I know that many of us on here are divorced with kids. Or step parents.
How does the exchange of the kids go? Do you take the kids to the other parents house? Does the other parent come get the children or do you meet somewhere?

Thanks

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GO TONY!!!!!!!!!!! # 20!!!

When I had the issue, whoever could pick up our son did. When we lived in different states we took turns (or my family would come get him) but the father was alsoways repsonsible for bringing our son back home.

Now with my SO & his ex-wfire she brings Sanm to us (no car) but sometimes my SO will take Sam home via Greyhound. Sam is 13 and its only an hour between us.

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My parenting plan has all of those details outlined in it. My ex is responsible for picking up/dropping off the kids. But we are civil to one another and we do co-parent although we're divorced so if I'm going out when it's his time to have the kids, I'll meet him somewhere or there have been cases when one child has gotten sick and needed to come home, I've met him to pick up the kids. On Easter weekend, he had had surgery a few days prior and couldn't drive so I took the kids to him. We really do try to work together, never allow things like pick ups/drop offs to be a problem. Of course, if we have issues that need to be discussed those are done over the phone, never with kids around to hear any of that. Because we are civil to one another, PUs and drop offs have never been an issue. If you have a lawyer, he/she should be able to assist you with all of those details. If getting the kids becomes a problem, you'll probably need to alert your lawyer to that also and make different arrangements.

You can have it laid out however works best for all of those involved.

I would just make sure that it is something consistent and something that all can live with (and commit to). Then make sure that you get it put into your parenting plan/agreement within your divorce. Having it written relieves so much confusion, during a somewhat confusing time for all (my memory was always not working during this time, so it was nice to be able to look at the paper work as a reminder to who had what holidays/pick up, dropo offs/etc)

My friend, Suzann, meets her ex husband halfway at a McDonalds. They never even speak with each other and the kids are always totally quiet. They do not even say anything to their mom until she starts driving off. It is so odd.

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Here I think the noncustodial parent is usually responsible for pick up/drop off. I have been a stepparent for 11 years.
In the beginning we lived quite a distance from the mother so DH agreed to do/pu at a meeting place. Eventually we all lived within a reasonable distance of each other and the mother became responsible for pu/do. She picks her up at our house and brings her back. The mother has since moved 45 minutes away and she still does pu/do. The only time DH is responsible for pick up/drop off is when my stepdaughter is at her mother's for the month of July and he gets one weekend that month...then he goes to pick her up on Friday and takes her back Sunday. There have been a couple of times DH has met the mother half-way when she had surgery and it was uncomfortable to drive...or we pick an alternate pu/do place if we're not going to be home. This usually isn't a problem for her because we're usually closer to her than where our home is.

She used to come to the door to pick her up and then a couple of years ago she just started calling when she was outside and asked to have SD sent out to her. Now that SD has a cell phone, she just calls her when she gets here.

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I am asking because I am going back to court to amend visitation with EXH and DD. Now as it stands per the papers my mother is to take DD to a meeting point about 1/2 way between us. Well she has been going there and he just doesnt show up or waits until the last minute to call and tell her that he isnt coming. She has to wait in this lot for 30 minutes before she can leave. It is just sad as DD realizes that he will not show up. He has never been consistent with visiting. He has never taken her for the month in the summer or 1/2 of vacations as he is allowed. And the weekends that he would show up were just when it was convienent with him.
He has not seen her in almost a year because my mother finally said enough. She is 69 and does not need the aggravation. I have told him on a number of occassions that he is welcome to come pick her up here because he works LITERALLY 500 yards from our house. He refuses because that is, according to him, CONTROLLING him.
I am going to have the papers amended to leave my mother out of it and wanted to know if the non custodial parent is responsible for pick up and drop off. Just curious as how other people handled it.

THanks!

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GO TONY!!!!!!!!!!! # 20!!!

I hope it works out for you. I would guess that he will be responsible for pick ups and drop off as long as there won't be conflict or confrontations if he picks your dd up at your house. If he works that close to your house, there's no reason he can't pick her up. But honestly if he has been this inconsistent with visitation he may find himself with none. The courts here don't play around with kids lives. I hope they're that way everywhere.
Good luck!