I have a friend at work who just told us this story, she has a friend, they grew up together but kinda grew apart, they still talk but are just not as close as when they were younger. her friend met this guy 3 months ago and let him move into her house about 3 weeks ago. Last night she called and invited my friend over because she was having a BBQ(since she had nothing to do, she went) After a lot of people were sitting and talking, her friend and her boyfriend went to the top of their deck and made an announcement that they had invited everyone over to help them celebrate their engagement. They had just gotten engaged that afternoon (A few of them started whispering that it seemed to be a bit soon, since they just met and started dating) Then the two of them started handing out copies of their wedding registry and said everyone should start shopping soon cause the wedding is Dec. 12

Am I the only one who found that tacky? My friend here at work said she thought it was ok, since the wedding is only 4 months away and the shower should be held soon.

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Tacky with a capital *T*.

Yep....very tacky.

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Its tacky but I suppose its probably helpful too as it takes some of the guess work out of what to get them for a wedding present.

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I think it's tacky to talk about your friends behind their backs. I'm not talking about you, I'm talking about your friend who told the story.

Tacky all the way around but nothing surprises me anymore.

It was tacky, but at least she had the decency to surprise them with the engagement party - and eliminated the gift giving portion for the engagement. KWIM? LOL

Yes i have to agree it was tacky , but these days you never know what to expect. Peace. Catherine

They are probably just excited to share the news. Everyone registers these days so who cares that they passed them out? Wouldn't be my choice but I wouldn't think twice about someone else doing it.

Maybe they will have a purse shower!

yep. tacky but not as tacky as the gal who sent out all the invites to their MONEY SHOWER cause they wanted to go on a big long honeymoon and needed the money to pay for it.

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seems to fit together well if their going to get married after such a short time together, the party was ok, but tacky to the registry being handed out and short relationships like that to me scream out "DIVORCE" within a very short time <not all end in divorce but ALOT do>

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Weird and tacky. They probably think they just surprised their friends with the engagement party, and don't realize that the gather-the-friends-together-to-inform-them-of-where-to-buy-us-stuff part wasn't screaming out as loudly as it did.

I think there's something anti-romantic about announcing an engagement while distributing registry info... JMHO

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beyond tacky

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LOL!! That was my distant cousin that had the purse shower, the wedding is next weekend...can't wait to see what that's gonna be like!!

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Nothing surprises me any more about baby showers or wedding showers, Think they all have gotten out of hand and tacky ... Yes I too find this tacky..and too quick for them to be getting "engaged"

What is a purse shower ?

Sounds tacky to me...

if I remember right the purse shower was everyone sits around the bride to be, she opens and reads the cards, and shoved the money in her purse, I maybe wrong though should come up on a search it wasnt that long ago

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Ok just did a search on the ""purse shower"" Maybe there are a few things that will shock me !! I've never heard of this Nor do I think I would attend one if invited. So T-A-S-T-E-L-E-S-S .IMHO of course.

I've also never ever heard of a "Dollar Dance ". Have to say that's about as tasteless as the purse shower.

I would DIE if my kids ever did this. DD was just married and if she told me she was planning on doing something like this, I wouldn't bite my tongue about telling her how I felt.

Wow, I'm shocked and I *thought* I had heard it all till that thread of a purse shower.

Very tacky....Sounds like a pre-finance party for the couple that you attended, not a barbecue/announcement.

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I don't find the "dollar dance" or "money dance" at a wedding tacky at all. I had one (and I don't think I am tacky). I am Italian (well part anyway) and it's a tradition at weddings. I would say that between CA and CO the two places I have lived), about 80% of all weddings I have been to have had the money dance. I know my parents had a money dance and all my aunts and uncles and they have been married 30+ years (so it's not a new thing)

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I think the 'dollar dance' is really tacky. We just got back from a wedding that had one. Isn't it enough that guests came from far away, paid for hotel rooms, bought nice gifts for the couple?? Then all of a sudden it's announced that it's time for the 'dollar dance'. (And it wasn't $1.00 bills that were being pinned on either). Plus you had to pay to dance with bride and groom and paid each separately (for about 10 seconds of dancing).

I was sitting with the bride's mother when this was announced and she didn't even know they were doing it and she was really embarrased.

Then they both walked around for a long time with the money still pinned to their clothing (yes, the bride's beautiful gown with safety pins in it). Finally, I saw the groom's mother start taking the pins off and putting the money away.

Is the "dollar dance" a regional thing? DH used to be military and we have lived all over the US and my parents were also military, so I grew up living all over also, and I have never been to a wedding where there was a "dollar dance". My DH is originally from CA then became military, he has never seen a "dollar dance" either.

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I don't know it's regional or not. I know many of the weddings I went to in CA were either Catholic (and they all did them) or of Italian heritage (and they all did them). In CO, most of the weddings that have them are Catholic (but I haven't met a lot of Italians out here that aren't already married. I think it more of a cultural thing than regional

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Ahh, maybe it's an cultural thing? I used to be Catholic and have been to many Catholic weddings and haven't seen it done, BUT I have never been to an Italian wedding.

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I've been to a Greek wedding - everyone threw dollars at the new bride and groom, or toward them on the dance floor. There were many, many bills on the ground! People were joking that they should have stuck gum to their shoes - LOL!

We were told that all the money was to go to the band...hmmmmm...

I didn't think it was tacky - it was fun and unusual. There are lots of different traditions that, in and of themselves are unusual, and could make a person raise their eyebrows. How about the garter throwing and putting up the thigh of whomever caught the bouquet? I don't think dollar dances are any tackier than that, but it's such tradition at so many wedding receptions that most people don't even think twice about it...

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I got married 38 years ago and at my last dance with hubby before we left everyone started throwing money at us.

My dad was on his knees picking up the money. We have a picture of it. I guess trying to pay for my wedding.

Well found out it is a Greek tradition too. I`m not Greek but it was a greek man who started it.

I dont think its tackey.

I`m from the east coast and Catholic so I don`t think its regional. It`s old though. nancy

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