Okay, mini debate I've been having with some friends and I want input from other people. The age old question - can men and women be *just* friends, with a twist. I know for a fact that men and women can be just friends. I work with three men (only woman) and we are all friends and there is absolutely no attraction between any of us. Here's the debate: Can men and women be just friends if there is any attraction between them? Whether the attraction is one sided or two sided is the friendship (and we're definitely talking just friendship) possible?

What do you think???


Looking forward to hearing from you!

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Yes , men and women can be friends if there is attraction. I know firsthand. 99.9% of my friends are men. Some are just my friends but many are friends with both my DH and I and we know them from work (I used to work where my DH currently works). Two of our friends have a *crush* on me.It's no secret and my DH knows and trusts that nothing will go further than a friendly flirt now and then. We all hang out, they come to dinner at our house and our parties. It's never been an issue or gotten in the way of our friendship.

Before I was married, I was good friends with and ex boyfriend. There was still mutual attraction there and it did cause some issues in the friendship. I haven't had issues with one sided attraction but two sided can end up causing some problems if you don't nip them in the bud sot o speak.

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I think men and women can be friends even if there's an attraction but it may cause problems, especially if one or both are in other relationships.

Yes, men and women can be friends, even if there is a one-sided attraction. However, it probably stinks for the person who's infatuated (if it's more than a mild case) because I imagine that would be painful. It would be flattering to the person who is admired, so what would they care? They'd still be happy to carry on the friendship, as it would be good for his/her ego, if they are onto it.

If there is a mutual attraction, I don't see how any good can come of it. Probably not a friendship worth maintaining, but what do I know?

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I feel it depends on many things. Are the parties married to other people? How do the spouses feel? What happens if it grows to more than friendship? Is time spent together alone? There are so many variables it would be hard to give a yes or no answer. In general, however, I don't think it's a good idea.

Personally for me and its just me I would not be ok with my dh having a women as a best friend , I am his best friend and he is mine. However thats just me, perhaps we are old fashioned but I think its a personal thing and if other couples feel they can live with it, then it would be ok. Peace. Catherine

I don't think best friends would be good, but as friends that's fine. I seem to get along better with men (although lately all I have are women friends) they aren't as sensitive and needy as us women.

I have a friend who is a man, DH doesn't particularly like him, just not his kind of friend, but he doesn't mind that I'm friends with him. We used to have play dates when our kids were toddlers, but now that they are bigger we don't really talk much, just a couple of times a year and DH and him swap manly emails if you kwim?

I think both parties spouses or SO's need to be secure in themselves and their relationship or this sort of relationship would never work.

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I think that as long as there's not an attraction there's definately a chance that it'll remain ONLY a friendship. However, if one person is attracted to the other there's no chance. Like if the girl likes the guy and the guy doesn't know that she wants to take the relationship to the next level...that can lead to some confusion...especially if the guy is in a relationship...

Airing grievances.

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I think that men and women can be friends, but if there is an attration, its really not a good idea to spend a lot of time alone.

Yes I think men and women can be friends. I own a tire store so I work with men all day and everyone of them are friends.

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