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We have a bratty neighbor kid that lives next door. She is the same age as my daughter, who like any kid can also be a brat at times. She (neighbor kid) uses foul language - age 6 - and talks back to me. My daughter is fairly respectful for her age, but I can see that she is testing out some of what she hears on me. Help! I don't want to make any enemies.

I would tell the kid that she couldnt come play if she was going to use that type of language as it is not allowed in my home and the first word she said that was off color, I would send her back home. shouldnt take long for her to figure out if she wants to play, she has to be good and watch her language.

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I did that when my boys were little. Anyone who didn't follow my rules at my house got sent home. I was very blunt about it. One day, an 8 year old boy brought his own music over and they were playing it (really loud) on my front porch. I couldn't believe any parent would let their kid listen to that garbage. I told him that the music said bad things and was not allowed at our house. I had him pack it up and take it home that very minute.

You might want to have a little talk with your DD, reminding her what's acceptable and what isn't. It's natural for her to mimic what her friend does/says.

Thanks. You guys always know the right things to do & say. Who needs Ann Landers/ Dear Abby!!????!!!

I wouldn't worry about making enemies when it's your kids you need to worry about more. You don't want that kind of influence around your kids, so let them know what is acceptable in your home and if they don't abide by the rules, then they are not welcome in your home. Plain and simple. Also, if your daughter acts out when the other friend comes over, let your daughter know the friend will have to leave as well... So it punishes them both.

I would set clearly the rules of the house/yard/playing with your daughter. Let her know certain things are not okay and what the consequences will be.
How is the Mom? Have you talked to her just explaining the same thing "I slip sometimes like we all do but I have rules at my house when an adult swears they put a quarter in the jar and when a child swears they have a time out/go home for the day/ or whatever. I wanted to let you know the rules"

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We have neigbors that have tested my patients with thier children. I am much more diciplined with my kids than they are. I don't want to make enemies. They can tear up a house like a tornado... now... no one in the house. go outside and play or go home!! i would prefer that they go home.

We have a few kids in our nieghborhood that are my DS's age that are sometimes a problem. I have had repeated discussions with my kids about what I expect of them and what's allowed in our house. They know there are consequenses if they use words or behavior that are inappropriate.

These few kids are not allowed to play inside our house -- they can tear it up in seconds -- and there is one in particular who is very disrespectful. If they come over, I allow my kids to play with them, outside only, mostly to keep peace in the neighborhood (the kids are more obnoxious or undisciplined that anything else) but my kids have gotten wise to these kids always getting them in trouble, so usually they don't want to play with them unless its in a big group of children.

I have called these children on their behavior several times and most of them shape up quickly. If not, I ask them to leave because what they are doing/saying is not allowed at our house.

Sarah...........

We had one too. Luckily he has been grounded a lot lately, and is getting ready to move. We did tell our son he was not allowed to play with him anymore, but the kid came over and begged his case and was as sweet as can be. I decided to give him another chance. It didn't last long. I am pretty sure his mother was aware of his behaviour, hopefully your daughter's friends mom is too. Also, your daughter probably is going to get to a point where she doesn't want to play with this kid anymore-my son got tired of this boy being so mean. I know my kids are far from little angels, but this kid took the cake. Did I tell you he was moving????