I received a graduation announcement today from someone I barely know. In fact when I showed it to DH he goes, "I don't know this person". It's the kid who lives across the street from us. (He has a different last name than his parents - from a previous marriage).

We've lived here 2 years and have never spoken to him. We/he always wave to each other, but we've never spoken to him. DH & I have spoken to his mother a few times and his dad a couple of times. Thy're very nice, we're just different personalities from them and have never become close friends.

We also received a separate invitation to his open house (which we won't be attending - it's over Memorial Weekend and we'll be out of town.)

Should I send a card? A check? How much? I have a niece & nephew graduating as well, so I wouldn't sent a check for the same amount I'm giving them...I feel kind of awkward over it.

Oh and they put their house on the market last week. They're moving to another state next month (heard from a different neighbor).

I'm torn...

Lisa

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I would send a card.

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I'd send a card too.

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I would send nothing more than a card too. There's no way to know for sure if they were "hinting" for a money gift, but it would be really tacky if they were. Heck, if you actually KNEW them, you might already know that! LOL!

I think a card would be nice to wish the young man well.

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I agree. Just send a nice card.

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They probably invited all the neighbors and did not want you to feel left out. A nice card is fine maybe with a pen?

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I would just ignore it. If you send a card, the kid would open the envie, turn the card upside down, and when the cash does not fall out, throw it to the wayside. I know that sounds harsh, but that is probably the reality given from whom you were sent the card.

I agree. I think it was a nice thing for the neighbor to do. Send a card and don't worry about it.

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I'm sure its more of a "lets let all the neighbors know - including that nice couple who moved here 2 years ago and waves hello to us"... Send him a nice card - if you're feeling generous go down to Best Buy and get him a $5-10 GC for music downloads - or an Amazon.com GC in the same quantity for dowloads etc. Just about every kid downloads music and it doesn't take a big GC to equal 5-10 songs or so worth.

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I would send a card and probably put in a $5-$10 iTunes GC (which you can buy anywhere).

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I really think it was a nice gesture, and many of the neighbors also received one. Is it possible that maybe they have no family in town, and they want a little celebration for their graduating senior? We have no family in town, and I am going to feel kind of bad for my daughter when she is graduating, as we will not have a whole bunch of people to invite.

Since you barely know him, don't feel bad about a gift. I doubt they're expecting it, but a $5 Itune gc would be appreciated if you do decide to give something.

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I agree...I think this would be nice. ~Lisa

I totally agree with a card and small 5-10 i tunes all the kids love those cards.. Sometimes small gestures go a long way... Peace. Catherine

We have no family anywhere close by. When my daughter graduated last June, we rented an ocean front beach house and invited everyone we knew and all the neighbors. My mom had recently died, and I just wanted my daughter (who was very close to my mother) to have a huge celebration. I think I needed it too, at the time. I hope no one we invited thought we were seeking gifts/money. I never thought about it like that. Maybe your neighbors were like us, and just wanted a celebration. I agree - I'd send a card if you can't go to the open house.

No, they have lots of family in town (and are very well off, I might add).

I think I like the iTunes GC in a graduation card. Both my dds love those things in any amount. I knew you guys would come up with a great idea! Thanks for all the input!

Lisa

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