Isn't C average? Yes I don't want my child to be average but isn't it? Are kids supposed to be getting A's instead of C's? I am truly asking because I don't know. I do know that if my oldest gets a C he is in trouble if my middle son does we have a party! So I ask you all is it ok to get a C or is C not average?

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As long as the child did their best I see no reason why a C would be bad.

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I agree with DNJ~ As long as the child was putting forth their best effort I think it would be good enough. I always told my children that it didnt matter if they got A's or not... As long as I knew they were trying.

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I believe C's are okay if it is a true C and not a lazy C. My DSS (13) brings home about 1 A, 2 B's, 3 C's and 1 D, and his mother is okay with all the grades expect the D. On the other hand DH thinks that DSS could/should be doing a lot better, but is just sliding thru. The majority of his tests are A, but tends to get lower grades due to lack of participation in class and not doing his homework. If I had a say in it, DSS would get a LOT less screen time, so he can focus more on completing his homework. I just hate the fact that he is wasting his potential....he is the complete package, smart, kind, respectful,genuine, and so darn lovable. I would hate that him not doing well in school could bite him in the butt later in life, when applying for college....or even in the work force, since he is learning bad work habits. Sorry didn't mean to rattle on......just a sore subject for me....

So the answer to the OP's question, C's are fine if that is there best. But allowing them to get C's because its passing is unacceptable to me.

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Oldest gets the lazy C's. He can do the work he just doesnt feel he has to though he's moving into high school and we met with the counselors for his electives and they talked about credits and college and all that maybe he'll understand from the counselor that it's time to do it and not slide by instead of listening to the parents cause if you go by him we know nothing.

My 9 year old is honor roll and he's expected to make A's/B's more he expects himself to make good grades he's my boy that wells up in tears if he's sick and has to stay home he was upset the other day cause he had to stay home and it'd ruin his perfect attendance.

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My son gets an A average but if I look at his grades online, he is making A's and F's in his Language Arts class.

To me, it shows that he's probably so intelligent (ha ha!) that he is testing the gradebook -- just not very smart, if you ask me.

Not a good habit to get into for real life...

I agree with others... they each need to reach their highest potential. Defining C as 'average' has been a long-running mistake printed on the report cards. What is average for one child is below/above average for another.

Exactly!

I had one class in high school (Advanced Anatomy) that I was THRILLED to get a C in! It was a hard class, and it actually challenged me. I learned more obtaining my C in that one class than I did in all the other classes that I got As in!

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I agree with everyone else. I think grades are dependant on the individual.

My stepdaughter is fully capable of straight A's (sometimes they're even like 102-105 pts and that's in advanced classes and she skipped a grade - brag brag ). If she brings home a B then we know she slacked off somewhere and that's unacceptable. One year she completely skipped over doing a project (so she got a 0) because she thought since she had all A's it wouldn't hurt her. She was surprised when she got a B in the class (yea, she's book smart but lacking in the common sense). We are so glad the city we moved to has online grades because we can check on everything and are always on top of school work. They list all their homework/classwork for each day and we get notified if a grade is missing for whatever reason.

On the other hand, our DD gets all A's except a B (high B) in math. That is perfectly acceptable because she puts out an effort in math and it's just the best she can do right now.

I would probably be disappointed if any of my kids brought home a C but if there was a valid reason, I wouldn't make a big deal out of it. Fortunately, with the online grades I can keep up on what's going and see exactly what kind of work they're struggling with and work with them on it at home.

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When I consider C as
average, it is because it is the grade in the MIDDLE. A and B are above it and D and F are below it. So I always think of C as average in that way. Not terrible and not terrific! Just somewhere in bewteen the two.

Depends on the child of course. I remember in high school when he ended up with a D- and he sincerely looked at me and said "do you know how hard it was for me to get it that high?" My reply was something like "gee, what did you have to do, actually show up for class?" lol lol He's ADHD and hated school so I didn't care what he got as long as he passed!!!

All kids are different in learning. I have aspergers kids who if they get a C they completely shut down. Its not acceptable to them. they want A's . I will not doctor a grade to make them feel better. I say, a C is average, some kids are A's and some are C's. One is not better then the other. Its how they work, if they try and get a C. Then we do a dance and hoop and hollar. But if I know they can do better, I get on them . I know they can do better.

You see I also work with social skills too. My kids are a hand full. but they try their best, and that is all I ask for.

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I agree with everyone that it depends on the child and if they are really trying or just getting by. My ds usually gets As and Bs, but came home with a C in reading. I was disappointed, but realized he had improved significantly (sp) in 2 other subjects. It all depends on the individual child.

Carrie, I've been wondering that same thing also! I'm so torn.

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In our house, it depends on the child and the subject. DD brough home a "C" in her Science class.. She has maintained straight A's in all her classes for at least the past 3 years, and that "C" threw up a red flag. Come to find out, the teacher mixed up her grade with another student, and DD was getting an "A".

There is nothing wrong with a "C", but, when the child is capable of doing "A" work in that class, there is no reason to get a "C". If it's a subject my child is not particularly fond on and just can't quite grasp, a "C" is fine.

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I would say if they did their absolute best then it would be ok BUT in my house NO way. Both of my kids are more than capable of bringing home straight A's and for the most part they do. My oldest Son is super LAzy and never and I mean NEVER studies and still makes straight A's. He hits Jr. High next year so I am curious to see if he will have to study then. MY sister was like that-never studied , always made straight A's. I worked hard and still never got the straight A's. My parents didn't expect us to all be as smart as her but we were expected to try . My kids are pretty evenly matched in the Smarts dept so I am not sure how I would be if one brought home all A's and the other didn't. I guess as long as they actually did the work and studied I would be ok but I think I would be more involved with their actual studies. Helping them study and making sure they stay on task.

Carrie -

I'm with everyone else who says that C is OK, as long as its a child's best work and he/she got help from both parents and teachers to address the things they had difficulty comprehending. I want to believe that every child has an "A" subject - something that he/she truly excels in - even if it isn't a graded subject, if you know what I mean. Something to nurture and put to good use from a job/career standpoint.

As far as whether C is average, I do think you need to check with your teachers and/or school. Based on what I've seen with my kids, I'm thinking that it isn't really average anymore....Average seems to be more along the low end of the B scale. If C were the mathematical average, then there would be a lot more students pulling Ds and failing than I think there are. That's my percpeption as a parent of a HS senior and an 8th grader.....no more qualifications than that!

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I think a C is acceptable as long as the child really tried as hard as they could, did all the assignments, took advantage of extra help, etc. If they're being lazy then it is not acceptable.

There are some subjects/concepts that are just harder for some people to "get" than others.

I remember back in college I got pretty much all A's and B's. Then came ORGANIC CHEMISTRY. I did not understand that class at all and I did everything in my power to try to get it. I did all the assignments, I went to the optional review sessions, I asked questions in class, I made flash cards to study from, etc. I NEVER worked so hard in a class in my entire life. My grade when all was said and done? A big fat D. The only D I ever got in college and only the second D I got in my entire academic career. But I was proud of that D because I had worked my butt off for it and about 1/4 of the class didn't even pass. Thanks god that was the only organic chemistry class I ever had to take(funny thing is inorganic chemistry was easy for me, I even liked it. But making those models with the tinker toys in organic just confused the heck out of me).

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If a C is a grade your child gets by trying, doing their work and put all their effort into it then a C is fine.

If you child gets a C by not doing their work and slacking then no a C is not fine for a grade.

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The question, to me, depends on capability. For some, obtaining a "C" grade is harder than some who get straight As. If a C is the top of their capability, then it is an A in my mind and eye. If I have a child/student who is capable of As and doesn't work towards that goal, then that would be something we would have to have a long talk about, and rearrange priorities. But if my child was working the hardest in their abilities my smile would be wide and welcoming of their C-that -is -an A -in -my -book.

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I personally feel that a C is fine.
My oldest maintained a 4.0 (A average) in elementary, junior and high school.
Now he is struggling in his first year of college. We do know that he is putting in 110% and are very proud of him regardless of the grades he may receive.
Our 5th grade twins are following in their brothers footsteps with great grades, scoring high on standarized tests and are in the gate program...time will tell how well they do in college or beyond.
We don't put a great emphasis on grades, don't expect straight A's, but do expect them to learn and have fun while doing it.

If my child had worked hard to get a C I would be fine. If they brought the book home every night and studied and pulled a D I would be fine. If they didn't study and got a C I would be angry. I would rather my child actually LEARN rather than pull a certain grade. If my child brought home all As but never studied at all, what has he actually learned? My oldest was a straight A student all through school but never cracked a book. In college he was finally challenged and had to study. What more could he have learned if he was challenged. I think the actual grade is far to important anymore, when actual learning is the most importand thing and actual goal.