really matters!

I know that must hurt. Just know what a comfort your family must have been to her husband in his last days, and how much peace of mind you must have given him. I think maybe she might feel that you are a part of a past that she would like to forget, especially now that she is newly married. That being said, it does not give her the right to be ugly or to be talking smack about you. As much as it hurts sometimes, you just gotta' say , "GOOD RIDDANCE!"