I often invite my husband's single friends over for dinner. They always appreciate a good home cooked meal whether they know how to cook or not. And I always send home containers of food.

Well my husband has one friend and I invited him over. He kept making excuses then he finally told my husband it was weird we invited him over. He said he is into hunting and fishing and he is not the type to go to peoples' houses for dinner???

Well I talked to a couple who know him and they thought it was really strange. They said maybe he doesn't want people to know how dumb he is I said we have known him four yrs we already know that.

He has huge abandonment issues having been raised in a series of foster homes. The best thing I can think of is that maybe he has not had much "dinner party" interaction and doesn't know how to act.

This is the first time anyone has ever said anything like this to myself or to anyone else I know.

What do you think?

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I really don't see anything strange about it.He probably just feels he doesn't have enough in common with you all making the situation uncomfortable for him.Then again,he could just be one of those polite people that do not like to take advantage of others genorosity .
It also could be the reason why hes still single.Hes afraid of getting "too close" or doesn't want to get involved in a relationship even if its just a close friendship.
It could also be that hes a very picky eater and doesn't like to eat strange food.

For me it would be because of social anxiety.I'm just uncomfortable around people who try to get too close unless its family.

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All excellent points.

I'd probably not try to figure it out or make him feel guilty for saying 'no'. I'd also hesitate about talking about him (being dumb) with your other guests or DH's coworkers. He sounds as though he has a tender and battered soul and needs to be treated with dignity and respect.

Just my thoughts from the outside looking in.

It does seem odd ~ but we all have different backrounds and comfort levels. DH and I invited neighbors (husband and wife) out to a local restaurant a while ago. They went and had a great time, but mentioned that no one had ever done that for/with them before. They are in their 50s, so I thought it extemely odd that they had never just gone out with dinner with friends before.

Based on what you said about his background, the poor young man never learned any social skills. So he is either uncomfortable in social situations or just is not interested in being placed in one.

To each his own

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