I know GP/family doctors ask certain things at certain times, I guess. I had one a few years ago ask if I was sexually active, and then tell me I needed regular pap smears since I was. That made me a little uneasy, but I figure he was right.

My current family Dr never asks personal questions. She might if I ever went for something out of the ordinary for me, I guess.

Now, my surgeon who I have been seeing for over a year about once a month (average) sometimes twice a month. He gets pretty personal with me. I had a operation in March 2007 and I still have a small wound he is watching. I am diabetic and I heal slow, plus the wound is on my foot and walking and putting weight on it doesn't help the healing process either.

Anyway. Last August when my SO and I split. I was having a hard time caring for my wound by myself. Where it was, it was hard for me to see or see it well enough to keep a good eye on it. So I wanted home health nurse to come out and help me watch it and such a couple times a week. Only the Dr can make that happen.
So I told the Surgeon that I no longer have a care giver and could he please hook me up with home health. He asked what happened. I told him me and my SO broke up. He expressed his sympathy and then he asked if my Mom could help me. I said well no, she died 2 weeks ago. He looked shocked and a bit embarrassed .. I think he thought he put his foot in his mouth, but he didn't know and I wasn't offended. So he agreed to get the nurses out a couple of times a week , just to help me watch it. All was good and well.

Now.. every since then, he asks me if I have a new boyfriend! He doesn't do it every time I see him, but in the last year he's done it over 10 times!
I saw him yesterday and he had a new Dr in there with him that he was training and he asked me in front of him! He also compliments my scent, saying things like I make his mouth water when he sees me because I smell like cookies and he loves cookies.
He's told me he would love to operate on me more Because I'm such a great patient. Well he sorta got a chance last month. I had a cyst on my back that was itching me like crazy and I wanted it out. He has a small operating room in his office and he took me back there and got the cyst out. He thanked me over and over again for him operating on me! I was trying to thank him for taking care of it, but could barely get the words out from his over abundance of thank you susan's

So is he normal? Am I lucky to have such a personable Dr? Is he strange? I'm rather confused! Oh and he never acted like this toward me until my SO left and I started seeing him by myself (if that makes a difference?!?)

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Eew! That gives me the creeps. I don't think he's normal. You make his mouth water because you smell like cookies? C'mon.
Can't say I've ever heard that pick up line. LOL Personally, I'd find another surgeon right away.

sounds like he is getting alittle to interested in you, making his mouth water smelling like cookies...If you dont actually like him, I mean could it be somone you would maybe date or want to get closer to? If not I really would find a different doctor he does seem alittle creepy

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That's very weird.

Trust your gut.

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Just reading your post and some thoughts that come to my mind...

Maybe he thinks that you are interested in him since you are still seeing him for over a year past the first surgery...

Personally, I have had a few surgeries in my life and there are usually one or two followups and then I'm done. Note, I am not diabetic so maybe there is a huge difference that I'm not aware of!

I'm creeped out by it but maybe you need to explore your own feelings -- are you interested in him?

Either way (if you do decide to pursue a personal interest in him or not!), I'd stop going to him and find a new surgeon for future surgeries.

Well... being a diabetic does make for very slow healing. The reason I see him so much is because HE decided to be my caregiver in a way. He fired the home health nurses who were helping me, because one of them suggested I change surgeons. I didn't tell him, the nurse called and told him!! So he asked me about it. I told him she wanted me to leave you for another surgeon. He got SO MAD!
He said I will take care of you from now on then and I saw him twice a month for about 4 months.

I know he doesn't do this for everyone, because when I go to his office I NEVER see the same people twice. So he must let them go after one or two follow ups like you said.

My interest in him is ..well he's My Dr. He's married. I don't mess with married men!
I think I will look into another Surgeon.

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Wise move.

This information is a deal breaker as far as personal interest goes...

It is too bad that you are having to deal with this.

Okay, I'm curious...why did she suggest that?

I think that's bizarre. Seems a bit controlling. Maybe egotistic. I don't know.
Weird.

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OK am I the only one wondering if perhaps the home health nurse thought there was something weird about the dr and meant well when she suggested you go to another surgeon! It is very unusual for a nurse/aide/whatever, to make a remark like that - maybe she knew a lot more about him!

Anyway, if you aren't comfortable with it yeah find another dr, I wouldn't be comfortable with all those remarks over and over, it sounds kinda weird.

And on the pap thing, I think that is normal, my own dr (a female who was definitely not interested in me lol) asked me the same things about being active and told me several times about getting regular paps, not letting it go past 1 year etc.

Well, I don't know since in the thread about what type of perfume you wear, the OP said this:

Pink Sugar! I love it! My surgeon loves smelling me when I visit him. he compliments me every time and tells me I smell like Cookies and he said he LOVES cookies! HAHA
He also said I smell like cotton candy, coconut, cookie dough, coconut pie... I guess the scent changes with my ph for that day.
I also had a home health nurse who use to come out to checkme..she loved the smell so i bought her a bottle

Maybe he's just a friendly guy. I don't know because I'm not in the room at the time you're with him. If you feel uncomfortable with him, find another doctor. Or maybe stop wearing "Pink Sugar" when you go to your doctor visits!

The post that you quote was why I wondered if there was a mutual attraction going on.

The nurse also took a unusual interest in me. She gave me her cell phone number and told me she would like to take me shopping every week. I thought it was a VERY nice gesture at the time. She doesn't like my Dr I think she wanted me to go to her surgeon. She told me his name and how to contact him. I forgot all about it until my Dr told me she called his office talking about me changing surgeons.

The Pink Sugar. I LOVE that perfume! Not because it makes me smell like cookies though, but because it never gives me a headache haha! I have considered finding a new one. One of my friends said I should try a different scent when I go to him.

When I first started seeing him, he wasn't friendly at all. In fact I HATED him. He was mean and loud. He had the bedside manner of a butcher knife! Now he's changed totally. All since I told him about me and SO. I sometimes wonder if he feels sorry for me, and is trying to be extra nice...but goes overboard.

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Noooo I posted that because he's the one who compliments me the most about my perfume. Other than the one home health nurse who liked it. I gave her a bottle though. I never gave him one. Maybe I should so his wife can smell like cookies HAH!

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I think he's just trying to be helpful and friendly and doctors are not taught how to interact with people. I once had a dr in the emergency room tell me to be sure to put the ice in the freezer (ice for my son's leg injury). I was so dumbfounded I believe it was literally the ONLY time in my life I was speechless. Later I thought I should have said "oh you went to medical school all those years to learn that you should get a refund".

But I digress I think he's just ignorant of how to talk to you. If he was interested sexually he would have asked you about your sexual preferences etc. I think he's just concerned showing it in a dumb way. I do it all the time LOL! Good intentions...

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Based on that, I can understand his reaction.

I had not read the other thread. I thought his comment about you smelling like cookies was out of the blue. Yet in the quoted thread, you seem like you relished the attention.
Maybe the perfume really smells good and he is really just being complimentary?

I don't know, maybe the guy is not as bad as I initially thought.
As suggested, if it makes you uncomfortable, change doctors. Maybe it'd be best for both of you.

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Does he have a thriving practice? It's hard to make of his intentions when you don't experience it first hand. You don't see the body language or hear the inflections in the voice. But, it kind of sounds to me like he's just being overly nice to you. Maybe his business has been hurting lately and he's going overboard to ensure that you don't leave. Seeing's that you said he use to be rude before, maybe that had caused him to loose some business and so he's going to the extreme to be nice so that he doesn't loose anymore. If you think he's a good DR and is providing you with good care, then maybe you could just help lead the friendly conversation in an appropriate direction. Maybe ask how his wife (or kid) is doing.... are they planning a nice vacation.... discuss the nice/bad weather.... or the friendly staff, etc. If you are sure he's being inappropriate, then you should definately find another DR.

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maybe I watch too much tv, but perhaps he and the nurse were having a thing and you got caught in the middle?

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