So this may be personal but I honestly am clueless. I am 32 years old and honestly feel that I have no sexual desire--or need for sex. I absolutely love my husband and want to make him happy but I dont' know whats wrong with me. I always heard the mid 30's was when I'd hit my peak, but it hasn't happened yet.

Should I go to the doctor and get checked up? I've never had any issues before. I'm just really annoyed by this, lol. And need some advise or opinions.

After my kids, I lost my desire for quite awhile. My drive is no where near where it was in my 20's. I'm34 and there are times I could do without. Once I am "into it", I am glad I did because the urge and want comes with the act for the me.

I think a lot of women feel this way (loss or urge or want). There could be something wrong or a hormone issue so you might get checked out (I did) but it could be nothing.

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That makes since, because I lost mine after I had my daughter also, it seemed like it.

I think a lot of woman go through this. Don't get down on yourself about it.

It wouldn't hurt to talk to your doctor about it, but it is something you should talk to your partner about. Let him know how you are feeling, tell him that you are willing to talk to your doctor about it, and ask him for his support to help you get back on track. Open communication might be all you need to kick you back in to "high-gear."

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We've talked but i think he takes it more personal than anything, and i told him it was me.

how old is your daughter? have your thyroid check to make sure it didnt get thrown out of wack after having a baby.

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Also are you on BC? There are very few that don't mess with your mood. If you are on any, see if you can change do one that doesn't mess with that.

Oh, what a helpful doctor you have!

But, yes a change in libido can signal that you're having hormone issues, you're thyroid could be malfunctioning, depression, a lot of things actually. And if you are taking any medications, some of those can decrease libido.

Talk to your doctor...

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I have a friend who claims she is Asexual. She claims she always has been.. she's on husband #5 She says she has no desire or urges for sex..she only does it once in a while to keep her husband happy.


As for me... I'm in my peak.. I hit it in my 40s I am 41 now. Now to find me a 20 year old man in his peak!

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I'd say it's time for a woman doctor. A man will never understand how a woman feels or why.

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One dr told me to go into therapy. My midwife said it was from lack of sleep and when ds started sleeping all night I should improve. Well, ds is 2.5, still doesn't sleep all night (but dh gets up with him), and I'm still not cured.

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I agree with this. Maybe a switch of doctors might be in order. There may be some chemical imbalance that they aren't checking when he is pooh-pooh-ing you off. Also there are some new medications out there that address the lack of female libido.

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Give it a few years. I am 39 now, and DH can't keep up! It seems like my libido has been super-sized in the last few months.

I tell my DH that I'm gonna trade him in for two 24 year olds. I'm almost 45 and seems I want it as often as I can get it.

My daughter is only 3 years old, well she turns 4 in February and no I'm not on any type of medication. I am constantly tired, but I do have an energetic 3 year old, which I blame for that. I've never had any health problems, besides being over weight, which i guess you could consider a health problem. But I've never been put on medication for anything other than flu or cold.

So I'm thinking I'll just go in for a female check-up, do i tell them how i'm feeling?

My husband and I have been married for 10 years in May and I've never had this happen and just got concerned,
thank you guys so much for your input.

I had this happen to me, as well. Back about 4 or so years ago.

My Thyroid was gone, outta here, dead, kaput, nada.

It wasn't until I ended up the ER from heart palpatations that they found out what was wrong with me. Once I got on Thyroid medication it took about maybe six months and WOW!!! I was uncontrollable. lol. I guess I was making up for lost time

But, I am in that rut again... and it is completely driving my dh nuts. I just have no desire, have gained weight and not sure what is wrong again. I have gone on a higher dose of Synthroid as of 9 months ago, but it hasn't changed anything but made my palpatations go away.

A lot of what you say are your symptoms sound so much like me. I would definitely ask them to do a check on your Thyroid.

Okay you horny wenches! .......I'm so jealous.

I hit my "peak" at 36 and it only lasted a week. .....but, ooooh what a week it was. DH was a trooper, even when I was waking him up every night and he was still obviously exhausted from all the "activities" throughout the day. (LOL)


Just an FYI, not all female doctors are understanding to women's issues. Many years ago (in my mid-late 20's) I went to a female gynecologist and attempted to discuss a sexual concern with her after my exam. She was an older German woman, so I guess I was hoping she'd be more like Dr Ruth (LOL). But, nope! She practically went off on me and made me feel ashamed and embarrassed for even asking.

Even still OP, I think you should discuss it with your doctor. And don't beat yourself up about it. As everyone has mentioned, there can be a number of factors that can cause a decreased libido, stress being one of them. So, if you're stressing yourself out about it, that's not going to help the situation. And men will always take it personal. So, if it's at all possible, it may be beneficial for your DH to go with you when you see the doctor. It may help him better grasp that he is not to blame.

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