I have a few of my own but what is the one that you are sick of hearing about?
Single Mom card, Working Mom, Stay at home Mom, Ex is a deadbeat? There are so so many and I am getting so sick of people always using excuses for their problems. Isn't it ultimately our own fault for MOST of the problems we have. We all make choices and because of the those choices we have consequences. Why can't people just face their choices in life?

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I'd rather be hated for who I am, than loved for who I am not.

Life! is a coin. You can spend it anyway you wish, but you can only spend it once.

FMLA - Family Medical Leave Act

My DH is a supervisor and the stories he tells... oh my.

I would have to say the Race card

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disabled card

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"I can't afford it - poor me" card from people who waste their money on lottery tickets, cigarettes (sorry, smokers), and other ways. MIL plays this card all the time and gets her kids to pay for her medicine, utility bills, home repairs, etc. And she wouldn't use a coupon to save her life.

The entitlement card.

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Mommy Cracked

Those that get assistance and whine that it won't pay the bills....but the sit at their computers (that aren't free) and tell how they and SO can't work but have money for booze and smokes and gas for their cars oh and cable services that can type in here all day but can NOT get a onliine job typing for someone while they couild sit in the same chair and make money. Sorry I can not sympathise with you when you are sitting there and whining when my taxes are paying towards your benefits and I am retired and supporting 4 generations of my family because they don't qualify for the benefits you get because of someones clerical error.

I second this one!

For Sure......yawn...

The "Sorry, but I've been SO BUSY!"

I can't tell you how much this makes me cringe. Most of the time I hear that excuse when it's something that could have been accomplished in a minute or two, anyways. I'm sure some people use it with sincerity, but lately that's not what I've been experiencing.

It's getting to the point now that when I hear it, it just translates to me as "Sorry, it wasn't important enough."

I hate....I am how I am because of my childhood. That one bothers me the most, just because I had a terrible childhood....and I mean terrible. But when I turned 18, I made a decision....that from that moment on what ever I did and whatever I do is my responsibility. I was going to either become what I came from or become the polar opposite. I feel you can't blame what you do as an ADULT because what happened to you as a CHILD. JMHO

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Chicago Bears!!!!
We are the Bears Shufflin' Crew
Shufflin' on down, doin' it for you.
We're so bad we know we're good.
Blowin' your mind like we knew we would.
You know we're just struttin' for fun
Struttin' our stuff for everyone.
We're not here to start no trouble.
We're just here to do the Super Bowl Shuffle.

Any of the various and sundry "Poor Me" cards. It's OK to have a pity party every once in awhile, but it gets really old hearing this from the same people all the time. Suck it up and do something about it!!!

JM-NS-HO...

cj/

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Race card for me , too

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Race card. Also the my mom mistreated me as a child and 35 yrs later I'm still not over it crap.

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I am tired of all the cards!!!! I guess I could call that the NO PERSONAL ACCOUNTABILITY Card

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Its threads like this that make me not want to post here any more.

ME TOO!!!!!

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I'd rather be hated for who I am, than loved for who I am not.

Life! is a coin. You can spend it anyway you wish, but you can only spend it once.

Why? I posted this because right now I am surrounded by people with excuses and no action. I have had many problems and there are times and especially right now I feel like just laying down and stopping....but I don't because it is up to me to make things better for myself and I don't believe in excuses. I am sorry if this thread offends you it surely wasn't meant to do that.

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I'd rather be hated for who I am, than loved for who I am not.

Life! is a coin. You can spend it anyway you wish, but you can only spend it once.

Posts like this might strike a chord, but perhaps they can also serve as a catalyst for personal change.

The range of what we think and do is limited by what we fail to notice. And because we fail to notice that we fail to notice
there is little we can do to change until we notice how failing to notice shapes our thoughts and deeds."
Ronald David Laing



cj/

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I was walking home one night and a guy hammering on a roof called me a paranoid little weirdo. In morse code. -Emo Phillips

Me too! It can't be the excuse for everything in your life that doesn't go your way.

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It is posts like this that make me WANT to post here.

Positive or negative ... you get back what you put out. We are the only ones that can make things better for ourselves and I believe there is always action that can be taken to improve a situation.

Many, but, a few off the top of my head would be the "I'm too busy to......." whatever. Well, gee, who ISN'T busy???

The race card drives me nuts, too.

I also hate when people make up excuses as to why they can't do something to save money, yet whine and moan about having NO money. WTH???

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Doing the right thing isn't always the same as doing the easy thing.

I agree with everything posted in this thead, as far as "poor me" "race" "not my fault" etc, etc and this BUSY one really strikes a chord. For several years now, I've considered busy to be a FOUR letter word, as in how distasteful it is and rude. I just don't care to hear it. It's become a status symbol of how successful people think they are, and I simply see it as they can't manage their life.

My brother has been saying this for years. He says it as automatically as he breathes (without thinking, it just happens). A couple of weeks ago I told him I was sorry he couldn't manage his life since he was always so busy and never getting anything accomplished. Of course, he couldn't see beyond his own BUSY life and just didn't get it. Some people are just BUSY being BUSY being BUSY!

dl

Hmmmm...not quite sure I understand why this post makes you feel the way you do. I think it's a great thread. It's always interesting to know what bothers people. It can also make us aware of "cars" we might play but not be aware of. For example, I am one of the those "I've been busy" people. I truly HAVE been busy but it never occurred to me that me saying how busy I am would be a "card". I am going to be a lot more aware of that now

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((((Dolly)))))



Sexysmurf..you quit playing with your cars over there!

Can you tell I had wine with brunch I meant "cards" tee hee

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We are all truely busy, but, when it becomes an excuse for things that, IMO, are important, than it's a problem. I have a wonderful friend who uses this one OFTEN. IMO, you shouldn't be too busy to maintain friendships and relationships.

I guess it's just where we place our priorities.

I'm always "busy", yet put a priority on my relationships I have with people. I think it's important.

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Doing the right thing isn't always the same as doing the easy thing.

Me too.

RACE!! I am sick of that card.. I hear it every day where I work and it gets old... VERY old

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GO TONY!!!!!!!!!!! # 20!!!

The race card

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I personally am talking about 'real life'... I don't *know*any of you except for what I've read in your posts over the couple of years that I have been on these boards.

It's not that we can't discuss these 'cards' or personally feel that we have been dealt them. The point is, don't let them become excuses for not doing the important things in life -- like pursuing relationships with others, volunteering for nonprofit organizations, etc.

I guess that's my take on it. I don't think that the OP or any of us are talking to any of our online friends specifically... I know I'm not. So, I guess my point is... don't ANY of you leave!

Cuthie,

Why such a long face??





Sorry, I had to..lol

I know *I* am talking generalities, no one specific

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the race card also. I think its funy in this day and age to throw the race card around in america, b/c there are so many different kinds of races in america that I think people should be over it by now.

also my childhood sucked so my adulthood should also. I also believe in the you are a grown up you make your life how you want it to be, dont live in the past. of course there are exceptions but the ones that i know who throw the my childhood was awful, are the ones who should of not held on to grudge their whole lives and just lived their lives.

steph

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I bet my friends would say they are sick of me playing the cancer card! LOL

I would say I'm probably most sick of my mother playing the "I deserve to be happy" card. But at what cost, MOM???

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I am tired of the excuses for not taking personal responsibiity.

Lisa

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"It's not having what you want,
It's wanting what you've got"

The pitiful victim or Eeyore card. "Woe is me..life is so hard..everything happens to me..boo hoo...I can't get over this even though it has happened to a bllion people before me and will happen to a quadrillion people after me and they are having a good life. Boo hooo I am so sad..I am so pitiful...etc etc etc"

Things happen to everyone. Don't sit around and cry about it get up off your pitiful ass and do something about it! Life doesn't "do" anything to you or me or anyone else.

That's the worst although I can agree with all the other ones mentioned by the rest of you.

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The political system is broke and it's a joke.

"Too Busy" & "Disabled" - Brothers are too busy to respond to email about getting together for Mother's Day and Neighbor, using Handicapped placard, when she is feeling good and is not having trouble walking. (She brags about this....eeerrrrr)

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Mary

lots I know so many people with so many sorry excuses my ex's is always poor me cant get a job because of his past like thats my fault & my old friend I finally blew off hers was always for everything was her ex if she was late to work it was her ex's fault some how somewhere LOL, then I have friends who are physically disabled maybe that are poor poor me yet they do lots of stuff all but work

Sometimes I feel I am sorry excuse because I am either sick or dh is sick & things dont get done but its just been going that way I was sick & hemroging a few weeks ago & in the hospital now this week I have a strange infection in my leg & dd has strep throat I mean its really always something in my house ALWAYS do I like it of course not

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The "nothing is my fault" card, aka, the "I'm just so unlucky card." No you're not-you repeatedly make stupid choices and expect everyone else around you to feel sorry for you and to pick up the slack for you. This would be my sister....

I simply cannot bear those who say, "I can't", when they haven't even tried.

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Can you explain your response?

Same here

Welcome, deealee2.
You last visited: 12-10-2007 at 05:12 AM

I'm sort of curious too. There's nothing wrong with feeling that way, but what's wrong with threads like this? Everyone is just giving their opinions on a subject, that's all. If people got ugly about it - which can happen in ANY thread - it would be pretty self-explanatory. But nothing's wrong here.

Why is that bad?

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I don't know what you would call it, I guess personal responsibility or lack thereof.

I have a huge problem w/ people that continual complain about the same crappy aspect of their life but do nothing to change it, and make no effort to change.

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Mental that one, I'm telling you. ---Ron Weasley, "Harry Potter and the Chamber of Secrets"

I think visiting public message boards is all about what you put into it and you decide if you get anything out of it or not. I'm here to see things in a different light, to see other opinions. Most of the time nothing is done here to make fun of anyone, we are just discussing in general

When I read this post I thought about what does annoy me, that was my first reaction and then when I read Allinaugust's post about being busy I realized that I do that with certain people and I am learning from it. (I do that with people who don't respect my time and take advantage of my help.)

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"A true friend is someone who thinks that you are a good egg even though he knows that you are slightly cracked." ~ Bernard Meltzer

This post seems designed to bash other people and I don't like that. Let's have everyone that responed repost about what they don't like and see how many have walked a mile in the other person's shoes. For those who don't like the "single mother card" How many have been a single parent. I haven't and I know how fortunate I am to have an incredibly involved husband as the father of my children. Yet I still find raising my children well, to be an exhausting and daunting job.

How many people who dislike the "race card" are of a racial minority? These people didn't get to pick their race. They have to to play the hand they're dealt. And I'll bet few people who've posted about it would trade places with them even if they were Oprah or Michael Jordan. Notice Tiger Woods didn't want to be identified as "Black" and he made sure that he picked a mother for his children that would give them a chance to be "Light, bright and damn near white".

I agree.

I've thought about posting that I don't like "broadbrush card". A post a while back from someone who if I remember worked in an ER and to paraphrase "all the people who came in and qualified for free care had designer nails and the latest cell phones"; or being critical of an individual on foodstamps who bought something someone felt wasn't a "necessity" and "they're wasting my money"!! We're all too quick to make judgements and the anonymity of a board like this brings out the nasty in some of us; it certainly does in my case more frequently then I like.

So, the only reason that Tiger Woods married the woman he did was so his offspring would be "white". My God! And I thought I was jaded....

There is no one particular "card" that I get tired of people playing--what I get tired of are people who refuse to take responsibility for their actions/behaviours/situation, and those who whine/cry/complain but don't do a thing to change.

I work in an industry where I see people who have a sense of entitlement, and don't think that the rules apply to them--that's where I draw my weariness of lack of personal responsibility.

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Mental that one, I'm telling you. ---Ron Weasley, "Harry Potter and the Chamber of Secrets"

I've seen a lot of these "cards" played too.

Do I understand that there are many who try hard to play by all the rules? Sure I do. I also know there are many that don't and will do anything they can use use and abuse to get as much as they can with as little effort.

Just like kids - you have kids that will follow rules and kids that just refuse. There are always going to be people who have every excuse in the book - and will do nothing to help themselves. There are also folks who work as hard as they can and you never hear a peep out of them.

I haven't walked a mile in everyone's shoes, but I have a good sense of MYSELF. If I ended up without a job, in dire monetary straights, I would do everything I could to get myself working again - two or three jobs if I had to. (Been there, done that already, so I guess I have walked in some shoes.) I wouldn't have designer clothes, prepaid cell phone ONLY for emergencies, wouldn't be eating out, couponing my head off - I know there are a lot of things I could do to help myself without expecting the world to do it for me.

I don't understand the Tiger Woods comment at all (it doesn't sound good, but then again, I've never heard a comment like that about a black person), but until that one, this whole thread seemed very nice - just sharing of opinions.

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The Queen of Hearts.
But seriously folks all the "card" are annoying ones so it's hard to pick one. I'd say entitlement and race cards annoy me the most.
How about the "I wish i could loose some weight" from skinny people???? lol