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Old 08-27-2008, 11:48 PM
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Exclamation How do you get out of a funk?

And I'm mean a bad funk! Like ready to walk out and leave it all funk!
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Old 08-28-2008, 12:03 AM
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Go shopping of course!!!
PS I wasn't making light of your situation. Good luck with it. Pray!

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Old 08-28-2008, 12:10 AM
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And I'm mean a bad funk! Like ready to walk out and leave it all funk!
I would like to know also, I'm so ready to just walk away from everyone and everything right now. I'm getting more depressed by the day.

Mytime,
My heart goes out to you. I wish you happier days and speedy prayers to pull you out. I know what you are feeling, I've been in it myself for a year now.
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Old 08-28-2008, 12:39 AM
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Oh hon I am so sorry and sad to read your posts. Can you go to a family member and talk , perhaps talking would help. or what about talking to your a reglious person perhaps in your church, Another good benefical thing to do is to volunteer, like a candy strike girl at the hospital, people that have no family love the company, finally also doing some volunteer work at a animal shelter, if they the animals cannot put a smile on your face then I would say get there fast. HOpefully and sincerely things will get better peace and healthy wishes. Catherine
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Old 08-28-2008, 01:07 AM
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You could have a complete meltdown and make a hysterical post !! Just kidding. Seriously though, I'm with you. I don't know what the answer is. All I can tell you is keep on plugging. Get up everyday telling yourself that it's going to get better. Just keep doing your best, that's all you can do. Also, I have found that praying helps. Be thankful for the good that you do have in your life. Try to focus on those things, like good health, a roof over your head, a good job. Just keep your head up! Sometimes I tell myself to just keep treading water, do whatever it takes to keep your head above water, whatever that may be. Lastly, know that you are not alone. I think that there are alot of people right now in different situations and they just don't know where to turn. Try and take solace in that, and know that we are all here to lend an ear!! Donna
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Old 08-28-2008, 01:27 AM
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I think a lot of us have been in a funk lately. I actually broke down and bought some St. John's Wart lately-but still haven't taken any. I think you need to look at every day and count the blessings that are being bestowed upon you. Some days will be easier than others. And as for me, sometimes, a few more minutes (or even hours) under the covers can't hurt.
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Old 08-28-2008, 02:29 AM
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Talk to a trusted source, such as a family member, friend, clergyman. Sometimes life may seem so frustrating or gloomy. Remember, the sun will always rise the next day. Focus on what is important to you, and deal with problems one at a time. Do something special for yourself. If the depression does not clear and seems to get worse, make an appointment with a mental health care provider.
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Old 08-28-2008, 03:47 AM
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Old 08-28-2008, 07:11 AM
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I had a rough time after my divorce and couldnt get out of my funk for anything I threw myself into chatting online meeting people who boosted my self esteem and working out/eating lower fat, higher protein, more whole grains to get really healthy- I felt good after about 6 months

I in the meanwhile I had family and friends begging/nagging me to get out and off the computer- they saw I was in a funk- but I didnt care and resented them for it at the time. Thats how much of a funk I was in.
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Old 08-28-2008, 08:30 AM
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I don't really know what to tell you. I usually just sleep... Basically curl up in a ball and do nothing for a few days. Not the healthiest thing to do I'm sure, but I just have to wait for it to pass. I don't feel like going anywhere or seeing anyone when I'm in the state you're in. I just like to be by myself. I just try to pray about it. I've made a list up of everything that I have to be thankful for...the positives in my life. I know that most people will say get out, go shopping, go treat yourself to something, etc. etc....but when I'm in a funk, nothing like that works for me personally. I hope you get feeling better soon. ~Lisa
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Old 08-28-2008, 08:41 AM
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I have gone through some very low points in life.

What works for me is MyCoupons The Cafe (I'm not kidding), taking a walk, being with an animal (horse, dog, etc), or spending time doing volunteer work outdoors -- sunlight on my skin does wonders for me. I'm not a stay-in-bed type of person. I need to feel the fresh air, feel a breeze in my face, feel like I'm worth something... helping others does this for me.


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Old 08-28-2008, 10:15 AM
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I was in a funk for a week or so a few days ago.

I was just getting too stressed out about anything and everything.

I tried to be nicer and smile to strangers. I had some trades on other message boards and included extras. I snuggled the dogs and cat (the cat was one reason I was stressed).

I played board games and Pogo with my son.

I waked up and hugged my husband (I tell him when I am stressed, by hugging him it gives me some of his strength).

I am doing better now. The cat seems to be doing much better, and that helps A LOT with the stress (he has FLUTD and just started a new medication - it is hard NOT to be stressed when you have a cat spraying all over the house).
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Old 08-28-2008, 10:33 AM
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I put on my favorite up-beat music. This is will help for the immediate funk. But in the long run, you will need to figure out why you are in the funk and do something to get out of it.
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Old 08-28-2008, 11:08 AM
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I wish I had some advice for you but I can certainly empathize. I have been struggling myself, having had a recent misscarriage, marriage trouble, my son's behavior problems... I've felt like giving up a bunch of times. I find myself just wishing I could be numb for a while and not feel...
I haven't been talking with anyone about my problems, because I don't want to burden anyone, and I am sure keeping it all in and trying to deal with it alone hasn't helped me. I am seeing a counselor though (with my husband) so at least I have that. And I do pray a lot.

I hope things start to get better for you soon.
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Old 08-28-2008, 11:17 AM
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I second cehrin's suggestion to eat well and exercise, if you don't already, or step it up a notch if you do. Feeling physically well gives a real emotional boost.

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Old 08-28-2008, 11:21 AM
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Add me to the list.....first of all, let me sympathize with you, you posted what I've been thinking for a while, just get up and LEAVE. Don't know where, how, etc, but I want outta here. But I know the guilt would consume me, and that leaving would solve nothing, only worsen everything. I don't know your situation, but for me, staying in bed is not an option. It may not be yours either. Although, that's where I wanna stay, I have to function through all this crap, too many kids and a husband depend on me. You've been given some great advice, and I agree with the poster who said figure out what's got you in this funk and start from there. It's getting harder and harder to get by anymore, I think that's what has me bugged, money, stress, work, LIFE. It sure ain't for wimps. The best advice I've seen so far is to pray. I will be praying for you too.
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Old 08-28-2008, 09:06 PM
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It sounds like we have a lot of people in some form of a "bad place" right now.

I'm praying for all of you tonight.

I'm not in a bad way right now, but when I am, a long walk all alone makes me feel "cleansed" of it a bit, if that makes sense. And when I'm in more of a routine of making some outdoor movement (yes - even just walking) a regular thing, this helps me tremendously.
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Old 08-28-2008, 09:22 PM
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Go into the bathroom and cry my eyes out into a towel..I mean full out sobbing if I need to! I get to that point probably 2x year...things just build up and I need to get it out. Then I talk to dh...

I wish you peace.
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Old 08-29-2008, 08:22 PM
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Go into the bathroom and cry my eyes out into a towel..I mean full out sobbing if I need to! I get to that point probably 2x year...things just build up and I need to get it out. Then I talk to dh...

I wish you peace.
Same as me except that would be 2x daily. Maybe its somrthing in the water? nancy
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Old 08-29-2008, 08:56 PM
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Just know that there is tremendous hope-while I have been complaining left and right this week, there have been four (at last count) tremendous blessings that have come my way-almost miracles. While I don't wish to elaborate, just know that they are huge signs that things are going to be ok. DH loves to read Joel Osteen, and every day out the door he tells me, "Expect the blessings Lynne." And every day, I have pretty much been telling him to go to hell-my life sucks, I am so tired of the pressure. So, I gave into DH's mantra. and I pray for blessings each day, and it has been a pretty incredulous week. For the first time in several months, I can actually breathe. So I guess my advice to you--seek and EXPECT the blessings.
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Old 08-29-2008, 09:10 PM
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This is the honest truth.....no joke:

I go shopping - it seems to always lift me up

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Old 08-29-2008, 10:11 PM
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If you try everything and nothing seems to help don't be embarassed to talk to your Dr about getting on some meds. If you can't get coverage for antidepressants tell them you need welbutrin for smoking cessation. It can be perscribed for either but often they will cover it to quit smoking but not depression( our medical system go figure). Don't be afraid to ask for help if you need it. This board is my therapy.
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Old 08-29-2008, 10:14 PM
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If you try everything and nothing seems to help don't be embarassed to talk to your Dr about getting on some meds. If you can't get coverage for antidepressants tell them you need welbutrin for smoking cessation. It can be perscribed for either but often they will cover it to quit smoking but not depression( our medical system go figure). Don't be afraid to ask for help if you need it. This board is my therapy.
My dr. gave it to me for depression awhile ago. Im not on it now but at the time it didnt help me to qiut smoking or help the depression. I guess It depends on the person.
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Old 08-29-2008, 10:29 PM
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Thats the thing with meds, everyone is different and everyone responds differently. If at first you don't succeed try, try again. It can take a while to find the right thing at the right dose.
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