Last week I went to pick my son up after school. I noticed a white SUV that said Medical Examiner on it driving by me on my way out of the neighborhood. I just figured that maybe it was someone who lived in the neighborhood who worked for them. I almost forgot about it until on the way home from picking up my son, he noticed that car and a police car in our neighbor's driveway down the street. I called my friend who is their next door neighbor to find out what was going on. She said that the older man who lived there had passed away. His wife went out to do some errands earlier that day and came home that afternoon and found him dead. He had a history of past health problems...a stroke six years ago and some heart surgery. Anyway, another one of my friends is pretty good friends with the guy's wife and their daughter who lives there. I decided I would call her to see if she knew what had happened. I called her and asked if she was at home. She said no, that she was in front of "the Smith's" house. I said "Oh, I guess you know what happened to Steve then."...She said "What? That he's no longer on this earth with us."...I said "Yes, that's why I was calling you...to tell you that he passed away earlier today.". She asked me what the details were...what time did he die? Did his wife find him out in the yard or was he in the house? Blah blah blah. I said "I don't know anything...other than he passed away today." She said to me in a snotty tone, "Oh, aren't you a wealth of information!". I said "You know Karen, I was only trying to be nice by calling you and letting you know what was happening if you saw the police over there. I know that you are friends with them. I wasn't calling to be a gossip or with any evil intent." I then proceeded to tell her that I didn't like her attitude and I hung up on her. She called me back and left me a really nasty voice mail. I emailed her and apologized for hanging up on her, but explained that I didn't think what she said to me was very nice. She's had this attitude for awhile towards me and I guess it just built up and I snapped. She never answered my email. I then saw her at the memorial service and we didn't speak to eachother. I don't really know what to make of any of it. She's had some really tough times lately and I've tried to be there for her. I took her out to lunch, checked in on her when she was depressed, told her that she could put her stuff in my basement if she got foreclosed on, etc. Yes, she has some problems, but don't we all? I don't think that gives her permission to treat me like dog poop! OK...all done now! ~Lisa

Lisa, I am sorry. It is sad when people act like that!
I just wanted to send you a Hug.

Shirley

Lisa sweetie I am so sorry to hear that this happened to you , you of all people sweetie do not deserve that treatment at all, sadly some people just cannot say something nice and are truly mean spirited people who find joy in putting people down. I am sorry to hear about this story . Do not worry okay hon you did nothing wrong at all... Peace.. Catherine

she has some issues for sure. My guess is it sorta slipped out of her mouth ( depression sometimes has that effect)..and when you called her on it, she cannot admit she was at fault. Give it time. Maybe it is time you 2 take a break from each other. HUGS for you , though.

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You are all so sweet. Thanks for the nice replies. I'm just frustrated I guess because she never answered my email back...and she always would before. I'm the kind of person who just wants to deal with it...find out what happened...talk about it...and go from there if we can. I've been friends with her for about 12 years. Not best friends, but we do get together every once in awhile. Her daughter was our first babysitter when we moved down here years ago. She's now about 24 and married. It makes sense now when she told me that she was estranged from her daughter and new son-in-law for awhile. She claimed that her son-in-law was controlling and was jealous of her realtionship with her daughter. I met him at the bridal shower and he seemed really sweet. I'm beginning to think he wanted his wife to stay away from her because she can be really toxic. I'm not going to force myself on anyone if she doesn't want to be friends any longer. I'm not even sure I want to after yet another episode with her. I was thinking of calling her or sending another email. I probably should just leave it alone I guess. ~Lisa

Coming from a person that's suffered from depression, I can tell you that personally, I resented everyone who seemed happy. That kind of attitude has a way of festering and it shows to other people. If you're not that dedicated to her as a friend.. then I'd just leave her alone until she reaches a point in her life where she wants to be better and have a better attitude. She'll reach out to you when/if she climbs out of her funk.

I'm sorry she's being so rude to you, but please try not to take it personally because it sounds like it's really *her* problem.