Flipping channels, can't sleep. I have seen some of Nanny 911. In the past, I've seen Supernanny.

I am constantly just floored by the complete chaos and disrespect of the children in these programs. Some families have extenuating circumstances, but for so many there is just no parenting going on. How does this happen? How is your three year old cursing and hitting you?? How does your 5 year old get out of bed 799 times, run through the house, screaming--and then you get up and give her ice cream?? How do two year olds open the front door at will and take off through the neighborhood without anyone realizing it?

My family is far from perfect. My kids have had their moments, and d/h and I have fallen short at times.
But I just cannot get past the lack of basic common sense in these shows.

So, am I missing something? How does this happen??

Jist like you said my family and my dh and my children are not always perfect, however some of the behavior these children show is totally way out of hand , who are the parents the kids or the mom and dad. I have always firmly believed in being consistent with my children you cannot be their friend one day and the next the strict parent. These parents need serious help and if they do not receive it soon things will only get worse especially the preteen years and then teenagers in general. Peace Catherine

I guess it's some credit to these families that they had enough sense to call Nanny 911 because they realized they needed help, right?

I think some of the problems you see (and I see it in people around here, too) is that some parents want to be the kid's friend instead of the parent and that's a real problem.

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I'm sure a lot of this chaos is happening, but much of it is egged on by producers from what I understand. Creative editing is also to blame. If you watch some of these shows, the continuity factor is awful. The parents will be wearing one thing and then all of a sudden, it supposed to be a few minutes later and they or the kids are wearing something different. Things that are said are taken out of context and inserted into a scene where it will make for better TV.

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I wonder the same thing about these parents. However about a 2 yr old being able to open the front door, my dd did that at 2, but didnt get out the door. She loved to climb, both of my kids loved to climb. She would drag something over and climb up and unhook the chain we put on the inside of the door to keep her inside and unlock both locks and would have the front door open in no time. Whenever I went to another area in the house to clean or do laundry I would always have to have her with me, to make sure she didnt escape. So we had this homemade locking system we rigged up way on top of the door so she couldnt reach it. so when my ds came along he didnt have a chance to make an escape!

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I have to admit, my best friend needs Nanny 911. Her son is only 5 but he rules the roost. When he was younger she just gave in to everything he wanted and when he screamed in stores she just gave him what he wanted so that she wouldn't be embarrassed. I remember warning her then and it has just gotten so much worse. He acts ok when he comes to my house without his mother. Just because he knows the boundaries here. This year he goes to Kindergarten. I hope he has a teacher who sets those boundaries or he will have a very tough year.

I think we all probably know a family like these. I totally believe it is the parents just either being really lazy or totally clueless (seems a lot more like clueless). These parents have no idea what discipline is, or boundaries for that matter. The main thing is they all need to learn that when they tell their child no, they have to 'drop the hammer' so to speak (take action in other words) the very minute/next time the child repeats the behavior.

I do wonder though how many of these 'nannies' have kids of their own 24/7 ya know? Just curious about that. To me when I watch these shows (which I can't really anymore I just want to smack most of these parents) I'm like, why in the world do you need someone else to come in and tell you the obvious?! But like I said earlier, we all know at least one family like the ones on the shows, or at least I do. A lot of it too is that the kids are majorly spoiled and overindulged. Know some families like that too and can't stand to be around them or their kids. I certainly don't want any kids in my house that are going to tear it apart. My kids are not perfect of course, but they are very well behaved, don't bother anything in our house or anyone elses (I have 4 kids 21 months-11) and teachers praise their behavior every single year and we normally have at least one person comment on how well behaved they are at each outing, etc. I am lucky to have great kids but they know I don't tolerate any bs, haha. My kids have even said when we have watched shows like that in the past, "Boy, xyz wouldn't last very long in this house!" Ha ha. I guess I basically feel that kids are out of control because there is a major lack of discipline or boundaries, also some parents are just plain scared to tell their kids 'no' in fear that their child won't like them/want to be their best friend, etc. (there is always an exception to the rule, and who knows, maybe my kids will turn out terribly, but I think we are on the right path, knock on wood!). Most kids these days seem pretty well behaved so it does seem like these cases are not the 'norm', but we all know they are out there.

My kids (9 & 7) like to watch these shows to comment on how much trouble they would be in if they did that LOL The ohter day there was one where a kid thru a tantrum to get some special food at a meal and of coarse, he got it after much fuss. My son said "wow...I would starve if I did that". Glad to know that he knows that I won't take that crap! No one is perfect but I am just jaw dropped at how being their kid's "friend" is more important than being their parent. Your children have lots of friends, what they need is a parent!

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In Sunday's newspaper magazine section, (the glossy color insert with celebrity questions inside the front cover) there was an article about how kids have such an influence on their parents. Excuse me? One example was watching TV, the little 8 yr old girl wants to watch something different than dad so the parent gives in. Not in my house. The article was even saying how much influence a child has on what new vehicle is bought. You've got to be kidding me!
Parents, particularly moms, are trying to be their children's friend instead of the parent. Being a friend to your child doesn't work. Children need boundries and rules and lots of parents just don't want to put out the effort to raise a mannered child that knows how to mind and show respect to teachers, parents and adults in general.

my sister in law has 2 of the biggest pain in the butt kids I have ever seen! one is 16 and the other is 14. she has NEVER told them NO and brags that she dont allow anything negative in her kids lives. no one can stand to be around these kids. we actually hid when we see them pull in our yard. I know this is horrible but you cant even talk to the sil cause the kids will talk over the top of you. if you ask them to wait and talk when others are not , the sil gets all huffy cause you said something to her brats that wasnt positive. her son is 14 and he got the idea he didnt want to go to school anymore and didnt. next thing you know, the school is after the mom cause he aint been there in weeks. she basically said that she wasnt making him do anything he didnt want to do. it went on for a long time with him not going and mom saying he didnt have to and finally the school treatened to put her in jail for not making him come to class. he was all for that. he actually wanted them to put his mom in jail if it kept him from going to school. she is a single mom and their home is a dump cause she wont make them clean up their messes and she works so much and says she dont have time. the whole family dodges them. just because of 2 pain in the butt kids. she really needs the nanny to come to her house.!!!

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I think most people just don't know how to set and keep rules. Some had very strict parents or maybe even abusive so they go the other way to an extreme with their kids.
Some parents don't want to be mean.

Mostly it's the same reason anyone has for anything-being overweight, having a messy house, owing too much money, etc either the person has no idea how to do it right or they just don't care or they are not yet motivated enough to see that the payoff is worth the work needed.

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It's interesting to see some of you posting the same idea--that your kids see these families are KNOW they wouldn't last five minutes in your house. My d/d saw just about 5 minutes of one of these shows and still talks about the mouths on the kids. Guess even when our kids are challenging, they know the deal!

I just can't imagine living in a home where the children dictate to the parents! I would lose my mind.