Does it annoy you when they pass the envelope at work, and you're supposed to contribute every time someone gets sick, has a baby, has surgery, etc? Have you ever passed, or said "can't do it this time"?

Luckily at my places of work, we usually decided ourselves to make our own contribution ie: bring our own private purchases to the person ..unless it was flowers for a death..at which point our work "kitty" paid for it.

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It's a tough thing, I look at it as a kind thing, especially if I had a death myself to know that people do care. Although, I haven't seen it when someone is sick or for surgery. Death, weddings, babies.

I did decline once when it was for the unwed 17 year old daughter of an employee. Her entire pregnancy was pushed down our throats and she didn't even work there !

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Yeah, especially when you work in a large place, like a school. I do what I can when I can. Sometimes its a $10 ...sometimes its $1, depending on the week.

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I've never had it happen. I am self employed now but in the past, I worked at a fortune 500 company and they passed around a card and the company would pay for and send something (an admin would arrange this). Employees weren't out of pocket for anything. I don't donate for this like this unless I am a close friend of the person and even then, I would rather contribute directly (ie: cooking a meal, sending a plant, etc) than a donation envelope

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At the school where I work, we have Hospitality Dues at the beginning of each school year. We have a Hospitality Committee that oversees the money and there is a checking acount set up at a local bank. Certificated teachers pay $35, Classified pay $25 and Activity Supervisors pay $15. The money is used for any marriage, births, deaths, illness, etc., and also a couple of parties a year for the staff. There is a set $$$ amount for each thing. If you wish to buy something in addition, for say, a wedding or baby shower, you may, but it is understood that it is not expected. Any money left at the end of the school year is put towards the end-of-the-year party.

I usually put money in. Sometimes I say "oh, I'd rather do something on my own". It might just be a card, or it might be a book of stamps. It depends on the person/situation.

I have worked on my own for five years so that is something I have not dealt with in a long time. I have never worked at a place that was so big that people asked for too many contributions however it does bug me to be asked they could just put up a box or something and people could put things in if and when they choose to.

We have become a nation of "beggars". It gets to me. I not stingy I just want to choose to whom and for what I give without being prodded into it. I have many times given simply because I was asked in a group and did not want to start anything.

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We had a similar thing and it worked very well. It was nice to just pay at the beginning of the year and not be constantly asked throughout the year for money. It also gave the teacher that was overseeing it a budget to work with.

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I only contribute when my heart is in it.

I would just give what I had/ and or what I felt for that situation. You never know when YOU might be on the receiving end.

My hubby works at Home Depot as a manager and they hit him up for everything . . . and I mean everything . . . we have no money . .

They alway fundraise for the employee fund for BBQ's and stuff.
Then someone has a baby, wedding, fundraiser, baseball team, etc . . .
Then Home Depot adopted a family in crisis and more $$.
And now . . . today . . . hubby calls me after the fact to tell me that he gave $300 to an employee because he is a really hard worker, a great guy and he couldn't pay his sons dental bill so my hubby just gave him the money . . .

Now get this . . . . My haven't taken my special needs son to the dentist ever and he is 8 years old, yet I am paying $300 for this other kids dental appt. . . . I feel like the worst mom ever . . . I haven't taken my speical needs/autistic son to the dentist because I don't think we could afford it . . . It is $300--$400 for sedation from the dentist and insurance does not pay for it . . .

I guess hubby is just a giving guy . . . and I'm a . . .

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Wow, this would cause some major, major problems in my household. Why in the world would your DH put this other child's welfare ahead of his own child

Dont worry.. your Hubby did a great thing and what goes around comes around. Expect something great!


When I worked for a Dr's office years ago.. we were expected to always give. There were different income levels throughout the office. I was at the bottom of the totem pole being in my early 20's newly married and just starting out. Where as a nurse in the office could easily fork over a $50 or $100 bill without blinking!
If we didnt contribute to the United way or any of their gift games etc there was an "outcasting" that would happen. When I was hired..the girl who I worked with told me first thing about that! It was horrible.. all those years and the money I doled out that was forced and not from the heart!

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