Just an FYI - cou*******s - just reported me for "Unprofessional moderation" for my post #44 Here

For future reference - I am not a Professional Moderator and any post I make outside the LWIF board or the AT board are as a "civilian". I've been on the boards since 1999 so I think I should have the right to join in on discussions without the fear of being reported because I moderate a different board.

Personally I have no idea why the report was made 5 weeks after the post. But I will try to make sure any future posts I make will not offend anyone.

Name of reporter removed by me.

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Ohhhkkkkkkk

I don't know either of you, but I read that thread weeks ago and cou***'s comment was so witchy and cold, so take it with a grain of salt.

Skeevy - I removed the name of poster. - Mary

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WEll, here's my take on it all. Ok, so, you got turned in. Kind of like someone pressing charges against you...... obviously, whoever he/she turned you into reviewed the "charges" and found you "not guilty". That is the right of any poster, I suppose.

As a "civilian" I don't take the time to memorize which board a Mod. moderates. But, I would like to think that as a team member or an organization, each member would uphold the same standards no matter where they are. NO??? Think of it this way.....if you work at JCPenney in the linens section, you are not going to throw clothes around and mess things up in the boy's department, right??? That is how I look at it.

Now, having said all of that, exactly WHAT purpose did this post serve??? Should we all start airing our dirty laundry now and cause a big ruccus???

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The purpose of the post was to help members know that I - we - are member's too and should be allowed to post our opinions.

There was no member mentioned in my post - and I feel the person who reported me did so just because I was a mod.

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Yes, you DID Mention a member. Now, while your information (someone reporting you) can be proven or disproven, I still don't think it did anything "positive". I , too , have been accused of things by a Moderator, publicly, on this board, and had my name edited out. That doesn't change anything. There were still some people who read that and saw it. I just really don't think dirty laundry should be getting aired like this.

Wouldn't this be against the ROP for the Cafe anyway?????

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As a relative newbie here, I am often hestitant to post in The Cafe for fear that I may be flamed or taunted. I usually lurk and only read posts that seem interesting to me.
What I think is a shame is that I feel that way, because I am sure new members will be hestitant to post or express their opinions here. A lot may think that joining My Coupons is a waste of time because of the drama.
Believe me, I know that it isn't all drama, but sometimes those posts stick out especially if there are 30+ comments and they are always at the top of the board.
dnj, I know why you posted this. And I can also understand why Irish posted her post....but, what I don't understand is the attacks from other posters.
It all seems so mean spirited. Almost like a group of school age girls ganging up on another girl in the playground. I assume that most members here are above the age of 12.
I am not personally attacking anyone, just expressing how I feel as a new member.
Again, this is my opinion and my opinion only. I just wanted to get that off my chest.
Alhoa to you, Cafe posters, this is probably the last time you will hear from me.

dnj51/Mary - I am glad that you're able to post as both a moderator and as YOU! I did want you to know that I also got negative rep today from that same thread.....many weeks later.... it was retaliatory since I had given negative rep to a poster in that thread, so he/she was getting me back. He/she left this nice feedback "Try Valium. You could use it". Isn't that nice? Anyways, methinks that the person recently had an epiphany on repping and is exercising her newfound knowledge. Duh. I got another one from a relative newbie (aka alterego aka troll) with just 6 posts under his/her belt on the someone is bored post as well. I just let it roll off....hopefully you can too.

cj/

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Well at least it was creative...

For the 3 people that saw the name I apologize - I thought about it and decided that putting the name in was being petty, so I removed it.


I'm assuming you are referring to the rule - *If you attack or name call you receive a warning - Indeed I have not attacked anyone, nor called any names.

I mearly stated a fact, with the explanation that I would appreciate being treated as any other member would be.

If the report had come in the same day or even the same week as the post you would not have heard from me. But 5 weeks later, right on the tails of Karrie leaving, makes me wonder if the report was vindictive. And I felt I needed to stand up for myself.

PS - my post on the original thread did not state any opinion that was not expressed by many others regarding some of the posts on that thread.

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This eloquently sums up so many things here at drama central where it is ok for a mod to do whatever they wish.

dl

FYI, Another mod has just publicly called out a member! You're NOT a civilian when you post as a mod and in the other post, you used your mod title!

dnj51
Moderator

Even in this post, you made reference to your position as a mod and that is VERY unprofessional. You use the same mod name as your member name so it's pretty much the same this time but last time, you posted as a mod. I realize that you're an unpaid volunteer and in your case, My Coupons is getting exactly what they paid for.

FYI, I DID NOT report you. I merely left feedback for YOU and YOU only to see. You listed me publicly. And going back and taking a few letters out changes nothing.

It took five weeks to rep you because I never rep anyone and never thought to until the 'Someone's Bored' thread. I remembered your post AS A MOD and Ambrianna's post AS A MOD and thought you were both incapable of impartiality. Yes, you're entitled to your opinions but you expressed your opinion as a mod, not as a member. I stayed out of all the Carrie and IrishBlonde but they did the same thing and antagonizaed a lot of people. I wasn't one of them so I had no reason to join the fray. Still, look at how many times mods have done this lately!

Greg, could we please hear your take on this? Moderator dnj51 has just addressed a post to a specific member. In the past weeks, other mods have done the same. That used to be against the Rules of Play. Is it still because it seems that now, some of the unpaid volunteers are making no attempt at all to show impartiality and even insultimg member's posts. To make it worse, they do it under their mod names!

I'm going to go look up the RULES of PLAY and see if changes were made to the terms.



Mr President, do you consider this

acceptable conduct from your

moderators?

"Do I get bonus points if I act like I care?"

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Thanks so much for telling me know - in retrospect maybe I'm taking it too personally.

I have Xanax!

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Your name was in the post for 4 minutes - I took your name off (not because anyone told me to, but because I thought it was the right thing to do) - if you choose to put it out there it's up to you.

I did not say anything derogatory about you, I did not attack you - I stated a fact.

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Maybe we could leave the cafe operate as a general chit-chat board, and open a new one called....appropriately enough...

*Drama Central*

Any volunteers to be a mod?

On another note, dnj51...take your Xanax and forget the whole thing. It's not worth it.

MODS ARE PEOPLE TOO !

Hardly. You should never have posted this thread in the first place and removing a few letters while leaving asterisks to denote the number of letters is just pathetic.

LOL. You could start by not breaking the Rules of Play when you stir up trouble. The last time I checked, the rules stated that addressing or referring to a specific member was taboo. You created a thread to share my personal comment to you with the entire board. Obviously, my remark was right on target, too. I think this thread is proof of your unprofessionalism.

How can the members be expected to follow the Rules of Play when the moderators keep breaking them?

I know who cou.....s is !
I vote for cou.....s to be our next mod!

I did not refer to you (you did that yourself) - I did not attack you. I've said all I have to say - this thread is going nowhere - I am sorry if you are offended, you can flame away if you like - I'm done.

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There may not be a board to moderate at this rate

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"Never loan your car to someone you have given birth too"

As soon as I saw "cou*******s", I knew exactly who it was. If members have been here long enough, the entire name wasn't needed.

And why was this posted in the first place?? To add more drama and frustration and hard feelings to this board?

Do you WANT this board closed?? With all this silly highschool (or elementary) drama going on, it sure seems like it!!

Gosh, grow up!! He said, she said...... enough said !!!! This post is so silly! I've been given bad reps before and it doesn't bother me one bit. It's just an online forum.

Let it GO!! Please.....

I seriously have not seen anything so bad that they would take our board from us! I just don't get all the personal stuff. Like I mentioned before, why be so critical of any post. Take it for what it is, if you don't like what the person says, move on. So many times ppl have come here for advise, only to be attacked for something in the original post. Advise or don't, but why tear the post apart and become personally critical of the poster. I'll never get that...........

I didn't know it was you. I'll bet a lot of folks didn't. You outed yourself a lot worse than dnj did.


What bothers you more? That fact that 4 people saw your name or the fact that it was pointed out you bad repped her on a post that was done 5 weeks ago? That was very necessary on your end, eh? I wouldn't be surprised if there's plenty of folks who think that's ridiculous but won't say for fear of getting the same smear.



I don't know. Maybe when the same small group of inciters manage to read the rules, much less follow them, the moderators might follow! Start a trend cougar, be the first!

Man oh man, same faces, same gripes. It's 2 days into the new year and they're already at it. Still can't find a way to log out and stay logged out, eh? Nahhhh, gotta create that daily dose of drama! OFFLINE life ain't exactly what it used to be, I guess.

Seriously, I don't think some have a clue how bad they come across. They think they're all big, bad and bossy, finger pointing and flinging the word "rules" around like a flag, when they've broken many themselves. People see and realize more than you think. It's a pathetic shame.

Have a HAPPY New Year folks...give it a shot if you can.

Yes, some do want it closed, for the I told you sos and pats on the back. VERY high school.

He said...she said...enough said....WELL said!

Um, you referred and attacked me BY NAME!

Then you edited out a few letters, leaving asterisks to make sure that everyone could fill in the blanks. I did not start this thread, you did - and against the Rules of Play, I might add. So after you start a fight, you wimp out and walk away, leaving your inappropriate thead that should never have been started, huh. I made a comment for your eyes only in your personal feedback saying that you exhibeted unprofessional moderation. No one had to know but you decided to share it with the world. You broke the Rules of Play to do it, too and as a moderator, you should be setting a good example, not stirring up trouble on the board.

And I'm glad you did because it proves my remark was correct.

You are indeed unprofessional!

Since you have stated that you prefer Xanax to Valium, try a Xanax Big Gulp. It appears that your present dosage isn't very effective!ROFL

I have the solution.
All members be required to wear a mood ring.
If your mood ring is red you must post in the red forum.if your mood ring is blue you must post in the blue forum and if your mood ring is green,post in the green forum,and if your mood ring is black your not allowed to post in ANY forum!

Amen to that ^^^

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"Never loan your car to someone you have given birth too"

How can the members be expected to follow the Rules of Play when the moderators keep breaking them?

OMG. You can't be serious. Shouldn't it be the other way around? Aren't they called McLeaders? Your way would make them McFollowers, wouldn't it? Who needs a leader that has to follow a follower? LOL

BTW, you may not like my opinions but I haven't broken any Rules of Play. I'm entitled to express my opinion and so is any other member. Starting threads to rail against one member isn't the same thing as simply expressing your opinion and oddly enough, insulting and calling out members by name seems to only be being done by moderators. It makes you wonder if My Coupons is just desparate for traffic and is trying to create some any way they can.

I saw Moderators call out allinaugust and dreamscapes on the boards by name and now, Moderator dnj51has decided to do it to me.

It was wrong then and it's wrong now. Although, it reflects much more poorly on the moderators than it does the member. McLeaders should lead by example, not create petty dramas just to increase traffic.

I think if anyone were to expect me to be a "professional " moderator, I better dang be paid for it!

Paid or unpaid, if you agree to do a job, you should do try to do it well. Wouldn't you expect a PTA volunteer room mother to follow school rules? And a mod to follow the rules they're supposed to be enforcing?

No, I wasn't serious. I almost typed *tongue in cheek* and */tongue in cheek* before and after the sentence. I figured that would be obvious, but I guess not. There are several members who I expect to straddle the lines of the rules like it's a game and there are some who I expect to blatantly break them and then cry when called out. Members follow the rules? Please! You're right, I'm FAR from serious.

Why is everything about traffic? What about when you or a few others starts a high drama thread or high drama post? Is THAT about traffic too? Because if you're assuming that high drama threads and posts are about traffic, we got some Guilty-Gerties in this thread! You included....

I've seen members do a lot worse not only to each other, but to admin and and moderators. I've seen a lot of it let go by those same admin and moderators. When some editing is done, "FAVORITES!! FAVORITES!!" becomes the new battle cry. For a few of you, moderators should take WHATEVER you feel like dishing out and just better like it! What PLANET are some of you on?

I've seen plenty in my 4 years here, believe me. You want to give your opinion, FINE. But be ready to take responsbility for it and when you're called out on it, that's LIFE. Everyone and I do mean EVERYONE in all walks of life is subject to that. Some want to talk however THEY want to and how DARE someone to confront them on it! Sweet Lord above.

Whoever said all this crap is all high school hit the nail RIGHT on the head. The biggest criers are the worst offenders.

Curious, cougar...why did you HAVE to bad rep her on a post 5 weeks old? What does that possibly accomplish except look childish and spiteful? Certainly wasn't because you haven't been on the boards lately.

I got curious and checked myself out. "That person" flamed me too!! I had written that my 23 yr old has a heart of gold and might have done the same thing. She wrote that I have a wimpy son!!!! lol "That person" could only be blessed to know my son! During that blizzard we had here he stopped and shoveled out 4 people on the way home from work with NOT ONE person thanking him. Only one nodded as he drove off. Was "that person" one of the people he shoveled out??? lol I remember this thread now and "that persons" post was just wicked. We should all just ignore nasty posts. I think they like all the controversy.

I would expect a PTA volunteer to have an opinion "about" the school rules.

But, would you expect them to say things about other parents or children at the school??? I would not.

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lol!!

I just noticed I got bad repped on 12/31/07, for a post I made on 11/20/07! Yes folks, that's over a MONTH old. Wonder how many others got "spanked" by Cougar for weeks-old posts?

Really thinking it... 12-31-2007 09:59 PM cougarskies NOT worth reading

Geez, Cougs, don't you have anything at all positive to do for the New Year? How sad, on New Years Eve, sitting here bad repping people for posts made weeks and weeks before. You have to DIG just to insult people?

Man oh man, I seriously hope you can have a more pleasant New Year. You gotta be one sad dude to dig dig dig to pick at people.

I agree, we should all just ignore nasty posts!!!! And I also agree that the nasty posters must like the controversy.

I often wonder what these ppl are like irl.....ugh......

Nobodys perfect.

I already answered that question.

Uh huh but 'Life' or not, the mods should follow the rules they agreed to enforce. And it's the mods who are confronting the members (which is in direct violation of the rules they agreed to enforce).

I posted this in response to another thread but it is also applicable to this one:

Mods are volunteers, they do this because they care about the community. They help out by keeping the posts on topic which is very helpful in the boards that have a very specific purpose and by helping to keep things civil. They are part of the community. One of the reasons we stopped using the MCLeader names was to allow them to communicate and participate as themselves and to make it clear that they are part of the community just like everybody else.

The work they do is very helpful and it's their efforts that really help to make this place work but again they are people, they are members of the community and they certainly can participate within the community they care enough for to serve.

You guys can hammer away at me all you want. I can take it. You can complain about the site or MyCoupons in general. We can take it. However, when it comes to the mods, I need you to cut them a break. They are doing their best and serving this community and there is no need to rip on them, again they are volunteers.

One of the points that is made in the bullets above is that we reserve the right to yank a post for just about any reason. I hate to have posts or threads deleted, I want a place that people are free to discuss anything they want to discuss but if one of our volunteer mods feels she is being attacked, I'll just remove the thread or post myself and if it continues I'll have no choice but to ban. I really, really don't want to have to do that. Again, just give them a break, remember they are volunteers and that we want a friendly community. We are all adults and there really is no need for childish games, now is there?
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Only those who flamed and insulted me in that particular post. And you Mallerie, how very many posts you have made to this thread! Aren't you unusually interested and involved in all of this? Or has the mod taken my advice and started posting as a member? ROFL!

Yes, you did, I apologize.

Why you did to to me was unclear. It was nothing more than a cutting comment. It was a jab, pure and simple. I have no idea what dnj's said, by it's CRYSTAL clear on mine. It's pretty sad if that's what you feel you need to do. Don't get me wrong, at best, it's funny that you had to do that weeks and weeks later. Says a lot about you though. But, I have no responsibility for the kind of person you are - no problem for me!

Yah, I know. Maybe some feel mods should just take it and shut the heck up. I just don't happen to subscribe to that viewpoint.

Enquiring (translated: nosy) minds are dying to know what the original thread was so I can decide if I would like to put my two cents in. After all my opinion is sooooo important I am sure everyone is holding their breath waiting for it LOL she said with a laugh. (I hope you all know I am just kidding-about the important part- but I am nosy and I do want to know what I missed)

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Thank you Mr. President.

This board would be much better if we got rid and called out the biatches. Let's start naming.

Courgarskies-has an opinion about everything and everyone but herself
MarilynK- Seems to be the only one that knows anything about anything. Just ask her she has intimate knowledge about everything and everyone else is just a dumb- a$$
Nightowlrn- has to call all the newbies a troll what is she our welcoming committee
deddlastt-seems to think she is something special she likes to call out the trolls when she herself is a troll aka charleston! Umm and loves to put pretty stars all over the board.
Mallarie seems to be the only one here with a good head on her shoulders she can fight like a queen with you biatches.
Dreamscapes- where are you i am sure you are here somewhere. bet your a troll now!!!

cjs- your the coolest one here

Never have I seen an angrier group of ladies (if I can call you that) than I do here. You must have nothing to make your lives worth living besides cyber space I feel so sorry for all of you. I feel even more sorry for your husbands and ex-husbands no wonder they left you. The worst part is you all have children what in the world are you teaching them?

Mods are people who are trying to make this place nice for all of you. You are the ones ruining it yourself.

If you want to find out .just let me know, and I'll derep so you won't miss out on anything.

Insulted and flamed...or just said something you didn't like/agree with?

Ooo ooo!! And then so covertly accuse them of being someone else! lol Do you have any other straws you'd like to grasp at?

So sorry, am I supposed to be impressed?

I've been here since 2003, as you can EASILY see, but probably don't take the time to look. I post where/when I want to say something. Sorry of that's an issue for you, but you don't run the show. Until you can get it listed in the rules that "Mallerie may only post where cougarskies says it's ok", you're outta luck, Chuck, get over it.

LOL, its not hard to guess who this is.
But don't I get at least an honorable mention?

Ok...buy me a clue and fill me in.

That would be cheating, now roll the dice and take your turn.

Purely 100% hysterical!