I had a birthday party for my son's 11th birthday today and only one kid showed up . . . it was the sadest thing ever . . . It was so sad and it just got worse . . . The party was from noon -4pm and only the one kid showed up, well 4 hours later, the sad little party is ending and at 4pm in comes my sons best friend at 4pm with a present and all happy and o' my - - - - we have to tell him the party was at noon, not at 4pm. My son cryed for at least 2 hours . . . I don't think he will forget this terrible birthday . . . . And I feel horrible . . . I could have just gotten 'rock band' and done nothing and had a happy kid.

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That is sad. I feel for your guy. Did anybody RSVP? I never do parties on Sunday for kids(from school). I have my family over but always do kids parties on Friday nights or Saturdays. To many people Sunday is family time. They go to church and then hang out at home all day. My sons b-day was the 2nd and his "sucked"(in his words) also. He had to go to school so no party. I did order him pizza and picked up his favorite pie at Village Inn(only to have it be the wrong pie when I went to serve him). Needless to say he was bummed also but he recovered after he opened gifts(LOL).

I'm so sorry. It does seem sometimes parents are taking parties for others casually--planning to go, but bumping the party if something else comes up. It can be brutal if a child ends up waiting for guests who don't arrive. Reading your post just broke my heart.

I wish there were something to offset this for your son. Maybe you can take he and his best friend to a movie or some other place next weekend as a late bday celebration. Not the same, and doesn't erase what happened, but can give him some happy associations with this bday for the future.

I'd be happy to send him a silly belated bday card.

I'm sorry that this happened to your son. Maybe the invitations got messed up somehow (given the no-shows and the boy coming at the end of the party...)and you could try to make it up somehow?

I hope that he had a good day nonetheless.

cj/

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I like CJ's idea - is there any way you could call up some of the parents (that you know and like) and explain what happened as some sort of confusion, and invite some kids over for this Friday night as a surprise?

I would NOT tell your son it's going to happen, either - no sense in getting his hopes up again, or having him stress out about the 2nd possibility of no-shows. I'd just plan a little surprise for him, have pizza and a movie. I'm sure SOME other parents would really cooperate. And if you have 3 or 4 boys, it would probably turn things around for your son.

Good luck either way. I feel for your son, and for you!

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My daughter had the same thing happen to her many years ago. All the invitees got chicken pox except the kid she like the least. What a awful time that is when only one kid shows up.

This happened to my daughter when she was about 4. It wasn't her party, but one she was invited to for a girl in her daycare class. They had invited all the girls for a tea party. Chicken Pox was going around the class. The morning of the party I called to say she couldn't come because she had come down with them. The mom says, "oh, my daughter has them, too, several girls who are coming have them. If she feels like coming, bring her." So the party went on. Half the girls had already had them, half the girls had an active case. They still had fun!

Lisa

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As stated in my post, my daughters B-Day bash was on Halloween night. Invites went out well in advance with a RSVP by date printed on them. I had one family RSVP. I know Halloween is a busy night for most, but at least let me know either way! I ended up calling each mom and asked if their child would make it and some seemed "bothered" by my calling. All the kids came and fun was had...but it is hard to plan when the invited guests don't RSVP.

I am so sorry for your son!

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We had an opposite problem. We RSVPed for a party and showed up at the appointed time. We found a sign on the door that said, "Due to lack of RSVPs, the party is cancelled". WHAT? We did RSVP, so why couldn't they call us back and tell us? We scheduled our weekend around the party and our son was excited to go. If I were in those parents shoes, I would have had whoever showed up and the family. Make the best of it.

I'm sorry for your son. The last time we did friend parties I worried about the same thing.

That is so sad.

Which son is it? I notice your signature line says your boys are 6, 4 and 3, but your post says your son is 11. Did you have it today (Monday)? Weren't kids in school at noon? I'm just confused from reading your post and trying to figure it out. If it was Sunday, you think maybe because it was at noon that people were having Sunday lunch or still at church was maybe the reason the kids didn't show up?

I'm sorry this happened to your little boy.

the op posted that she has the party for her 11 year old son on November2nd which would be a sunday not a monday when they would have school. Also you stated that her signature line reads her childs age different , they do not she clearly has her signature line as such Justin 11, Nicholas 9 and Scottie 8 so where do you see different age groups. Finally to op I am so sorry to hear about your sons birthday and glad things turned out for him. Blessing for a 11th birthday and many many more to come... Peace Catherine

Poor Justin! Hope he's feeling better. Church doesn't get out until noon on Sunday so that's probably what the problem was.

No, the OP's signature line was very outdated yesterday morning. The OP must have updated when she saw the comment from mom2twins2.

broke my heart reading your post too, poor boy

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note to comment about the op's signature and the ages of her sons I only read the updated version sorry for the mistake... Catherine

poor little man

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Thank you! I knew I wasn't seeing things!

We have experienced the lack of rsvp many times over the years and it is very frustrating. I don't understand it either. Just did DS 's bday party for friends yesterday. 10 kids invited. No rsvps to our home phone as requested. Some haphazardly rsvpd directly to my son. As of yesterday, the party, 2 kids never rsvped in any way, and three others backed out at last minute. Luckily for me, I was allowed to cancel one of the lanes we had reserved at the bowling alley for the pizza and bowling package. I feel very badly for your son; hope it blew over quickly. I guess the best option is to plan things on a smaller scale with just the best buddies, then maybe do something a little more special with the smaller group.