My poor DH has no idea what to buy me for Christmas!

SHould I give him a couple of ideas? Or make him think of things himself?

I already bought some perfume I wanted and told him he could wrap that. But I really would like a couple of surprises under the tree? Not books I told him to get (that I can go buy any old time), but something he thought of. Is that wrong, should I give him a list?

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This is the first year my DH asked for a list. He's always been really good at getting me things that are SO me. What I did was make a list of only 2 items I want. The rest are things that I would like to have done in the house. For instance, we've talked about a fireplace since we built 6 years ago and I want oak paneling and chair rail put in our den. It's things he CAN do himself (he's in construction) and to me, that would mean more than anything. (Just like the shoemakers kid always being the last to get his shoes! I'm always last on the list for things like what I mentioned!)

Yes, I'd definitely give him a couple things but, I'd tell him to surprise you with the rest!!

Sure, you can give him a list to get him started. Maybe it will help him think of something else not on your list!

Not really, I may mention a couple of things I need but I don't make a list. Gifts at Christmas are not all that important to me. Christmas is not about the gifts.

Never have made one I like to be surprised and see what his creativity is. I do however ask him what he needs because he really doesn't shop for himself so I try to get whatever he needs.

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I make a wishlist. Left on their own, I end up disappointed (see other note about toilet seat and automotive battery ) I try to keep it to ideas and not be too specific, so that the gift giver can exercise their own creativity and judgment. For example, I will say silver jewelry (no earrings with posts) or handtowels for the powder room.... I guess this is the kind of wishlist - not a shopping list - that I'd like to be given, so that's what I give back!

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I don't make a list, but will drop hints. If we're shopping I'll point out things I like jewelry-wise. If not I'll circle things in ads, magazines, etc. Some are a little outrageous but I like to have some fun with the DH. He's usually pretty good at remembering things like that. One thing he won't get for me is clothes and purses (he learned one year not to do that again LOL). I'd rather he get me a gift card so I can pick out what I want.

I didn't see this post, but ROFL! Sorry - been there.

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No, I don't give DH a list, he does pretty well on his own. Sometimes, too well. He spoils me something awful.

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Well, I am a TERRIBLE gift-getter I will admit. I LOVE GIVING gifts, but not great at getting or really even wanting gifts. When I say I don't want anything, I REALLY MEAN IT. Still, he will go out and get something (that I usually have to return) because I think that he thinks he HAS to. My kids have had it drummed into them that what I truly want from them is something they made for me or something personal, such as a free-of-chores day, etc.

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This came up this week for us as well. I told Dh that it is a tight Christmas...I don't know what to get him anyway, and even though I might WANT certain things...they don't seem important to me right now. I did get him an outfit (dockers and shirt). I told him that I will fill his stocking w/ stuff, and he could fill mine (I usually do all of them every year including mine..) He asked "With what?" DUH can't you even think of stocking stuffers GEEEZ do I have to do it all? LOL

So yesterday he asked again, what do you want for Christmas..I told him we discussed this already and he was like "I can't just fill your stocking and that's it" Why not? Really this year, what I want is not material things really.

After my HELL of a year medically and suffering malnutrition for months on end and being in the hospital way to many times, and having my gastric bypass reversed..being on tube feeding for six months, I mean I am so thankful that I am even here this Christmas to celebrate. I had myself written off for dead way too many times to count.

I told my kids that I want everyone to be in a good mood in the morning, wake up, open gifts, have breakfast and have a virtually stress free day. I want to enjoy my family, I want to enjoy being here, and being able to eat again. I want to bake my cookies, and enjoy being able to stand long enough to cook a nice holiday dinner.

I am going to Hallmark today to get each of my kids, a "sappy" Christmas card to tell them how I feel this year. How grateful I am to be alive, to thank them for seeing me through my year, and all the help they have given me. If it wasn't for them, there were many days I wanted to off myself, and without knowing it, they kept me from doing it. (I'm getting weepy now sorry)

I'm just so emotional at this time of year. So No..

I didn't make a Wishlist (wasn't that the original point of this post LOL)

Thanks guys for listening....

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Please take my list that way I know I'll get what I want and like.

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Yes. We both do Amazon Wishlists. Not necessary to buy from Amazon but it is helpful... Also helpful to family members when we do our drawing for the adult gift exchange. I see nothing wrong with it. It really does make it easier -- having dealt with interviewing all of the parents in the extended family to make sure that we get what the nieces and nephews want (sadly, they don't do wishlists). What a chore, but we love 'em!