Ok I have been thinking this over for a few days (since I found out) and can't tell you how upset I am.

Well my good friend from back home has a daughter that is 7 and when I got pregnant with my daughter I was thinking of naming her Alexandria but found out that was her daughters first name (always called her by her middle name) so I decided to go with something different because I did not think it was ok for them to have the same firdt name. So fast forward to a few months ago she told me she was expecting again. Now three days ago she said she found out it was a girl. My daugheters name is Jane Doe (not real name of course) and she then tells me they have decided to name their daughter Jane Foe (same first name - which is not a common name - and rhyming middle name). Now I am not happy about this.

What do you think about the whole situation?

hashbug

I think you should name your baby whatever you want, but I hope you wont tell this friend in the future what other great names you have thought of...
What is the rhyming name?? JC
I worked with a guy named Charlie Brown. Everyone called him Charlie Brown. Too funny, considering the comic was already out when he was born, so his parents KNEW what they were doing!!

My daughter has an uncommon first name (as of now) and her middle name is Jane. They are naming the same first name with Lane as the middle name. I just think if we were really friends they would not even think of doing that. KWIM? Yes you can name your kid whatever you want and I would not be upset if they just used her first name but with rhyming the middle name to me it is like they are just taking my daugther's name as close as it is to hers.

I agree; name your child what ever you want. The children will not have the same last names, and they are not in the same town so it will probably never be a problem. Again I wouldn't tell my friend what I have decided in the future.

If a friend named her daughter the exact first and middle name as my daughter, it wouldn't bother me a bit.

Did you "invent" the first name -- is it a name you'd never heard before?

Oh, what's that saying about imitation being the greatest form of a compliment?

It wouldn't bother me in the slightest. I would actually take it as a compliment that they liked the name I picked out

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I just don't see it as a big deal. It's not as though your daughter is the only child in the world with that name, right? And it's not your friend's fault that you didn't use Alexandria.

Now, if your friend had asked you not to use Alexandria, then I'd be annoyed.

There is so much else to get concerned about in life....this does';t even make the cut....sorry

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Yes I agree. I am not mad I am just disappointed that they would do this. I am not concerned about it anymore, I just think with all the names out there they had to pick that one?

My bff gave her daughter my middle name - which is an unusual one. I thought it was kinda cool.

Lisa

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Why did YOU pick it? Because you liked it. Do they even know you're upset?

If you are that upset about it you need to address the issue with your friend.

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Hashbug,

Did you ever tell your friend that you decided against the original name for your daughter because of her daughter's first name?

If she never knew, then it's pretty likely that she wouldn't be aware that you are sensitive about keeping names very unique, and that you had extended this same consideration to her, yourself, at one point.

I know what you mean - I picked unusual names for my children, and I understand how one can really pride themselves on being "the only one" - my own name is even more unusual than my children's names. I realize that the importance of being the only one with a particular first name wouldn't register on most people's radars, but I understand the priority it can have for some people. I'm with ya!

thought Id mention I HATED being the only "Brenda" in school....and songs, well there was "Michelle my Belle" and "Tammy tell Me True"."Tell Laura, I love Her", Oh Donna" My song was "Brenda's got a big ole butt"
Hated hated hated having a different name....
If I had a daughter, I would haved named her Mary Elizabeth. My boys are Richard, Paul and Michael, all names fit for a king

Yes she knew that I did not name my daughter that because it was her daughter's name.

I did tell her how I felt about it and she was like "Oh well". It just makes me feel like all the time out in to find that perfect name for my daughter was wasted , with her daughter having the same first and rhyming middle. Like they just did not think about it at all. Oh we will just use hers and change the first letter of her middle name and make it our own.

I mean yeah it is something I took very seriously when naming my kids and it hurts that a "friend" would do that.

Thank you for what you said Devinmom, at least I am not the only one.

I would totally consider it a compliment. We have four kids. When DH and I were picking out names, he loved a few, I loved a few, but each of us had different negative reasons why we would not name our kids those names-for instance, DH totally wanted a Sarah if it was a girl-I grew up w/ a girl named this who was so mean. I wanted Andrew for a boy-DH knew someone of this name who gave him hell all through elementary school. Between all the names around, there were so few that we could agree on. Just know that they must think your daughter is pretty cool that they would want to connotate their daughter w/ your daughter.

I would not waste time being upset over something like a name being close to my daughters name. Life is to short to sweat the small stuff and this , in my life, would be small stuff. I think it would be a honor .

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I agree...I think it's fine for whoever to name their baby whatever they want to...Now, when I was younger, I was alot more insecure and immature. Something like this probably would have bothered me at the time I'm sure. But now that I'm older I realize that life is so short to worry over such trivial stuff. I would let her know though that I thought it was bizarre that she was picking out a name so close to my daughter's name. I would make a joke out of it. ~Lisa

I would also be in the take it as a compliment category. Perhaps the two of you, even though you are friends, are subtly very competitive with one another. I think that, especially since your friend is from "back home" (which leads me to assume you do not live in the same town anymore), having such similar names will not be confusing to their friends or such. Just take this as a sign that your old pal thinks you have a knack for selecting beautiful names.

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There's a lot more things to worry about and be disappointed about in life than another lady naming her baby the same name as your daughter. Let it go! Think of how blessed you are that you have a daughter and that she's having a daughter, too!!

I have a 15 year old named "Mia" and my best friend had a son coincidentally born the day after Mia. Our lives were very parallel from high school. Her wedding was the day after my wedding. She had 3 boys and I had 3 girls. When she became pregnant a 4th time, this time with a girl, she was going choosing many different names from all over the board. Finally when she was about to give birth, I asked her if she'd finally decided on a name or not and she hesitantly admitted that they decided on "Mia". I was overjoyed... absolutely overjoyed. My response was "Isn't it a great name?" Now we just say "Your Mia" or "My Mia". I have no problem with it at all. It suits her daughter perfect, as it does mine.

Now my other friend's best friend named her daughter the same name as my third daughter, although spelled different. I have to admit, I was a little annoyed with it, mostly because I can't stand the woman. Ultimately, it was our friend in common that frowned upon it and felt she was copying. I have to admit though, that when I do meet other kids with the same name as my kids, I love it because their names are very unique, but not made up. Personally, I think I have the coolest kid names ever, but don't we all?

My name is Breana and I hated the name growing up because I was the only one. Now it's very common though. I don't feel like I have "rights" over it though. In fact, I met another person with my name today at the mall, but she spells it Breonna. I complimented her because at least people don't mispronounce it with her spelling. It really makes for great conversation.

I named my oldest daughter after a girl I couldn't stand. She was horrible, but had the most beautiful, unique name. If I were you I think I would blow it off. In the big picture, it just doesn't matter. Donna

You do realize of course that at some point your child is going to look at you and refuse to go by the name you gave them and demand some nickname, diminutive, or alternate name that you simply can't stand. Right? Then again if you don't have a teenager yet you might have missed this stage. Of course precocious child that I was, I did it around age 3 or so. I looked at my dad one day, stamped my foot and said that what he was calling me was NOT my name and refused to ever acknowledge it again. Then when they'd finally settled into my substitute I repeated the process somewhere in middle school, then again in college. And now finally in my 30's I've started using my birth name professionally - but of course my parents NEVER called me that. My dad still calls me my name from 2 name changes ago, and I still refuse to listen until he calls me by my prefered name, or at least my given birth name, or the previous prefered name. I never stopped liking that one, but hubby calls me something different so thats what everyone calls me (shrugs).

Ultimately this is all going to be moot because much like a cat - the only person who can name a teenager - is the teenager (or perhaps their boyfriend or girlfriend).

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Yeah I told her how I feel and she does not care so as far as I am concerned it is over. No sense worrying about it. You guys are right Life it too short to sweat the little things. I am just going to forget about it and move on. Thanks