Do you prefer to get emails BCC or to be able to view the recipient list?

I have a relative that sends most everything blind. Bless her heart, it drives me insane.

She is a big 'forwarder' and assumes everyone forwards things on. She says, "People really appreciate not having that big list of recipients at the top when they get a forward, and I like saving the person I send it to the trouble of having to chop all those names out when they send it on."

Um... I don't think that many people really do send things on.

Personally, I like to *know* who else got the news she just shared with me. It's like I don't have a clue if she whispered it in my ear, told only the 'girls' in the family, told only her children and their spouses, or informed the entire extended clan. I don't know whether to call and gab about some new news with my favorite sister-in-law because I don't know if she was a hidden recipient.

I just like to KNOW who gets the messages that *I* get.

I have a relative that kinda does this in a sneaky way, or so I've figured out. When they don't want me to know they are sending it to one certain person in the family (for whatever reason I have no clue?), they will put me or another person in the title and blind copy this person (I know she gets it). I've also found that this person uses it to 'through around' another more important person (in her eyes). I could care less who she knows/talks to. Does that make sense? I wish truly that the emails would just stop regarding forwards. I hate them too. Most of it is just stupid stuff I don't have time for or care about. Things meant to make you panic, lol.

Now, I do see why bcc is a good thing, as I do appreciate not having my email address out there for every tom/dick/harry to view or to be added to spam lists. I don't email the world, only a few people, so I do not forward junk mail. If I'm emailing, it's writing a 'letter', etc. to keep in touch.

It depends -- if I'm sending something to a long list of people, I assume that there are some on that list who don't want their email visible for the world to see. I BCC as a courtesy to them. I know I've gotten emails from our religious education director at Church, or the youth athletic group in our town, or the PTO and the whole list is there for all to see -- this bothers me a bit as there a few people I'd rather not know my addy.

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Yeah - I should have specified that when it's a joke or funny story, I'm find with the BCC thing. It's when it's a family update about something that I'd like to know which family members got looped into the info she is sharing. Our church email lists, etc., are all sent blind, and I know exactly what people received those emails along with me, so there isn't any head-scratching there. If it's the youth committee emails... I know who is on the committee. If it's a prayer chain email, I know that pretty much the whole church got it. But when it's a *family* email, I'd really like to know which family members have been told the info I learned from the email.

When I'm just sending emailsl to a couple people that are family or close friends or information about soccer or something like that, I show the list.

When I'm forwarding jokes to a list of people who don't know each other and who will forward it on, I cut out all the emails and use bcc.

I don't want my email address forwarded all over the world for spammers and whoever to have it. When others don't do it, I just assumed they didn't know how.

Lisa

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the only family that emails me is my cousin and she doesn't bcc. I wish more people DID bcc. If you don't, your email address is now public to all on the email list. A lot of people would like their personal emails to remain private. I changed my personal email some time ago because a friend sent a holiday invite letter to their party and didn't use bcc. Not too many people had this email as I normally use my biz email. It was basically for the one yahoo board I am on. Months later I start getting LOTS of nasty stuff sent to that email. Turns out, one of the people who didn't get invited to the party got the invite forwarded to them by someone who had and submitted everyone's email to some sort of spam service or something. I know, sounds like high school right? Wrong. This was a 40 something adult who did this. So, please use bcc,especially for "jokes" or "forwards" (which I detest). I don't want your whole email list to know my email. I don't want them to add me to their "forward" list

but maybe I'm just a grump

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Oh, yeah - I'm with you on those things, smurf. Definitely!

An example of the sort of thing I'm whining about is... um... last year we were trying to figure out some information regarding a family reunion. The family is huge, and the reunions are for the extended family. Often this relative would email saying, "I want to know what you think about the idea of having everyone... blah blah." The next day there'd be an update saying, "Some of you have said..."

Had she not sent it blind, we could've done a "Reply to All" and then everyone else would've known who said what, and we could've shared our opinions with each other. As it was, it felt like she was the 'secret collector of information' and the rest of us couldn't even create our own fresh email to tell everyone else our thoughts on the matter... because we didn't know who 'undisclosed recipients' were.

Just DH's siblings? All the aunts and uncles? Who was being polled and what, specifically, was said by whom?

Ditto - I do the same. In addition, when sending jokes I usually don't send any to people that haven't sent me jokes for a while, I assume they no longer want to receive them. I only forward the best of the e-mails I receive (delete most). Some who don't send me e-mails have requested to still receive e-mails from me.

I have one person I e-mail with who has an extensive list and when that person has a reply, they reply to all. That annoys me.

Why should it drive you insane? Are you that bored that you need to know everyone else that she is in contact with, besides yourself? Why should it matter who else she shared the message with?

I agree with your relative, I do not like to have a big list to have to chop away at, in order to forward a message on.

Your relative seems to be very respectful of others.