I was just reading a magazine last week and found some "people finder" sites listed. One of the sites was called Pipl - People Search. I've heard of ussearch.com, peoplefinder.com, and zabasearch.com. Well, this site has more information than I've ever seen...or that I care to know! What is the old saying? If you go looking for trouble...you're sure to find it...To make a long story short, I was putting in some old friends and neighbors names just for fun. I put in this guy I used to know and I almost fell off my chair. It showed up under public records that he was arrested for solicitation of a prostitute back in 2001. I don't know why but I'm still in shock. He and his wife were good friends of ours awhile back, but they moved to NC. They have kids and grandkids here so they come back for a few months during the summer months. We really don't talk to them much anymore. DH and I always kind of looked up to this guy. We put him on a pedastal because he was such the family man...good husband who seemed to love his wife dearly. When I saw this it made me sick to my stomach. Now I'm wondering if he had been doing this his whole life? I feel so badly for his wife and I'm furious that he may have put her at risk for AIDS or STDs. Anyway, I know it's his problem and not mine. DH tells me to let it go and leave sleeping dogs lie. I'm just wondering that if I could so easily pull something like that up, anyone else might see it too such as his adult children. Do you think I should call him and let him know it's on there? Maybe he already knows...If he doesn't, DH thinks the news might give him a heart attack or something. The guy has high blood pressure. I'm not the type of person to ever tell his wife. I would not cause any trouble like that and hurt people. I know you will say to mind my own business which I'll most likely do. It just needed to vent. I can't tell anyone that I know because they all know these people. I"m disappointed and mad. I keep telling myself that I've been no saint in my past and have made mistakes too...so perhaps that's what it was. I'm not trying to judge the guy...I'm just so incredibly pissed off because I feel that he fooled us. Any suggestions would be appreciated. ~Lisa

I just looked up a few people, didn't you have to pay money to find out anything more than addresses, web pages, and age?

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I wouldnt. people make mistakes. And the sites not accurate. There's three people with my name where i grew up and none are me. No listings in anywhere from what it pulled up are me and tried married and maiden. It pulled up alot of Mistress Michelle and porn sites and definatly know those are not me. With my FIL name it shows me as a relative but listed as living where my dh and I have even though he's never lived with us

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LET IT GO!
It isn't your business to be telling anyone anything in this situation...
Unless you know for 100% fact that what you saw is absolutely, positively your friend (such as a picture) then you may be assuming facts not in evidence.

(I love pipl.com--I use it to check out some of my work comp claimants. You would be amazed at the ones who can't work, but will post stuff on myspace, facebook or youtube showing them doing hunting, racing cars, bowling, dancing, etc.)

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Say nothing. It's really a "mind your own business" situation.

I just looked up myself on there and they definately have some wrong information posted. NO idea where they got some of it, LOL!!

I didn't pay for anything though, but isn't that how you would have found information on that guy? You have to pay for any type of real records.

Maybe I should pay for a check on myself, I'd really like to know if anything awful is listed in connection with me - especially if it's not true.

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There is no info for me on there but then I have no criminal record. My daughter checks the Maryland Judiciary site and that tells all criminal activity for the state.
Lisa checking unclaimed money and property is more fun and I got some$$$ from the search.

In just my local area there is at least one person who my husband shares his name with who also is in the same field. People are forever getting his resume confused with my husbands - heck they even deal with some of the same contract job agencies. If you search outside just that field there's a bunch more people with his name - some even share his middle initial (country wide). You can't know for sure based on this website that it really is THIS guy... it could very well be some other guy. In fact if you liked him in the past you rather owe it to him to assume its some other guy unless he's got the world's most unique name.

Case in point - I went to college with a guy who had a relatively unique name - but if I google him there's at least 3 people with his name in the country. My own first name is pretty rare - but once I got married I found at least 1 doppleganger (first and last name) and I have no doubt there's more because I decided to marry a guy with a last name thats in the mid-20's for most common in the us.

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I'm pretty sure it's the same guy. He has a unique name, his birthday is listed, and it's the town he lives in. Too many things not to be the same person. The birthdate is what really convinced me. No, I didn't pay for anything. I thought it was really bizarre that this information was right out there like that. I would never pay money to find out information on anyone. Maybe in that state they post those types of things for all to see. Maybe because it was a sex related "crime"...just as sex offenders are listed without you having to pay to find out who they are. Anyway, I'm going to take your advice. It's none of my business and if it is true, it happened eight years ago. I agree with you about some of the information not being true. They have all of these people listed that are my relatives...and they aren't! The only correct one they have is DH. One site has my brother's birthday as April 6th and it's April 9th. The also have my Dad's middle initial "D" which is my brother's middle initial...they have the same first name. Anyway, I appreciate all of your advice...and I'm going to take it. Thanks. ~Lisa

I found numerous errors when I looked up some peoples names. I found addresses listed for people, same DOB as the person I know, they never lived at that address! I found people listed by names that aren't real...like my husband's EX GF with HIS last name! NO THEY WERE NOT MARRIED!!!!! Using HIS ADDRESS!!!!! YIKES?!!!!! Maybe I should find out what she is up to! Probably trying to apply for credit cards if I were to guess! BAD NEWS!

Interesting....

I pulled up my name. It has a bunch of stuff right including my address, phone number and email but it has me related to people I am not related too and have lived in cities I have never lived in. It also had my mom listed as 108 instead of 59 LOL I should tell her about that to tick her off!

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I would just mind your own business....

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Hard to believe how many people have the same name.

this is a little scarey. I looked up my name and it gives out alot of infomation including everywhere I have ever lived. It also has my e-mail and after my e-mail it says will say a prayer for your family. the only time I ever wrote anything like that was on my coupons cafe. they give the date as may 08.

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it's scary what they find. I know when I google my cell phone number, a portion of a chat I had with someone on a PRIVATE (ie: membership required with password) board is shown. It was a message to a friend with my info. So now I wonder if other private messages (like those on MYC) will show up in searches in the future

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I'm not sure why you feel hurt and betrayed, but I'd definitely mind your own business.

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These stats can't be right .

It says that there's only 21 people in the U.S.A with my first and last name

and for my 6 yo here's her stats

There are 4,589 people in the U.S. with the first name xxxxx.
Statistically the 2762nd most popular first name.
More than 99.9 percent of people with the first name xxxxx are female.

• There are 58,131 people in the U.S. with the last name xxxxx.
• Statistically the 607th most popular last name.

There is 1 person in the U.S. named xxxxxx xxxxx.


Hmm is the only person named this her ??

That's a pretty cool site. Although I knew about zabbasearch and whitepages.com it had a bunch more in one place, including public records. I bookmarked it for later use!

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Thanks...I thought it was really cool too...The most informative site I've ever found...LOL...I don't know if that's a good thing or a bad thing!...While we're on the subject, here are some other sites:
zabasearch.com, wink.com, brbpub.com, peoplefinders.com, and ussearch.com

~Lisa

I've asked myself the same question...I guess because we really liked him and his wife...Sad to see how he may be hurting her with his illicit activities...and she is totally clueless about it as we we're...They are an older couple so maybe perhaps I thought of him like a father figure...Who knows?... ~Lisa

We would probably be shocked and disgusted to know what goes on "behind closed doors" really.

CaddyLisa,
She may already know. It's really not something you would go around telling people about.No matter how friendly you may be with someone they don't always share such information with other people that don't know it has happen.To this date my ex-husband's mother and his 9 brothers and sisters have no idea her son ( their brother ) was arrested and CHARGED with a crime that took place while we were married. It was too embarrassing for me to tell and would have broken her heart and torn his family apart to know he was ( still could be ) like that. It's been 27 years since he committed the crime and no one knows it happen but me, the lady it happen too and god. Over those 27 years I have had many "close" friends and I have never spoken a word of this to any of them. It was a crime that you just didn't speak about. So please don't fool yourself into thinking she doesn't know because she's may and has never told you.

P.s CaddyLisa, If we went around , looked into everyone's 'Personal Life" Outside and inside the law I'm sure we would all be shocked to learn some of the things they have done. Not just the ones we can find out about from a search.

And the chances are, she does know and she's certainly not going to go around announcing it to her friends!

I'd suggest you get over yourself! The world doesn't revolve around you. This is between him and his wife. You're not even part of his social circle anymore! His lifestyle has nothing to do with you and he doesn't owe you any explanation or apology for cheating on his wife. He didn't set out to fool you, you assumed he was something he wasn't. He didn't ask you to put him on a pedestaI, you did that.

I don't even know the guy and yet I feel absolutely sure that you didn't once cross his mind when he was picking up hookers. ROFL. Come on, what did you expect him to do? Go around telling everyone he used to know that he isn't what they may have thought he was? This is his personal business and it's got nothing to do with you. You're not even close anymore so I'm flabbergasted that you would even consider letting him know that you found out he was arrested eight years ago. What would be the point? He can't get the information removed so all you would accomplish is to embarass or anger him.

It's extremely likely that his wife knows all about the arrest and wouldn't appreciate your 'help', either. It's even possible that her husband goes to prostitutes with her blessing to do something that she's not willing to do. You don't know that he's put her at risk for catching a STD, you don't even know if they have a sexual relationship at all anymore. It's possible that she may know of his activities and doesn't care.

I can understand that you're shocked to find out that someone you used to know frequents prostitutes but you're really overreacting. So far, you've stated that you're (quote) "sick to your stomach, mad, furious, disappointed, and so incredibly pissed off" about something that is absolutely none of your business. You seem to be very emotionally involved with a man that you really don't talk to much anymore. ??? I understand your shock but not your anger. Being "incredibly pissed off" and "sick to your stomach" seems a pretty extreme reaction since you rarely talk to this couple.

I think your DH is right and you should stay out of their business. I just don't understand why you ever thought of involving yourself in the first place. ??? Life usually provides us with enough drama so that there's no need to create it! I don't think hese people would thank you for creating drama for them. They'd probably resent your interference in a matter they'd rather forget.

I agree 100% also if she does know they may have worked it out and she has forgiven him of his bad deed and to that, to never be spoken of again.
I'm the type of person once I forgive you I'll never bring it up again unless it takes place again ( then I'll never let you forget it ). So this lady may very well know as the kids but for what ever reason they have not told anyone.

CaddyLisa,
Also, we really don't know the full details of the crime just because he was "arrested" for solicitation of a prostitute doesn't mean he's guilty of the crime. for all we know it could have been a "sting" and he thought he was just flirting or trying to get a date with plain ole Jane down the road.Stings like that can have many different ways of saying they " solicited " a prostitute .
Also, If he had not been arrested you wouldn't have known anything on this matter. You would still have "thought" of the man as being the same "Nice", "Sweet" "Caring" Person you have always thought of him as being.Just because he went looking for a sex date doesn't mean he would have done it, and just because he got caught doing it doesn't mean he has done this before.He made a mistake, he paid his due , and now it's time to let it go and let this man live his life as he has done for the last 8 years since his crime.

Though I don't agree with the use of a prostitute...there are worse things a person could do! For all anyone knows, he and his wife do not have an intimate marriage anymore and he was desperate? Sexless marriages/relationships are way more common than we realize! Prostitution is the oldest profession so they say. I bet if we knew (they wore a sign on their backs) of every man that solicited a prostitute, we would be totally shocked!

I agree with this observation... I was wondering if CaddyLisa had "feelings" for this gentleman. That would be the only reason I would that mad if a man I knew went to a hooker.

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This is just a typical SAHM in my neighborhood.... Always nosing in everyones business.. I said GET A JOB and leave others alone...

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Well aren't we just a ray of fu#$%^& sunshine! ~Lisa

No Lisa,
Just being honest. From your initial post you dont seem to be in contact with him anymore. REGARDLESS of the reason why you put his name in, what in gods name would you hope to gain by calling him or his wife?? NOTHING! Just another busybody sticking her nose in peoples business...
The sad part is I am sure you were on the phone today talking to all the other busybodies telling what you found....
How truly pathetic!

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lisa,
I put my own name in and mine can't be right.

I have never heard of the places they list for me.

couple of examples;

Hohenhort Hotel in Constantia ( where IS this?)

Still, it’s an annual concern for Shirley xxxxx who manages the pie booth on the outdoor patio . I prefer cookies and don't really like pie!
and a
BMX event in new zealand that I am in charge of huh?

In New Zealand - and

Seriously I have never been there. Has to be another with my name.

Shirley

I don't know Shirley, I think Constantia and New Zealand sound pretty good. Maybe we could use peoplefinder to do short-lived "Life Swaps" with those who share our names.

cj/

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Fess up Shirley. You lead a double life! You're Bond...Jane Bond. You live in the penthouse suite of the Hohenhort Hotel in Tropical(assuming) Constantia. You go under cover as a Pie Booth Operator by day and by night you drive your BMX to New Zealand and run the show!

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Caddylisa, Hon I would just leave things alone, you have a life with you dh and truly cannot upset yourself with his problems. Your too sweet of person to be bothered, so just put it to rest and move on sweetie, again your too much of a caring person, hugs. Catherine

I was trying to keep it a secret.

But...... now that it is out ,cj's swap idea may be the thing to look into.

I will sell those pies....... IF ........ I don't have to bake them.

I'll eat the pies if I dont have to clean up

That's fine that you consider yourself being honest. I can agree to disagree. No problem with that. What I do take issue with is you assuming things about me when you don't even know me. You really seem to think that you know alot about me. You assume that I don't work and need to get a job. You assume that I was talking on the phone about this situation today. Sorry to break it to you but wrong on both counts. Read what I wrote. Not once did I ever say that I would call his wife! I would never do that. I was asking if I should warn him that this information is out there for all to see. I don't think that's being a busy body just because I was considering this. Yes, I might be a busy body if I actually did call him. I think I would like to be told...but then again, that's just me. You seem very hostile and judgemental of me. A real hater. Yes, I asked for opinions, but I certainly didn't ask to be attacked! Too funny! Now I can see why Julieoh, Ohgodd, and numerous others have left. If a@@holes could fly, this place would be an airport! Well, not everyone. I love you GrannyShirl, Lucy, Julie, Penny, and Anna! There is a way to give someone your advice or opinion on a subject without turning it into a personal attack. I enjoy hearing others points of view...nothing pathetic about that. ~Lisa

Lisa well said sweetie, I agree with all you just wrote. I also agree there are some people on here who seem to take pleasure out of being mean spirited and truly just cannot say something nice. I for one miss Kathy Ohhgodd very much and wish she would return, perhaps she will someday. Anyway again do not let anyone from here get to you, your a sweet caring person.. Have a nice nite , hugs. Catherine

I don't think dannic calling you a busybody makes her a hater. I think it just means that she thinks you're a busybody. LOL. Can you blame her? I hate to tell you this but she has a point. How is your ex-neighbor's arrest for soliciting a prostitute your business? He's not your friend anymore - he's someone you used to know.

Now it's my turn to vent...and whine!

Do you know what the first thing I thought when I read your post? I thought "again?". You recently started ANOTHER thread where you said that you just lost a friend because of your gossiping. And now you STILL want to run stick your nose in somebody else's business? Good God, didn't you learn anything from last time? I don't know why you keep meddling in your neighbors' business but it's not going to make you any friends - nobody likes a meddler.

I can't BELIEVE that you were thinking of telling somebody you USED TO KNOW that you researched him and found what he did eight years ago and you just want him to know it's on the Net for everybody to see! Do you know how bad that's going to sound to him and his wife?

Let it go. It was eight years ago - what's he supposed to do about it now? He can't change the past and it's going to make his wife ask why you're searching for information about HER husband! I don't know why another woman's husband's sex life upsets you to the point of making you sick to your stomach but I don't think that's something your own husband will want to hear, either.

I'm glad you've got this board to vent to because they saved you from making a big mistake. Dannic was rude about it but if her post stopped you from making that phone call, then she helped you too - whether she meant to or not. LOL.

Opal essentially said the same thing that I did... Just a little nicer...

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Opal...thanks for the advice. You make some good points. ~Lisa

Just an observation, and while I'm quoting you this not directed solely at you Lisa:
The people who have left, namely the two you mentioned, were just as guilty of being hateful (at times), personally attacking others (at times). I want to think those you have left realized that if what they were reading on an anonymous message board was effecting their day to day activities, then they needed to take a step back. In fact, I'm pretty sure that's why Ohhgodd left.
That being said, if you put your private life on a public board, you are going to get all kinds of responses. Some good, some not so good. If you don't want or can't handle negative responses then reconsider posting at all. Or find a nice, safe board that is closed to the public and become a member there.

Personally, I didn't think anything weird about you looking up an acquaintance you haven't seen in years. And I didn't really think your reaction was too over the top. I kind of had the same reaction when a man that H worked with, and we had attended several work related functions w/ this man was arrested for kiddie porn. He didn't mean anything to me (and I certainly didn't have romantic inclinations--he was openly gay)--but to think that I sat across from this man in seminars, at company functions, and he was a perv who enjoyed graphic kiddie porn made me ill.

That being said, I just don't advocate sticking your nose in other's business if at all possible.

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Thanks for your input. Point well taken. I always enjoy what you have to offer, even if I don't always agree with it. From the posts that I read, I never thought that Ohhgodd was hateful in any way, shape, or form. Interesting. I can handle negative responses. It's the uneducated, childish, and vicious ones that I can't understand. ~Lisa

Oh, I agree there's rude for the sake of being rude (presuming you have or had romantic inclinations was over the top).

And I think that some that don't appear to be mean/hateful or rude on the surface, aren't like that behind the scenes--a little passive-aggressive.

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I am sorry if you think that me calling you a nosy busy body was rude. I was calling a spade a spade. You looked up someone that you havent seen in years, saw something and assumed it to be the gospel truth. Then you were going to call him and or his family and talk to them about it? Are you FRIGGIN KIDDING ME? IMO that makes you a nosy busy body!!

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LOL! That was fan-flippin'-tastic!

I've never heard that before. Thank you for the very loud guffaw this initiated after a long day of work work work!

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Did you pay for this information? I've looked up a bunch of people and can't find any dirt that I don't have to pay for. I also found numerous errors, so what you read is very possibly not what you get. So give your ex-neighbor, ex-friend, a break and assume it's not him.

I looked up myself and found out I have a doppelganger. I have an extremely unusual last name and there used to be only five of us, that I could find in the U.S, my husband, kids and me and some woman in Minnesota or Michigan, named Margaret. Now, not only is there a woman in Florida with our last name, she has the same first name as me and she is related to the elusive Margaret, who no longer shows up online. So maybe Margaret has died. Or maybe Margaret did a search and found us, and changed her first name to mine. Maybe it's not a doppelganger, but a stalker. A long distance stalker.

How could it be a stalker? I mean, you're the one looking up names so how did she stalk you? I don't get why you think Margaret changed her name to match yours. To steal your identity? What did this person with the same unusual name do to you?

I don't really think that. I was just trying to be silly and lighten the mood in this rather silly thread. Most of all I like the excuse to use the word, "doppelganger."

Hahahaha, wildwood, I got it.

cj/

p.s. I had to look up the word "doppelganger".

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