OK, so tommrow, I will be turing 30. I know to most people (including myself until about a month ago) this is no big deal - just a number - however over the past month thinking about it...it has just got me really upset. When I look back on it - in my 20's I had all of the children (except the one that I am pregnant with now, who is due anyday and is our last), we got married, we bought our homes, I went through and survivoed cancer etc. There was just alot. My 30's are setting up to look like me "just" being a wife and mom, ie: maid service and diaper changer. I know that I made the choice to be an at home mom, but I don't know it just seems like life (for now) is over. Looking in, I would tell someone to suck it up...but alas that just isn't cutting it.

So, my exciting birthday tommrow consists of an OB check up (nothing like getting close with your OB to celebrate) and more watching the kids, suffering through a heat wave nine months prego and cleaning up the house.

Any advice? Happy thoughts?

Thanks for letting me vent a bit...

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Mommy to Jake, Alexis, Abigail and Joshua, Wife to Matt

Are you feeling bad about turning 30?? I will be forty on Tuesday, and couldnt be happier!
I remember feeling a bit down when I turned 30, and my best friend told me, "hey , its better than the alternative", and she was right. Age is only a number, and right now my lucky number is "40"
Your life is going to be what you make of it, so if you wish to work, or further your education or whatever, you have to do it for you.

Happy Birthday, I know things look rough now..
I have felt the same way..my kids are 14, 12 & 7.
I just started working & now looking for a full time when the kids go back, I'll only have 1 now that needs after school care.
I always said I couldn't wait for this time to come, but feel a sense of "loss" that I didn't cherish the younger years w/ my kids as much as I should have.
Congrats on your new baby thats almost here.
You are so very blessed, enjoy these times now. I know it's hard to see at the moment, but they do go by so quick, enjoy every moment with them.

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If nobody else is going to have a party for you --husband, mom, sibling??, then throow one for yourself. If you are going out, pick yourself up a present and a cake from the bakery. Decorate the house and have the party with the kids and hubby----maybe this will be a HINT to him.

My philosophy is that you get from people what you want or need.

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E. Roosevelt

Your 40's (no, not a typo!) will be the best years of your life! Just wait...

I remember when I turned 30 I said DON"T ACKNOWLEDGE MY BIRTHDAY. I felt "old". Now I am 41, and realize it's just a number. And the way my life has been the past few years, I'd gladly go back to the kids being small, and wanting me to hold them...now they are all in the early 20's and late teens, they still need me, but only when they need a favor, or some money..LOL.

I'm beginning to feel a little restless with that empty nest thing...even though they all live home, and on days when they are all arguing I would like everyone to move out...they have their own lives, and are out and about most of the time.

ENJOY THESE YEARS!!! Have a great birthday, get a cake and CELEBRATE!!! (maybe you are just feeling yucko cause you are in that tail end of your pregnancy?)

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**Some people are like Slinky's, not really good for anything, but you can't help laugh when you see one tumble down the stairs**

You know, I think I had a harder time turning 30 than I did 40. Happy Birthday!

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"We must love them both--those whose opinions we share and those whose opinions we reject. For both have labored in the search for truth, and both have helped us in the finding of it."
Saint Thomas Aquinas

Same here.

I felt like I was getting old when I turned 30. I had never had a B-day party before (including childhood) until my 40th! My B-day is 2 days before Halloween, so we rented a limo, dressed up in costumes (hadn't done since I was 12) and hit the town. We had a blast!

Don't stress about your age OP, you'll feel 20 again when you turn 40. Enjoy every minute with your babies while they're babies, that'll be gone before you know it. Happy Birthday!

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~~~MsMiser

I agree. 30 was harder for me then 40. I know it's only a number and I told myself it was a number but I was so depressed that day. I have no idea why. 40 was a breeze.

Have a Happy Birthday.

Happy Birthday !! Life doesn't always seem so hopeless and believe me once you pass the 30's it gets a lot better, free from diapers, 2 am feedings and the general baby years.

Op if it will make you smile about having a baby just before your 30th birthday, let me share with you my 'baby years"
Had my 1st children by the time I turned 21,waited to have the next four in my late 30's .. 31,33,34 and 37. Now talk about age shock to the system with 2 am feedings and diapers !! I thought I would never stop changing diapers or fixing bottles ( or nursing ). Like me, You will survive this too.

Now we are looking forward to our 50's when all the kids are out of school and out of the house. I have already planned vacations to where I would love to travel.

Life will get better as time goes on.
P.s 30 is still young

Ohhh to be 30 again!!!!!! I will be 52 later this summer!! I remember turning 30. My sister sent me a balloon bouquet! I'm sure being 9 months pregnant doesn't help!!! Not to be morbid but after we lost 3 classmates to cancer within five years of our high school graduation I am always thankful for another birthdday! Whenever I do get to a bday marker and start thinking about getting old, etc... I just ask myself it I want to be in the Memorial section of my reunion booklet or have another birthday. That always puts it in perspective for me! Enjoy the day, enjoy your kids! I know being a stay-at-home mom can be tiring and trying but it's worth it. They grow up so quickly!!!!!HAPPY BIRTHDAY!!!!!