what would that be? ~Lisa

I am sure that I could make a list... but since we only get one thing... hmmm.

I have thought about it for a bit and I think that I would want to make it so my Dad didnt suffer from anxiety. It really limits him from doing things in life just because they are outside his comfort zone. He will never come and visit me in NC because it would mean traveling out of state and he isnt good going to new places at all. He will never see my house and he will not be there when I graduate from college in May.

I would have loved to make my mom more of a mom type person but really I think that would take more than one thing to change for her.

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Sell crazy some place else, we are all stocked up here.

One thing? LOL Probably to make they realize that I'm a grown woman, and not 15. LOL

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Forgiveness is love in its most noble form. -Anonymous

I wish they'd loan me $10,000. Other than that they are perfect.

Will your dad try meds??? I lived most of my life with chronic anxiety, just like your dad, and I am on Zoloft and it works great. Meds can REALLY change your life!!! He sounds just like me. PM me if you want more info.

I love my parents and am very blessed that I have them. They live kind of in my backyard-- around the block and down a couple of houses. I appreciate them every day.

I wish my parents had shown more love in the household.

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I wish my mom hadn't smoked her entire life. She now suffers from COPD and I am the only one around to take care of her (my dad died over 20 years ago). My siblings all live in another state. My mom would be so active if she didn't have this awful disease......

I wish my parents would have been more encouraging and supportive as far as college goes. They didn't do anything, other than secure a bank loan for the community college which I had to pay on every month, while in school. They really did me a disservice. I do love them though-they just didn't know any better. And unfortunately, at 17, fresh out of h.s., neither did I.

I wish they had more time to spend with my kids. We lived maybe 5 minutes drive away, if that, and they didn't see them all that often. The smoking and drinking bothers me less than that lol... my grandparents are over 1000 miles away and I had hoped my kids would get to know their grandparents better than I do mine (not a bad relationship, just don't see each other very often)

I wish they were alive.

I'm with wildwood. I wish they were both alive today. I would love for them to meet David and to see that I am finally happy again.

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Me too - I wish my dad didn't die - one month ago today.

I'm so sorry. Mine have been gone a long time now, but it's hard at first.

I wouldn't change a thing at this point since they have both passed on and are probably quite happy now.
I do wish that my father hadn't been an alcoholic and my mother an enabler but that's alll over with now.
What I do wish I could change is some of the things that I have done as a mother and now know better.
I did nothing horrible but just the little things.

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I would like to add to the list of those who wish their parents were alive! mine both died in their 40's
such a shame I never got to know them as an adult, they were both gone by the time I was 19

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What the country needs is dirtier fingernails and cleaner minds.

I just want to say that I'm sorry to all of you who have lost your parents. I haven't had to experience that yet, but I know that it's going to be a terrible loss...especially my Mom. We're very close...she's like my best friend. Anyway, I guess if I had to change something about them, it would be that my Dad wouldn't have been a raging alcoholic. He's been "sober" for 19 years now and I'm very proud of him...but our childhood wasn't really a happy one because of his drinking. I also wish that he would have been able to show us love. He always was a great provider, but money doesn't buy love and affection. As for my Mom, I guess I would change her co-dependent ways. Everything has always revolved around my Dad...what he wants...She has never really gotten to do some of the things that she's always wanted to do...it's very sad that she has to walk around on eggshells all of the time because of him. I wish she would have had the strength to have left him when we were kids. I think that her life would have been much happier.

I would just be happy if both my mom and and dad were still here with me. My dad passed away when I was 22 (he was 49), shortly after that my mom became disabled with MS and after many years of suffering she passed away when she was 58. Although my parents weren't perfect....I would give anything to have them back in my life! For those of you with parents that are still here.....please appreciate and love them every single day!!!

I know I am fortunate-at 38, my parents are still alive and doing well. So many of you have posted that they have lost their parents. I just dread that day. My parents are only 10 mins. away, and we speak usually every day. They are so active in our lives-go to every boys' sports games, band concerts, etc. My brother lives in Australia, and my sister in Arkansas (we are in Virginia), so they are extremely involved in our boys' lives. I wouldn't trade them for the world. I am sorry for all of your losses.

I wish I had my mom back for many reasons, but I know she would adore our Faithy, and my dad...well, the only thing i would change would be to make him go to Fl. with me to see my kids in the Easter production they'll be in ...other than that, he's pretty much perfect in my eyes!!!

I wish I could have seen my parents have a loving relationship growing up. I wish they weren't so negative. I wish I could have a more open and honest relationship with both of them. I wish I didn't have to walk on eggshells what I say to my mom without her flipping out.

I don't want my kids to feel like that they can't talk to me.

My mom passed away Nov 2006...I hadn't seen or spoken to her for about 3 years before that. She was already gone by the time we made it up to Missouri (we live in Texas and she was in MO visiting her sisters for Thanksgiving) the next day after my aunt called. I can't say that I regret not having spoken to her all that time before she died...there were valid reasons. I just wish she had been a different person and we could have had some sort of relationship...I pray for her soul every day and hope that she is not sad...

As for my dad, he was an alcoholic when we were young but straightened himself out. He and I are VERY close. We found out several months ago that he has multiple myeloma...that is all I wish was different about him. I wish he didn't have cancer. He has always been very active and an on-the-go kind of person, even at almost 66 years old...but with the chemo he is tired all the time and can't play with my kids the way he used to, which makes him sad.

peapie

I would have had my dad not drop dead of a heart attack when I was 15!!!!! God has blessed us with a healthy mom though. She's 83 now, so far, so good!!!

I wish my mil, the woman who mothered me for nearly 30 of marriage was still alive, she died almost 2 years ago. More than changing anything about her, I wish I coulda changed how I viewed her for my first 5 or so years of marriage. It took me that long to truly appreciate her. I miss her more than words can express, she was the absolute best mother and grandmother in the universe.
I wish I could change fil having Alzheimer's, breaks my heart to see the old coot so debilitated lately.
My own mom, I wish I could change how she always felt she had to compete with her older sister. My aunt had 16 kids, alll single births, my mother had 7 kids. I think my own mom woulda been much happier if she had only 3 or 4 kids at the most, but she was just so competitive with my aunt.
My own dad died about 3 years ago, I wish he coulda been happier with himself for being the compassionate person he was and not felt so compelled to live up to unrealistic expectations as the only living child of immigrant parents.
MZ

Those of you that have parents here are more blessed thank you know. My beautiful Mom passed away when I was 16, from a horrific fight with cancer. Unfortunantly, at that age , you are only thinking about yourself, so then you have the rest of your life to kick yourself for not being a better daughter. My Dad was not involved with us. Now days, I see Moms with their daughters, holding their grandbabies in stores or wherever, and I want to run up to them and make sure they are not taking everything for granted. You are all so blessed, flaws and all.

For my dad, I wish he didn't drink so much and for my mom, two things.........that she wouldn't be so cold and that she would drop her idiot husband (my dear ol stepdad) but I think if she dropped him, she probably wouldn't be so cold!

Kathie

I wish my mom was more mature and realistic. She hates my husband actually has hated any guy I have ever dated, so of course that continued when I married. Went back to visit the family for XMas, and she had a huge outburst at my husband when he disciplined our daughter for lying, and currently she isn't talking to me because we got into a disagreement about my husband. When I told her I didn't want to argue with her about it, she said 'ok, neither do I, so goodbye', and she hung up the phone on me, and I haven't heard from her since!! Really funny, the day we were leaving, she sat on the couch next to me, and told me I could stay with her and get a job there, and let my husband drive home by himself!! Nice, huh?

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Love them both and thankful they are here but sick of my Dad treating my DH like crap when he does everything by the books. It's sad because this really hurts when my Dh tries to have a conversation with him and the response will be what the hell do you kknow about football etc. It stinks and makes me feel so angry.

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I wish my dad was just here hes also gone been gone 9yrs now cant believe the man I thought would never die ya know I thought he was invencible is gone that long. As for my mom I love her dearly the only thing I would change is that she had more energy for my kids

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Can I wish for a new mother? My mother was never a mother, my grandma raised me. My mom is/was an alcoholic, prescription pill addict and psycho. Before anyone asks how I can be so hostie towards her, I will let you know that I have 2 brothers and she has told people stories ( at different times) of how we died and how she needed money to bury us, just in order to get money to support her addictions.

I wouldn't chnge anything about my dad, well maybe I'd like him to just buy me a new car instead of just fixing mine for me all the time

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I just got a firm grip on reality....
Now I can strangle it

I wish my mom would stop comparing me and my brother. He's perfect and so is his family. Their house is immaculate (mine would be too if it were that small), her dd is a great reader, wife works, etc. I'm the screwed up one. Oh and it's ok my 6 yr old niece wears XL clothes because she's so fat.

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I wish my dad was still alive, he got killed when I was 16 and I was a daddy's girl. There is nothing I would change about my mom, she is the BEST!!!

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I wish my Mom took better care of her body. She is just letting herself fall apart and is taking little to no action to prevent it. It's like she's ok with it. I talk to her about it. I tell her that I love her and I can't stand the thought of her letting herself go. Heart disease is the number one killer of women, and she's leaving the door wide open for it. I tell her that her grandkids (7 of them, not all mine) love her and want her around for a good long time. From the way I'm talking you would think she's pretty old, she's not! She's only 56. I love her. I live 8 hours from her and call her at least once a day. I hate knowing something is going to happen and I can't do anything about it.

I would love for my father to get back the use of his hands and legs. He has had neuropthy cause by amoloid for the last 5 years and its getting worst. He was such an active person. Now he has to rely on someone to help him with everything. Its really hard on me and my mother.

I would prevent my Mom from calling me at work so she can say right off the bat, "Your phone etiquette is terrible! You really need to work on that!"

Mmmmm........thanks, Mom. I just paid the IRS a tax deposit that was out of freaking sight, I'm working on state taxes and I'm supposed to have joy, joy, joy, down in my heart and in my voice. Pass the FairTax and I'll smile.

Done venting, now. Thank you.

I wish my mom would have never smoked, she died when I was 20 from Lung Cancer
She has and will miss many things (We got soo close after she found out, It was a kick in the butt for me to realize she would be gone, it was not even a month after graduation when she found out, I apologized soo many times for being mean to hear saying aweful things, she said, " I was a teenager once too, it happens and I know you really didn't mean it)
And it is pretty hard
My dad, hes got a really good heart and a great guy, just messy and kinda lazy , But if i need him he would be there in 2 minutes
Suzanne

I would love to still have my parents here too. My Dad died at 40 of a heart attack and my Mom at 50 of lung cancer. She smoked since she was a teen. She finally quit and then about 6 months later found out she had very advanced cancer. For those of you that just had recent losses, I still feel like crying even while writing this, but it does get easier! I think the best way to describe it is that the pain is still there, but the sting is gone. Eventually you will be able to talk about them without always crying. BTW they were great parents and the only thing I would have changed was the smoking. My Dad had a sense of humor that was incredible. Even 20 years later, I still run into people who have stories about him that I never heard.

I wish my mom would take more time for herself. She has taken on the role of caretaker for my Dad. Everything she does now is with him in mind first. On the other hand I love how much she still loves him, and he her.
I wish my Dad didn;t have to do kidney dialysis. He does it at home with tons of help from Mom. He is rapidly loosing his spirit, He has always been the strong one, the one that everyone asked for help.Now he is the one that needs the help and it depresses him terribly. I see him getting weaker and weaker, its so sad.

I wish my mother could relax and just enjoy the moment. She's a ball of energy (the kind that always gets things done). I just wish she could sit back and appreciate how well she did it before she moves on to the next project.

I miss my dad so much, its been six months since he died, and I still cry thinking about him (I did last night). My mom does not think I do anything right.

My father passed away when I was 15 and 24 years later, the pain is still there. I wouldn't change anything about him, he was the best father.

My mother is 79 and in a relationship that has her miserable. He's 80 and a jerk, tight wad, and is always grumpy. But he dotes on my kids and to be honest they wouldn't have some of the things they do if it wasn't for him. I just wish he would soften up so my Mom would be happier. She's a wonderful person and everyone loves her, so it kills me to see her not happy. And I'm the ONLY one she will vent too about him, to the other family members, friends, he's the best, she would never put him down to anyone else, so I get to hear it all

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Proud Single Mother to 18 year old Twins Ashley/Davey, 14 year old Shawna, 5 year old Emma, and my Boo Bear, "Angel Hope" (1996-1997) RIP Boo.

I have to say even though we had issues growing up that I would never wish on my worst enemy that I wouldn't change anything, because it all turned me into who I am today....and I have to say I like me....

I am fortunate......my parents and I have moved forward with our lives, and though we aggravate the heck out of each other at times, we have become friends. Even though they are not in my daily life, I cannot imagine life without them.

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My dad would not be an alcoholic
My mom would have a backbone.