Do you ever feel like all you do is break your Butt all through the Holiday and someone always has a gripe.

I have Christmas Eve dinner at my house because there is only 2 of us and my sister every year spends xmas eve with her in-laws no questions asked. I don't want my parents to be alone so I have them over. We were invited over to my in-laws but had to decline because of this situation.

My husbands parents on Christmas Day now will be alone so I tell them they are invited over and spend the day with us. Important because they leave for Floriday in January and I think it's only fair the DH spend time with his family.
I tell my parents they can come over as well as my sisters family so we can ba together.

Well yesterday and the day before my Sister keeps moaning to my parents that she has done Christmas day a couple of time and she thought it was to at her house.
I told my parents I wouldn't be mad or insulted if that is what they decided to do but I was having my in-laws over.

She is starting that she didn't receive a formal invite so I sent her one and haven't heard back.
Why every year at this time she starts I don't know? My husband said he will tell his parents we have to go to her house and I said no way. I am screwed either way. Either my parents are alone Chrismtas Eve, Inlaws Christmas day, or My Sister is BS.

All this on top of running a business that is busy at this time of year.
You try to make Two beautiful Holiday meals and then I have a big New Years, Spend a ward of money to hear everyone complain. It really stinks and puts a damper on my Holiday.

Just needed to vent because this is my favorite time of year and my family always causes some commotion. Talk about Seasonal disorder.

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I'm sorry you're having a hard time and things aren't working out (again). I hope things go more smoothly for you...somehow.

I've never lived near family, so I can't really relate...sometimes I think that's better/easier.

Good luck...looks like you'll need it!

I like the (again) part! You remember all the crap but I put it all aside because I feel life is too short which I will try to do this time. It's frustrating the she at 40continues especially while we are in the getting along mode. It's always during the Holidays. I love the cooking, music, getting together with Family but this really makes me not want to be around any of them. My parents should just put an end to this by finally telling her it's immature BS and to grow up.

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I'm so sorry your sister is putting such a damper on your holiday. I feel your pain! Mine is a little different, as it's MIL and SIL that put a damper on it. DH fixed them this year and we're not doing Christmas morning at all with them! Like he said, "we don't need the frustration of their pettiness".

I hope you can get things worked out so you ENJOY!

I don't really understand your post.

Your sister is not coming because she didn't get a formal invite.
Your parents are going to your sister's because she isn't coming to your house because she didn't get a formal invite.
Your DH said to tell his parents (your inlaws) that you all are going to your sister's because she will be alone?

But aren't your parents going there at your sister's?

Tell you whiny sister she is invited for Christmas. Tell your parents they are invited for Christmas. Tell your inlaws they are invited for Christmas. Let all these grown adult people decide where they are going to go for Christmas and ask them all to RSVP by Tuesday.

If none of them RSVP assume it is going to be just you and your children and your DH for Christmas.

It is not your job to run around and make everyone's season bright. Quit trying to make grown ups happy. Offer the invite and move on with your plans.

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Everyone has been invited in-laws, Sister & family and my parents. My in-laws are the reason I am having the Christmas Day Dinner so that my Husband can see his parents for the Holiday because Xmas eve I have my parents over because my Sister goes to her in-laws. The whole issue is started that I didn't send my sister a formal invite and that she USUALLY has dinner over her house.

Well that has happened maybe once or twice and I think it's terrible to start any warfare again and especially at Christmas. What is the difference where she has dinner especially if she doesn't have to lift a finger.

Again I am only aggravated because I am trying to make it so that nobody is alone and everyone can come over eat and be happy.

I still haven't received any acknowledgement of my formal invitation.

Here is what the invite said:

Hi
Can't talk now because I am doing work but I didn't want to forget to tell you I have to do Christmas Day here because I want DH to be able to see his parents before they go to Florida and they are having a Christmas Eve party at their house. Of course you guys are invited as well as Ma and Dad. I told Ma if you guys want to spend it over your House I won't be mad or insulted. Again though you are all invited here with us if you'd like to join us.
I'll try to call you in a while. Have fun in the Snow!

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Tessa is right on the money. It took ten years, and who knows how much money, for me to learn to start asking myself, "What do YOU want to do, Marilou?" I spent YEARS trying to make people happy and it never really worked. In the meantime, I was miserable. Please, do what makes YOU and your hubby happy. Your sister is manipulating you and being a baby. But that's HER problem...you don't have to deal with it. Enjoy the holiday that you love so much.

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Thanks
Great advice and that is whay I am sticking to my Guns and having my in-laws for Christmas, Whoever wants to join us can and will.

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I feel your pain. T-s me off to no end that all the world seems to coddle to those who make noise and break rules....while the peacekeeprs get walked on. I guess we gotta stop being the doormat..

cj/

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I totally agree. Very well said. Sometimes we do so much for others that we ignore our own needs. Do something for yourself that makes you feel good. Happy holidays! ~Lisa