Well my daughter showed me a beautiful invitation (like a wedding) for a graduation Party at a fairly expensive restaurant with a RSVP card. They are charging $35.00 to attend this girls grad party. I'm sorry but I find this tacky to have a party and charge. What do you think? I am not used to this but maybe it's more common than I know. I just feel have a more casual affair in your backyard that you can afford.

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I'm with you on this one. Tacky tacky tacky! If you can't afford to foot the bill then either don't have the party or scale it down so that you can afford it. Backyard BBQ is the way to go for a graduation party anyway, IMHO!

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Very Tacky!!!!

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Beyond Tacky! Do a big house party or bbq...it's NOT a wedding so treat it like it is. Even then, you don't CHARGE people that attend your wedding. I've never heard of anyone I know doing something like this but around here, it's big bbq's or everyone brings a dish to share sort of thing

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Tacky with a capital T. I certainly wouldn't go.

Tacky. If you can't afford it have a potluck. But that is plain tacky.

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I feel sorry for the girl because her parent has no clue this is tacky. Just how many do you think will show up for a dinner party that you have to pay for? That's when I really feel sorry for the girl. ( I'm guessing this is a girl; could be a boy though)

Yep. . I think that's pretty tacky. Just like everyone else has already said, scale it down and have a party you can afford. I hope they aren't banking on a certain number of guests. . .it will be even worse if not too many people show up and they have to pay for a minimum number anyway.

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I agree with everyone else, this is tacky.

I've never heard of it either. I think it's very tacky as well.

Lisa

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This is new to me too!

Is this $35 a person??

Many people are having money problems and couldn't afford to spend $35 and then have to buy a gift for her too.
They should have a party they can afford and pay for it their self.

OMG, is this a joke? I would be looking for the MTV cameras or something.....the next reality show...."My Big Tacky Grad Party"!!!


Sorry, I think I am busy that weekend. And any other weekend I am invited to a grad party with a cover charge.

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Oh, is it time again to discuss the lowlifes who expect guests to pay to attend their parties?

When does the Crayola/ RoseArt debate cycle around? LOL.

Yes per person but if you would like it says you are allowed 2 guest. I am not sure though if they pay 35.00 each as well. Sounds like a fundraiser. I am mad because my daughter wants to go and I just am really having a difficult time with this whole situation .

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Exactly. There are people who don't spend $35 for a wedding gift, much less $35 to attend a GRADUATION party and then have to buy a gift????

Really tacky. I would love for the OP to come back after the party and let us know what the turnout was

That is pretty tacky; however, if your daughter really wants to go, I would pay the $35 and bring a homemade card as a gift saying, Your Present is my Presence. There ya' go.

LOL, linny.

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I have never heard of being asked to pay for attending a grad party, wedding, retirement party or funeral...or anything for that matter. Just like mentioned above, when I graduated, we had a huge party at our house. My mom and grandmother made most of the food and close family members made other things to eat as well. Everyone else came to celebrate getting through high school...isn't that what it's about?!?

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$35 per person??? Yes I think its very tacky, have ham sandwiches & go to the park much cheaper!!!

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Yes, I think this is way over the top. Please clarify, everyone attending, including family and friends, pay $35 each?

I think a better idea is for a group of friends getting together and having a party together; for all of them. If they choose to rent out a clubhouse or just have it at a friend's house, they split the cost, but the party is for all of them. Also, when a fellow graduate shows up at a party, are they required to bring a gift even though it's really a celebration for all of them?

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I would tell her if she wants to go then she needs to pay half. That way you can tell if she really wants to go. When I do this to my kids, sometimes they decide that they really didn't want it that much. I think you are right about it sounding like a funraiser.

Maybe they are treating it like the prom??? Not just necessarily this girls party?? The parents are taking on the burden of putting it together for whomever would like to celebrate their graduation??? What exactly does the invite say???

It does seem odd, I must say.

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Incredibly tacky...and how did they come up with the figure of $35 I wonder...lol.

Once dd was invited to a friend's birthday dinner, the girl was turning 15 or 16 and it was at a chain restaurant nearby, Applebee's or somewhere like that...invitations said 'soft drinks and dessert are provided! but be sure to bring $ for your own meal' I thought that was tacky but charging admission is worse, lol.

Maybe you should call the parents and ask if you "understand" the invitation correctly. Maybe they will explain what the heck they are thinking.

Come on, you got to keep up! The Crayole/Rose Art argument is typically at the first part of school (August into September)!

And yes, asking someone to pay to attend a graduation party is tacky and trashy.

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I think that it's very tacky to ask a guest to pay to attend a party. It sounds like the host is overextending themselves. If they can't afford to pay for it, then have something they can afford, or don't have a party at all. Just when I think I've heard everything... ~Lisa