We have helped people out twice during our married life (past 18 years)...

One was a man who came to town and did work for my husband's office. He stayed for a month in a van in our driveway. The 'free spirit' type -- he basically ate meals with us (provided groceries) and spent evenings with us. He went home after the project ended.

The other was a teenage girl whose father got transferred to Chile (job) during her Senior year in high school. She was easy but I did not like the responsibility that went along with parenting a teenage girl with a boyfriend!!! We lived in the country and once she ran out of gas a mile or so from home in the middle of the night. Things like that were difficult but other than that, she pulled her weight... did her own laundry, bought groceries, etc. She left as soon as she graduated.

Both were very easy and good to have live with us. Neither one took advantage of us and if nothing else, helped out and made life easier.

I once had a very good friend of mine stay with me, while I was a single mother. My friend was going through an ugly divorce, and stayed with me for a month or two. She was so helpful, and more than pulled her weight. I never asked for money or food from her, I just enjoyed having the company.

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Just a couple friends and my brother... all of which my husband tried to help out with jobs (good paying jobs where he worked). The friends burned us and yet we tried again with both of them. My brother is a different story, he still does the same thing for work and works with my husband again, and has lived on his own (well, with roommates, just not with us) for a few years now.

good lord, we have had a ton of folks live with us.! I think we were married for like 10 yrs when we decided we were old enough to live alone!
First , when we got married, his best friend had just came back from over seas in the service and came home to find his wife was pregant ( he had been gone over a yr) so he moved in till he found somewhere else to live. then hubbys brother and his wife split up so he moved in then when he moved out my cousin stayed while she was in college then she moved out and another friend and his wife split up and he moved in and then he moved out and a friend who drove a truck long distance lived in our motor home when he was home off trips. Then my father in law got sick and moved in until he died.Then the brother moved back in when he got laid off and when he finally moved out I sold the extra bed and turned that bedroom into the craft /junk room so no one could move in again!
I swear it was like we ran and bed and breakfast for the first 10 yrs we were married!

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Not really I would never trust anyone too either except of course a relative I mean I let my dad stay with me when I was younger so any of our parents or brothers or sisters well some of them but I wouldnt trust just anyone

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No we haven't. If a close friend or family member needed a place to stay, we would be more than happy to provide it (providing they abide by house rules). We HAVE lived at another house (my parent's) while we were house shopping (sold our house, was building a new house, stopped building and had to find another house) for 4 months and my parents were out of state for 2 of that (thank goodness!). It was more than *cozy* and my folks have a pretty nice sized house.

I have two children so I wouldn't take in just anyone. My kids safety (as well as my own) is too dear to me

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Yes a few who stayed after getting out of one situation until they could find another place. No problems.

HOWEVER. we had a friend of my DH's live with us for about 2 months. Let's just say it did not work out. I ended up having our locks changed and putting all his stuff in his mother's garage one day while he was at work. Years later he actually thanked me for doing it. He is, and was, a good guy, just a little bad in the decision making process

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We've had three foreign exchange students live with us. It's interesting taking in somebody else's teenager. We are pretty strick, so I'm sure it was difficult for the boys at times.

We took in my daughter's pregnant friend when her boyfriend said "Good-bye" (they were looking at engagement rings when she told him!) and her mother kicked her out. She was 20 years old and not ready to settle down yet. We stuck it out with her so "our granddaughter" would have a decent home.
She finally settled down and got married and we now have a great 21 year old granddaughter.

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We let DH's brother, his wife and our neice stay with us for 6 months. They were suppose to be looking for their own place. Never ever again will I do that! The deal was they were suppose to help with groceries, and we would take turns with making dinner. They never paid one cent towards groceries nor bought any. Never cooked, or bought, one meal. They didn't clean up after themselves at all. They would take showers and just throw the towels either down on the floor or throw them outside of their bedroom door. As if I were the maid and would be by to pick them up!!

It would have went on for longer but at 6 months I put my foot down and said they go or I go. At that point I even offered to pay for a motel for them to go to. It was bad!!

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No, we haven't. I'm not sure I could stand having someone else live with us. I don't know, we'd have to have a serious discussion if the situation ever came up.

Lisa

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Years ago, my new husband and I let a friend stay with us - supposed to be short term since we had an extra room. He used to eat cans of vegies cold and leave the cans under the bed. .... gross. When I got pregnant, we told him he would have to move so we could set up the room when it got close. he got mad, moved out, left a mess and never talked to us again... oh well,,,,,

DH's sister and brother lived with us at different times. The sister was a nightmere to deal with -- very messy (to the point of disgusting) and she blamed me for everything that went wrong. DH was traveling for work at the time, so he was never home and I was a SAHM with an infant. I was thrilled when she got back together with her boyfriend (now husband) and moved out.

DH's middle brother lived with us for about two months after DH got him a job and he moved here from out of state. He was a dream house guest -- neat, quiet, helped around the house, babysat DS if I needed to run to the store, etc. I was sad to see him go, but he was ready to move to his own place and his then girlfriend moved in with him.

We offerend DH's baby brother to come and live with us (which greatly upset DH's sister, but that's another story) while he looked for a job, but he ended up finding a job really quickly so he didn't need to stay with us. I'm quite sure he also would have been the perfect house guest.

Several times in the last few years, my sister has stayed with us for a few weeks at a time while she was working near our home. She pretty much came and went as she pleased and helped out around the house as necessasry. A lot of times she worked afternoons, so I was the only one who saw her during her stay. It worked out well for both of us.

Sarah......mom to Jason & Devin

Never had anyone come stay with us for an extended period...I don't think anybody could stand to stay here more than a day. LOL

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I lived with a Marine family <was friends> for a couple years, for my room and food I watched their 2 little girls, watched the house while they went on vacation <Nope no parties but was allowed to have my boyfriend over> cleaned and stuff.

When he was deployed for Desert Storm I helped do things she couldnt cause she was pregnant <litter box and stuff, Gosh I miss their cat I loved him so much, big huge white fluffy cat and he followed me like a dog, I'd say "ok it's bedtime" and he'd run into my room to go to bed lol>

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We have on several occasions. My sister lived with us for a few months twice and my nephew twice. Currently My 20(soon to be 21) is living with us and has since May. His GF stays here most nights with him and was just last night kicked out of her house by her mother so I am waiting for them to ask for her to live here too. I don't know what my answer will be if that happens. I sometimes feel like I will go crazy with just my nephew living here. He does pay rent and helps a bit(if I ask) around the house but still I would rather not have any other person here other then me and DH. I guess we shall see what the future brings. We have always helped out family in need when we can.

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We did foster parenting for teen girls. Sometimes we had 1 other times we took in 2 at the same time. One of our girls went home and came back to live with us when it didn't work out, not as a foster child but as a child of a mother who took off and left her homeless at 17. So we took her in just like one of our own and she lived with us till she graduated high school. Then she still lives with us now at 19 over a year later we started charging her $100 a month just the same we would charge our own children if they weren't in some sort of school. (it includes food, laundry soap, bodywash etc.) So it is a pretty good deal. But she will be leaving the end of Oct she is BUYING a house.

Yes, we've taken in several people over the years. None have worked out well. My DH's cousin lived with us for 4 months-- he never chipped in for anything, and I STILL get bills/collector calls for him 10 years later. Another friend lived with us for 3 months-- he lied about having a job and we had to kick him out because he wouldn't help out.

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