I have a friend who is very very down on life and her marriage. She will literally tell you she hates her husband. And she is always trying to get everyone elses marriage in an uproar...
Why are some people like that>??

I believe that when people are miserable they cannot see anything else and they do spread or try to spread their misery around.

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I believe thier are people that are out there that like to fuel the fire and then step back and watch it grow. My neigbor is like that. If we are talking or we are having a venting moment about our spouses, instead of just listening like me and my other friends do, she will say what she would do and that I shouldn't take what ever is going on. If I listened to everything she said, I am sure I would be in prison right now or at least divorce court over petty things. I have learned that she is not someone to vent to.. just talk unimportant stuff about.

It goes both ways. Sometimes when I am miserable, I have a hard time being around ppl who are having the best times of their lives. While I need their uplifting spirit, I feel I have nothing to offer in my current state, so I don't reach out. Thankfully, they still do. And when I have a friends that are going through hard times, I want them to know that I am there. I would never want to wish misery on any of my friends just so that we can sit around and commisserate together. Sometimes it just happens that we are going through similar things at the same time. When that happens, it's great to sit around a big slice of coconut cake (Kellyboysmom) and listen to one another, and muster whatever genuine support we have.

Sometimes yes I agree Misery does love company. Personally the thing I have learned from my husband Tommy who always see's the glass half full is that he has always told me put yourself with psotive people. If you put yourself with negative people who are always complaining they will just keep releasing negative feelings. Perhaps to the op friend if her Marriage is not good, then perhaps some professional help, or talking to a therapist would help. If not to stay in a un happy unhealthy loveless marriage is not good for anyone... Peace ... Catherine