Got invited to a bridal shower and written on the invitation it says "Purse Shower" I have never heard of this and have no clue what it means. Can anyone enlighten me? Thanks.

UPDATE...The shower was actually this past weekend. It was a tacky, just give me the money kind of party. She opened each card, acknowledged the giver and put the envelopes in her purse. Unbelievable!! So if you ever get invited to a purse party, it means just give me $$

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That sounds odd to me. I'm thinking they mean for you to make the gift a purse. I have heard of Lingerie and kitchen showers, but never a purse!!

It sounds to me like they just want everyone to bring money as a gift.

I think you might be right, I also think its cheesy.
I would act stupid and buy a purse just to teach them some manners he he he

You HAVE to be kidding me! Someone is going to invite me to a party and tell me I have to give money! I don't think so. I would either not go or I would put $5 in a card with a cute baby picture of the girl.

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I have never heard of a purse shower either. I would have thought it meant to buy her a purse.

At school, they are throwing a surprise pre-wedding shower for the groom (a teacher) Our invite said to bring gifts of restaurant gift cards. That struck me as odd. However, if does save me from shopping trying to find the perfect gift.

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Sounds to me like it is something like this.

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The school cheerleaders hosted one of these around mother's day. I didn't get to go, but heard it was a big success.

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A Purse Shower! If, in fact what they want is $$, then why not call it a cash shower, or - better yet - a fund-raiser? Because it sounds less delicate?

It could be a purse shower as the link above shows, but how would that be construed to also serve as a bridal shower?

I was too embarrassed to even register for gifts when I was getting married (way back). Finally my mother-in-law convinced me that I should do it, even if I didn't announce it. Then people who wanted to could ask my family where I was registered, and someone would just tell them. Times have changed, and I know that registering is NOT considered rude these days.

However - anything like a Purse Shower or a Gift Card shower - that's just tacky IMHO... (if a purse shower turns out to be a request for cash)

Thanks for the replies, my Mom thinks it might mean to just give money too. I can't believe that! I have never even met this girl (she is marrying my cousin) that is so tacky if that is what it means. I might have to ask around in the family to see what exactly it is. I am certainly not just giving her a wad of cash considering we don't even know her!

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That is sooo tacky. I don't think I would be attending that shower.

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I feel better that I am not the only one who never heard of a purse shower!

I don't know where good manners went!

We went to a funeral that had a memorial fund box set up. This is common but
I asked what the memorial was going to be used for and they said they didn't know yet!

Is this appropriate?

interesting. never heard of it. When my cousin got married they had a money tree at the reception. Money was clipped on or envelopes/checks w/ money.

Purse Shower If you'd like to do something en vogue, a shower revolving around handbags can be fun. Invitations and placemats shaped like stylish handbags will establish the theme. Continue it with whimsy purse cookies frosted in trendy hues. Games that involve purses are plentiful. Fill a tray with items commonly found in a purse and let everyone look at it as it's carried around the room. Then put it away and give a prize to whoever can write down from memory the most items. When the invitations are sent out, ask each guest to bring one extra gift for the bride's purse (a luxury lipstick, lace handkerchief, compact, decorated comb, small scented lotion, etc.). To make sure the guests remember this special day, gift them each with a purse wine stopper with a printed tag commemorating the day.

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I agree that it probably means to give money as a gift. If that's the case then it should just be called a SHAKEDOWN because that is what it is.

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I have never heard of one, but after reading your link, I think its a cute idea!

My DS is getting married next weekend, and our side of the family hosted a tea for her. I think its just a theme for the shower, not a gift suggestion.

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A fun twist on this game is to have the bride to be carry the tray around with all the stuff on it-we used kitchen utensils. She carried the tray around for a few minutes and then when she walked out of the room we told everyone to write down everything she was wearing-instead of all the crap of the tray they'd just memorized! It was fun!

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BOT, I think the idea of having a shower just for cash is tacky, tacky, tacky.

It's hard to think clearly when a loved one dies. Maybe they needed some time to think about what would be an appropriate. memorial. When my dad died, people gave money to be used as my mom saw fit -- she had some Masses said, donated some to the organizations he belonged to, etc. Sometimes it takes a little time to make these decisions especially if the death was unexpected.

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some people gave me small amounts of money when my dad died. I ended up with over a hundred dollars, but kept if because I figured they would want to help me with expenses (the largest amT I received was $20)

Count me in!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Anyone want to throw one of these for me?????????????????
Would it be rude to ask for Coach?????

LOL LOL...Not rude at all...as long as you get me a Dooney & Bourke! Seriously, I never heard of a purse shower either. I need to get out more! ~Lisa

So when is the purse shower? I'm really curious to find out what it really is.

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bumping for update

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Asking for cash or a purse seems very rude to me.
What does a purse have to do with getting married in the first place???

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Tacky in my opinion. Nothing personal I also think the Money Dance at a wedding is tacky. Why ask people for money and put them on the spot to give it or look cheap? If I want to give someone money I will give it to them.
Whatever happened to just enjoying each other's company in celebration of the event? IF you don't want to pay for cake and lunch and games then don't throw the party but people should not have to "pay" to attend a party. (unless David Cassidy is serving lunch that is a different story!)

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Never heard of a purse shower. Is that where you just walk into a room and people shower you with fendi's and prada purses? If so, where's my invite? LOL!

I too think the money dance at a wedding is tacky. I've never found anyone else that agreed with me!

I had never heard of them until I read your post OP.
Thanks for the update on what it is. This is definitely good to know.

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Not only is it tacky but it totally brings down the mood of the party. I work a lot of weddings and usually the party is going strong --everyone is dancing and having a good time then the DJ has to play an unending lineup of slow songs so the couple can pimp themselves out to dance with their guests!!!! It is the worst IMO!!

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I'm sorry but as a guest at a wedding, I think it is very tacky.

Wow I have never heard of a wedding money dance OR a purse shower lol, this is news to me! I often give gcs and might give cash, as a present. But I don't think guests should be instructed or expected to provide $ to help pay for the wedding, the shower or any other party.

I think the Dollar dance is wonderful at the wedding! It gives a chance to have one on one with the bride/groom during a time that they are so busy with so many other people. Some of my fondest memories with loved ones was spending that few moments telling them how proud/happy/sad (lol) I was for them.

Seriously, I see nothing wrong with it. Maybe I am just tacky? LOL

Purse party? WOW!!! Why didn't I think of that before? I would LOVE to be showered with a new LV or a smashing little Gucci (Jackie O would be fine, thank you very much).....or a new Carlos Falchi....(I don't like very many of the new Coach Styles, and D&B just isn't cutting it as much as they used to)..but oh my.. Give me a Gucci or LV any day.

What would be even more fun would be a Vintage Purse party! ohhh lala!
Okay, I can stop dreaming.. but a purse party would be RIGHT up my alley and I don't care if it is tacky, just give me the purses!!! LOL!!!!

Sorry the dollar dance Tacky...Purse shower Extremely tacky!

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When my son was getting married, I was happy about everything EXCEPT that they were planning on having the "dollar dance". I felt that the guests had already contributed a gift to the newlyweds and collecting money during the reception was tacky.

I never voiced my opinion - it wasn't my wedding and I didn't want to start off on the wrong foot with my daughter-in-law, but I was so happy when they told me, during the reception, that they had decided not to do it.

I have been to weddings that have the dollar dance, and everyone seems to be having a great time. I just don't feel comfortable with them....

Dollar dance - tacky.

I have already spent money on your gift, travel to the wedding, a babysitter, perhaps a new dress, etc.

So now I have to pay for the privledge of you spending a few moments with me, one-on-one?

Have a receiving line.

Or how about graciously moving about the reception hall speaking to your guests and thanking them for coming.

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I think requesting money for a shower and wedding gift is tacky, a gift should be a gift the the giver chooses to give. As far as requesting purses at a shower, I thought the idea of a wedding shower was to get the couple off to a good start with items for their new home? Not a personal gift for the bride to be. Even couples that have two households coming together could use a gift certificate to a restaurant or the movies or soemthing in both households needs to be replaced, I refuse to buy a personal gift as a wedding present. As far as a "money dance" I have never seen that at a wedding, that is double tacky (tacky tacky). JMO

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OK- clarify this for me please. The OP is calling a purse party for a shower so the invited guests will bring money? Are you really serious? I would RSVP that my hemorrhoids are killing me and stay home. IMHO.

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I was invited to one once and didn't go, I thought it was extremely bad taste~

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