I work for a small business and my Boss is a very eccentric man. I am always told how do you work for him for 6 yrs but I just shrug it off because I get paid decent and with a chronically ill child my schedule is somewhat flexibel I get no benefits (hubbie does) no pension, sick time etc but he is good in other ways.
Problem is every day when I go into the office he founds some crisis to scream about. His office is in him home so it's close quarters. Well I just can't stand it. He literally screams and bangs stuff around like a looney bird. I am so nauseaus but I know I shouldn't leave till I find something else for the sake of my family
Problem is my fuse if blowing. I feel like telling him go found someone else who breaks their Butt physically and mentally because life is too short to be miserable in a job.

Thanks for listening to the vent.

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If it is causing you torment and emotional uproar then maybe it's time to quit. I don't know what kind of person he is maybe you can find something to keep yourself busy somewhere else out of earshot or maybe you can say "please I can't take it today" I don't know.

If the times were better financially I would just say get the H out of there but these days I would say is it worth the loss of income or can you put up with it or try to work it out?

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Can you talk to your boss? Since you said his office is in his home and you've work for him for 6 years, certainly you've developed some sort of relationship with him during that time.

I think I'd talk to him (not while he's having one of his tantrums), but talk to him when everything is calm.

Since you do have a flexible schedule and times being the way they are, I wouldn't leave without first finding something compariable with what you've got.

But I think I'd have a talk with him. If you've worked with him for 6 years, you definitely would be hard to replace.

You have three choices. 1. Change yourself to accept his behavior. 2. Change his behavior. 3. Change jobs.

Why don't you wait until his next episode is over and calmy approach him about his behavior? Let him know how it affects you and how counterproductive this type of behavior is.

I agree with change yourself to be able to accept he has a problem. It is not your problem, it is his problem. That sounds like too good of a job to let go of in todays world. I agree with talking with him too when he is not having a tantrum and see if things can get better. To be able to leave or not come in at a moments notice though is not something you find in very many places and decent pay too is not easy to find anymore. Just keep telling yourself it is his problem, not yours that he acts like that.

Someone once told me that you can't change someone else's behavior, but you can change the way you react to their behavior. That being said, I would look for a mentally better place to work. Stress can wear us down in so many ways. Look and see what you can find. Sometimes I think we are hesitant to change to something new and unknown. Good luck and here's a hug for you. I've been there.

Has he always been like this or is this a recent development or worsening? Maybe something's going on medically or with his business....

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If the job is not tolerable, I would switch as soon as you find a new position. Life is too short to put up with the BS you have written about. You paid your dues, and provided excellant support for his business. This is not the only job in the world, and there are places you can go that may provide a less stressful atmosphere. Good luck with your search.

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I had the same sort of boss, I could tell what kind of day it would be by the first works out of his mouth.

We got along great, I was a hard worker who showed up every day and met every deadline so he had no complaints. I thought constantly about quitting, but didn't have the heart to leave them and like you it was a pretty good job if it wasn't for his attitude. Then one day he was in one of his moods and he yelled at me, well I had enough and yelled right back. Let me tell you from that day forward he showed me a lot more respect.

I don't know if you could get away with that, but I do think talking to him is the best way to go about it. You have to stand up for yourself and DON'T allow him to treat you like that!! That's really the point I got across, but it just took one too many times of pushing my buttons for me to get the courage to stand up for myself.

And then when I finally did leave I felt SOOOOOOO much better. You don't realize how much that attitude rubs off on you after being around it all of the time.

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