Wow the thread really took a weird turn, so I am posting an update in a seperate thread.

I called the school and talked to the principal. Since it took place in gym she wrongfully assumed that the coach had called me. She thought the punishment was appropriate, I responded that I did not think it was appropriate for her exposing my child, the principal was honestly shocked. The coach did not inform her that the underwear was pulled down as well. She apologized and stated that it would be taken care of and the punishment would be altered. She did address the severity of the issue with the parents of the girl and was calling them again after I had spoken to her. She also planned on talking with the coach (who we have had many issues with, and who just thought it was a harmless prank) and the consequences that the child and school could of faced. T

The girl is now in alternative education placement, which holds more consequences and for a much longer period of time. Also the zero tolerance of sexual harrassement in the school. My son just wants it to be not discussed anymore, and his friends from this all have learned a lot about what is a prank and what is sexual harrassment. Hopefully it will prevent other students from suffering the same humiliation.

Thanks again for all the advice, even though some of it seemed to get a little heated.

I am glad that you spoke with the principal and corrected the misinformation that she had been given!

If you are satisfied with this outcome, then I think it is satisfactory. I can certainly understand your son's wish for it all to go away!

I'd say that was an ideal soloution! The girl has been sent the message that pulling down someone's underwear isn't acceptable behaviour and hopefully, she and others will remember it. Your son and other victims have been sent the message that their well being is valued. I'd honor my son's wishes and not discuss the incident anymore. I'm sorry it happened to your child but I'm glad everything worked out so satisfactorily!

and hopefully the Gym teacher will also be reprimanded/disciplined for his/her part in the fiasco! I would wonder, based on what the OP says, what kind of supervision the teacher is providing!?

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Sounds like a good outcome for a bad situation. Thanks for updating us and fkudos or championing the situation.

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I'm so glad it is turning out for the better. I hope your son is OK. I'm glad that the kids did learn something out of a bad situation.

I am always getting on our Gym teachers for not watching and doing ANYTHING about the bullying that goes on with my kids. It doesn't happen when I go and sit through gym class. I've had to take a few girls and boys to the principle's office for the same exact thing, and they did get 5 days out and also had to go to alternative schooling.
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About 2 months ago , (While I was helping one of my wheelchair kids) I was kicked in the face. full on with a kick ball from a bully, it knocked my contacts out. I snached him up by the collar, ( actually wanted to do my worse to him ) my eyes watering and thought I was getting a black eye, ran him to the principles office. He was kicked out of school and is still in alternative schooling. I hope he NEVER comes back. He was laughing about the incident and said to all his friends that he wanted to get that Bitc* of a teacher back for sticking up for the "retards".

This kid is in the 7th grade. I hate to see him when he gets to high school. .

I think that the kids need to see what happens to them when they make bad decisions. If it starts now, then when they do get into high school, they should know what is expected of them. I also feel bulling needs to have stricter consequences.

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What is alternative schooling??

OP, glad it worked out..

In our area , alternative schooling is much like JAIL. They go down to the juvenile detention center everyday, there is a certified teacher / police officer , who is their teacher. It is much like being in jail for them, no talking , work, work and more work. They do not mouth off or twitch an eye at them. They are given jail house food for the day. Pick up and delivered to school by a truant officer. It does work for some kids, and for others it does not. I think it depends on the home life. Actually it does depend on the home life. Ive seen some bad kids go though there and the parents are right on them, and the others...... the parents do not care.

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Here, they have a special school that the kids go to when they get kicked out of their regular school. It caters to the problems in the district.

Lisa

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glad you are satisfied with the outcome!

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Sounds like the school district needs to implement a better communication system when a student gets into trouble. In my district there is the infamous pink slip. The teacher writes all info on that slip and it accompanies the child to the office. In middle school when each child reached the office, each was given a piece of paper on a clipboard and a pencil and were told to write down what happened. This occupied the child while waiting for the principal or vice principal and also put everything into writing while it was fresh on their mind.
When all info is documented, there's no doubt or miscommunication about what happened.

Good for you for sticking to your guns and making sure the right thing is done.

Oh that is a whole other can of worms!!!! The supervison, coaching etc is a joke and others along with myself have complained numerous times! I would need a whole day to type up the issues that we have had in there. But, the principal was going to address it with the coach, not that it will do any good. We are just hoping that his contract is not renewed this year.

Thanks again for all the support.
K

That's what we have here too. And within these schools are various levels of freedom or punishments depending on the child's behavior/problems.

OP, I'm glad you were able to let the principal know what really happened and have it handled in a way that satisfied you and your son.

me thinks she just likes your bambino

Good For You! You took a strong position and held it! Good for your son!

Kerry,

Thanks for the update. I'm so glad you got involved.

The old thread DID get strange - but it hopefully helped people to see the seriousness of the situation. Maybe some posters here will have a dialogue with their kids about this, and your son's issue will have helped other kids to make better choices. And, like you said, hopefully the peers in his school leerned from it, as well.

D

Kerry, it wouldnt hurt to show up at a board meeting and let them know your displeasure with this coach

Oh trust me if I thought it would do any good I would, but that would be preaching to the choir! They know and have known about him in the past. I just pray that the rumors that he is leaving are true!

The girl got 30 days combined AEP and ISS instead of the original 3 days ISS.

Thanks again for all the support.

I'm glad that you got involved and stood up for your son. He may have wanted no one to mention it anymore but I'm sure he appreciates that you took the matter seriously. Good job, mom!

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You are a good mom for following thru with this!