I don't remember who the OP (or the title of the post) was in the thread regarding how often do you do "it".... I found this and was going to post it in the other thread and noticed it had vanished. However lame, it makes a point. (LOL)



The Road To Happiness

A vehicle will not run on an empty tank, it takes fuel to make it go!
On "The Road To Happiness" - he is her vehicle, therefore she pays for his fuel - she is his vehicle, therefore he pays for her fuel.


Fuel Costs -
(Note: He drives a gas guzzler, but she requires a higher grade of fuel. So, the costs tend to come out even.)

Her fuel / What makes her go
(what he needs to fill her tank with)
show her love, respect & appreciation (value / never take for granted)
make her feel sexy & desirable (blind to other females / no other woman even comes close)
help around the house and/or with the kids
communicate / confide / share / intimacy
honesty / loyalty / trust / faithfulness

His fuel / What makes him go
(what she needs to fill his tank with)
available for sex (we can squeeze one in / wham bam thank you ma'am)
willing to have sex (I love you / because you mean so much to me)
initiated the sex (you make me so horny / I can't get enough of you)
initiated the sex (you bring out the dirty girl in me / break out the toys)
make him feel sexy / desirable / manly
make him feel competent / smart
show him love, respect & appreciation (value / never take for granted)


Road Hazards -

If he is emotionally immature (a jerk), he will drive the car until it completely runs out of fuel. (Either upgrade to a more reliable vehicle, or make do with this one and hope that it matures and becomes reliable. This decision is yours to make.)

If she's too busy (or self-centered), she'll forget to put fuel in the car until it has completely stopped moving. (If she is too busy, remove some of the load. If she is self-centered, upgrade to a more reliable vehicle, or make do with this one and hope that it matures and becomes less self-centered. This decision is yours to make.)


Repair Costs -

If you let the fuel tank get too low, you risk clogging the fuel line with debris (hard feelings) from the bottom of the tank. Then you must pay to have the fuel line unclogged. For him the cost may be extra chores around the house/with kids, extra compliments & I love you's. For her the cost will be extra sex. (Note: The cost of repairs for him to fix the female vehicle usually runs higher than the cost of her repairs to fix the male vehicle.)

The bottom line - Keeping fuel in your vehicle at all times not only helps to increase your milage when traveling down "The Road to Happiness", but also cuts down on repair costs!


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Wow - That was pretty cool!

Thanks for taking the time, MsMiser!

P.S. - The thread that I think you're talking about is still here - entitled "Hubby is in the mood" or something similar.

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Okay, now I feel really dumb. I looked all up and down the board and couldn't find that post. I assumed it must have turned ugly and disappeared. (LOL) I guess knowing the title of it helps, thanks devinmom.

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Ok Maybe I'm just the odd ball on this, But I totally don't get
"" the only way to keep him happy is with sex deal""
There's so much more to a marriage than just sex or at least I would hope so.

I find that men have cling ed to this * I feel so unloved* as an excuse to cheat when things don't go their way in the bedroom.If they based their marriage only on * Yahoo Free sex 7 days a week* then it's time for someone to be handed a divorce.
By saying " thats what men do or want " is CRAP in my book.Yes it's wonderful to feel "loved " in the bedroom, but what happens went we all(women that is) start saying well he has to have it , his ego will be bruised with out it. What happens when we set ourselves up for this and something major happens in our lives god forbid this takes place, but it can and does every single day. since he 'has" to have it and now can't does this give him a free ticket to cheat ?? and if no then why not after all he has to have it. Many men play this card and why because women are taught that his needs are always in the bedroom and a good marriage is a happy marriage as long as he's happy in the bedroom.

While I agree, Sex is a good part of marriage, If there's *true* love in that marriage sex will be a willing event between both parties and not one that makes the other feel as if they *Have too* or *she doesn't love me*..

Many people male and female alike face life challenges daily with medical problems , old age, or their sexual desire just plainly decreases for what ever reason, Should this become the reason for less sex in the marriage, one person shouldn't feel *unloved* or *God here we go again doesn't he care about my feelings *, it should be**we will get Thu this**.

If there's no medical problem then both parties should seek a professional to see what is the problem or at least find out what took place to make the change in the sex department take place. Maybe they can talk this Thu, maybe there's more problems that need to be address,However, I totally disagree with having to give in to (which ever one is wanting the sex) all because their *ego* will get bruised. I also don't agree with the exchange of ( insert what ever ) for sexual pleasures.No one wants to feel like a sexual slave to their partner or at least I hope no one likes to feel this way, When you are made to feel you have to give in then that person become resentful and the other one becomes selfish..

Maybe I just don't get the whole ego,unloved,exchange of (whatever) for sexual pleasures.

I'm just glad to know, inside/outside the bedroom I know my marriage will keep going strong as it has for the last 5 years ever since i was DX with a medical problem that limits the sex, I know my husband still loves me and to my knowledge has never part taken in a relationship outside the marriage . I'm very thankful he understands the (once in a blue moon )love making and its enough for him.

(P.s I too had a husband that wanted it and got it for the most part nightly, I never resented this and he has never felt unloved or had a bruised ego when it was taken away )